Survivors World – The narcissist you love 04/16 by Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery | Self Help Podcasts

Survivors World – The narcissist you love 04/16 by Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery | Self Help Podcasts.

Survivors are you ready for a fabulous discussion tonight on our broadcast of Survivors World???
Tonight a special discussion with co-host & guest Faith McDaniel as we look into the insane world of living with a Narcissist. You love them but they do not even acknowledge you have feeling or care about your suffering. You love them but they do not see what emotional pain they cause when their focus is the ‘ALL ABOUT ME’ attitude. How does this effect the children in the home? How does it impact your relationship with them? What sacrifices do you make to live in a marriage or relationship with ‘The Narcissist You Love’? 

Passing the Torch of Freedom

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Tonight I have the very special honor to speak for the Candle Light Vigil during the event for Restoring the Balance of Justice; held & coordinated by Rescue & Restore of Southwestern Illinois & Hoyleton Ministries. This event made possible by a grant for National Crime Victims Rights Week 2014 and the amazing work of Miss Kristen Eng.

Dear Friends,

Most of my life I lived as a VICTIM, never once realizing I had any RIGHTS to change what was happening or seek safety through some form of resource or justice. Actually when I think back on all that encompassed my life and the many different types of crime I was trained to tolerate, it makes me wonder today the ‘WHAT IF’ there would have been just one day that I believed I could take back control and reach out for help?

I was a VICTIM at five years old when my stepfather first attacked me with vicious sexual abuse.

I was a VICTIM at nine years old when my mother began training me as the family slave in forced child labor.

I was a VICTIM at eleven years old when my stepfather began trading me out in child sex trafficking.

I was a VICTIM at twelve years old when my mother refused any form of basic human necessities and the child neglect of all medical care left me scarred from head to toe; inside and out.

I was a VICTIM at fifteen years old in a life that was filled with brutal physical abuse day in and day out, which was witnessed by family friends, neighbors, school mates, and siblings.

I was a VICTIM at 17 when I left home to live with a man who then began to beat me and I suffered severe injuries by his almost murderous attacks for two years.

I was a VICTIM at 20 years old when I married an emotionally abusive and constantly degrading man who then became father to my three children.

I was a VICTIM at 30 years old when my second husband beat me during his repeated alcoholic rages and left me permanently injured.

I lived as a VICTIM for over 30 years, trained to believe I had NO VOICE, NO FREEDOM, NO RIGHTS TO JUSTICE to change what had happened to me throughout all those years filled with pain, terror, sadness, isolation, and silence.

Tonight as I stand up here and we light our candles, I pray all of you who have been touched by some form of violent crime can feel the power of freedom with me. There is a huge swing in our pendulum of justice today. A new generation is taking charge and we are creating awareness, resources of help, support in our recovery, and the ability to claim our VICTIMS RIGHTS through our system of justice.

No longer can we live in the past and teach our children, our partners, our spouses, neighbors, families, and friends to be silent and to continue tolerating the attacks against our sense of personal safety. When a crime, any type of crime, invades your sense of safety you then are left to feel powerless, without a voice, shame in your vulnerability, and blame by those who abandon you. Tonight this is our time to reclaim our freedom, to take back our power, to allow that sense of power to embed itself deep down in your soul that you are able to raise your head up, release yourself from any sense of shame. When you are a VICTIM, this is NOT something you wanted, this is NOT something you did; this is an act that some other person CHOSE to commit AGAINST you.

In the state of Illinois, along with 30 other states in our society today, we are taking back our RIGHT to be aware of the resources available to help us. Taking back our RIGHT to seek justice and have our court system enforce our VICTIMS RIGHTS. We as a human society have a grand opportunity to begin teaching the next generation their true right to be safe, live safe, and respect the HUMAN RIGHTS given to all persons in our nation.

Tonight here among all of those in attendance, the US Attorneys Office, State’s Attorneys Office, FBI Services, Resources for your Victims Rights, Survivors & Victims –tonight with you we claim our freedom and in lighting your torch may it be a source that you take with you always and pass on to those in your family, your neighbors, churches, workplace, and in our daily lives. Tonight we light our torch in memory of those we’ve lost, but also in memory of the power you hold inside to change what generations before us have taught in tolerance and silence, we take back our voice and we pass forward the torch of freedom. Thank you for carrying your torch of a new beginning.

We claim our VICTIMS RIGHTS!!!

Here’s to teaching the pattern of love, life, happiness, and most of all SAFETY to the next generation!!!

©Patricia A McKnight

Author: ‘My Justice’      MyJustice     

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Its a Family Affair with Children’s Author, Julie Federico 03/31 by Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery | Self Help Podcasts

Its a Family Affair with Children’s Author, Julie Federico 03/31 by Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery | Self Help Podcasts.

Tonight’s show, beginning at 9pm eastern time – welcome Award Winning Children’s Author, Author Julie Federico!!! This is a show for all ages & we encourage parents & educators to listen in as we share Julie’s latest works. Its never too early to begin reading to your children and with these vibrantly illustrated and empowering stories, you or your school, will connect with the children and provide them with courage to speak up. Remember a child reporting a violent or abusive crime, either in their home, their school, or in their neighborhoods, carries a lot of power and demands prompt attention. Join us and help teach our children to believe in their own true power. Butterfly Dreams; connecting hearts & holding hands of help around the world. Together we are providing the next generation with a path to secure their happy childhood!! Pass it on and invite friends from your circles. Remember our amazing Butterfly Volunteers & Helpers are always in our chatroom for your commentary or to provide support. Thank you!!!

Actress Tammy Fox gives praise for ‘My Justice’

     

 

My dearest friends, as I have shared with you many times before, there is just no way I can explain how my life has turned around. Just the people I am honored to call dear friends, the survivors & families who have touched my heart with words of support, and the many unexpected voices of those in film documentary, P.R. profession, education & therapy; advocates, organization leaders; all giving ‘My Justice’ outstanding reviews and support.

Here I would like to share the latest from one of these angels who I am honored to call a Warrior Sister & Friend

Actress Tammy Fox – Chicago Illinois  557841_369989493087636_74563328_n

My dear friends,
please say a prayer, send a note of encouragement, or whatever you have in you, to my dear friend Patricia A. Mcknight. If you have not heard/read her true story of struggling with being in a very, very bad situation, please do so. My Justice is a hard story to read, but it’s non-fiction and shows the strength and courage Patricia has to share her story in order to help others. Unfortunately, Patricia’s story is not the only one, she’s just the one I know who has come forward, not an easy thing to do at all.

The book, Soul Parole: Making Peace with My Mind, God and Myself, by
Tommy Connolly is a very good example of what true courage is about. If you read that story about drugs, addiction and beating the odds, you will feel the connection to My Justice by Patricia as well.

Patricia, like many of us, goes through struggles. The physical scares of her abuse are still showing, and she is trying to repair them, however it is the inner scares which are hardest to repair.

Again, please show your kindness and love to her. She’s an amazing woman.
Thank you, sincerely.

 A personal message:  I have read your book/story, from cover to cover and I must say, honestly, you are the bravest person I have ever known. It’s one thing to be brave on the streets as an officer, it’s quite another to be brave sharing the deepest parts of our soul and the feelings that come with being abused.

Today as many know I am Owner/CEO of Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery & Talk Radio Programming

If you or someone you know is having difficulty or is suffering in the destruction of these types of family violences & abuses, please visit http://www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery.com or listen to our shows at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/butterflydreamstalkradio

 

 

 

A simple spark to brighten your spirit ~~ enjoy always

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Hopefully you woke with a spark in your spirit that something you are focused on will indeed come through. We all need something to keep us going and inspire the drive to create something better for ourselves. What if we carried just a small consideration of that same drive to keep those around us safe from harm, all forms of harm. Not to shelter them from knowing the REAL world and pitfalls that trap us, but to keep them personally safe. It is one thing to experience a life skill, but being beaten or controlled, trapped & used as an object – this is not a harm which any living being should have to endure. We don’t allow it for our pets, our farm animals, so why in the world do we turn away when it is a child in our family circle? No more friends. You can choose to be a Family Defender, allow that bright new spark to guide you through. May you always know happiness everyday <3

Help is always there!! If you have been harmed sexually or physically, please reach out and give yourself a chance to LIVE SAFE.

You are not trapped, there are resources to help you rebuild, recover, develop the skills you need to truly survive. Give those who need us a hand to help them through. Thank you ~~ Always believe anything is possible with you in the active equation ~~ trish

Survivors World – National Crime Victims Week 2014 03/26 by Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery | Self Help Podcasts

Survivors World – National Crime Victims Week 2014 03/26 by Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery | Self Help Podcasts.

Tonight Survivors World is calling out to ALL VICTIMS of ALL TYPES OF CRIME!! When you have been robbed, suffered through Identity Theft or some other form of personally violating or threatening crime you and your family are still effected by the fear & trauma you are trying to cope through. It’s a huge pleasure to welcome a personal friend & a strong advocate resource helping reduce all forms of Human Trafficking and build awareness through their recent grant award for the National Crime Victims Week 2014. Butterfly Dreams is hoping to encourage others to be aware of how ALL types of crime leave an ongoing ripple effect until the trauma is healed. Let’s hear your story and how a crime has changed your life.

Kristen Eng of Rescue & Restore of Southwestern Illinois is joining me here tonight to share about the upcoming event to honor all victims. Restoring the Balance of Justice Glow-Run 5K, Vigil & Resources Fair. I love bringing local resources of support and help to share here in my area. Also, I will be speaking to help kick off the event on April 11th, so come on out if you can.

Get ready for a terrific broadcast and we hope you pass this on to your circles. I believe next month is a time to rise everyone. We are the generation with a grand opportunity to truly make a difference with all the courage we have built in our mission thus far. We are the Generation No More and this is a broadcast outreach program of Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery & Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio. Thank you.

Restoring the Balance of Justice Run 5K

Restoring the Balance of Justice Run 5K.

Friends it is an honor and incredibly exciting to share – This upcoming National Crime Victims Week Event by Hoyleton Ministries and Rescue & Restore of Southwestern Illinois. I have the huge pleasure to speak to help kick off the VIGIL & 5K RUN. Be there and give voice for all VICTIMS OF CRIME. Through support & resources we can Restore the Balance of Justice!!

Alienation : The Lost Childhood!

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Parental Alienation is without a doubt child abuse & destructive up through adulthood. If there is not a true healing process the connection between that parent & their child will be difficult at best throughout the child’s life. If one parent is a truly violent person AGAINST THE CHILD, then you have cause. However, your in ability to get along or your dislike, your revenge against the other parent or using your children as pawns in the greatest chess game, this is the destruction of their DNA who they were intended to become!!!

Originally posted on World4Justice : NOW! Lobby Forum.:

To stop a Loving parent spending their child’s time with them is child abuse and the cherished time of childhood can never be recovered later!

OUTLAW PARENTAL ALIENATION NOW!

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Sexual and Emotional Abuse Scar the Brain in Specific Ways

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In both emotional and sexual abuse, a decrease in connectivity of regions that are overwhelmed by maltreatment may be interpreted as a self-protective response. But it can ultimately prove harmful because it interferes with subsequent healthy sensation and experience.

The changes seen were not small: Pruessner says if a region typically was 5 mm. thick on average, in abuse survivors it was just 3 mm. to 4 mm. “The effect size was quite significant,” he adds.

Originally posted on Health & Family:

Childhood emotional and sexual abuse mark women’s brains in distinct patterns — with emotional abuse affecting regions involved in self-awareness and sexual abuse affecting areas involved in genital sensation, according to new research. The study links specific types of abuse with symptoms experienced by many survivors later in life.

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The perception of personal value I passed into my children’s lives

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My only perceived value was in my sexuality as an object, not as a person. Needless to say, seeing my value only through my being wanted by a man flowed into my adult relationships and my example as a mother. The broken spirit of ugliness, overweight teen with scarred disfigured skin from not bathing; black broken fangs for teeth from never given the human kindness and decency for proper hygiene; the teen I was with all my distorted perceptions felt grateful for any man wanting to be with me or choosing me as their wife.
“I was well trained to be submissive; accepting their degradation, control, beatings and almost murderous actions because I was nothing without them.”

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