Hats off to Cathy Fox for another excellent article, well done my friend. Indeed pedophiles and those who wish to say there is no damage done to children during sexual abuse, are simply defending the adults power over children and manipulation to take away their innocence. Kudos for your ongoing work!!
Originally posted on spotlight:
But the truth was much darker. The majority of the children had been sexually abused and many were subsequently made to return to the homes they were abused in. The Department of Health “actively withheld and concealed” evidence from an independent panel which showed that 93 of the 121 Cleveland children had been found by the courts to be at risk of abuse. In 1989, the Department of Health destroyed all records relating to the children. Within two years of the original controversy, many of the children had been re-referred to social services.
Frank Cook, Labour MP for Stockton on Tees, said: “I’m astonished and dumbfounded. Had we known what I have…
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Missing Persons & Stealthfind w/ Kelly & Julia -Learning is a Family Affair 03/03 by Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery | Self Help Podcasts
Tonight on our very special March broadcast kickoff, welcome Kelly Townsend & Julia D’Alfanzo, This team is phenomenal and their magnificent rescues have been a ‘FEATURE’ on DISCOVERY ID CHANNEL’s, ‘Last Seen Alive’. Missing Persons & Human Trafficking Rescuers, Arizona Private Investigator team and Board Members of National Domestic Violence Registry & Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery. They search and rescue, actual boots on ground recovery missions, for those who are reported missing or trapped in human trafficking circles. We are honored to have them join us tonight, and please reach out to them @ http://www.stealthfind.com if you would like them to review your MISSING PERSONS CASE. You can also connect with them at Tracker Suspicions here on Facebook!!!
Show starts at 9pm eastern/ 8pm central/ 7pm mountain/ 6pm pacific time and we will be taking your live calls for Kelly & Julia at 347-215-7754. Let’s hear how each of us can play a role in helping to find the missing, protecting our kids from Human Trafficking, and the real truth of how intense these ongoing cases can become. Hope you invite your teens, friends, neighbors, & local resources to listen in to our programming. We are Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio and together we are connecting hearts & holding hands to give our children a safer world tomorrow!! Thanks always, trish
What I’ve learned about these horrible little bugging annoyances.
Here is a list of definitions:
1: a piece (as a lever) connected with a catch or detent as a means of releasing it
2: something that acts like a mechanical trigger in initiating a process or reaction
A factor that initiates and aggravates a behaviour or response.
D, trekker, that which pulls
a substance, object, or agent that initiates or stimulates an action.
For ‘Survivors of Trauma’ triggers are any combination of person, place, thing or action, which sets off a remembered emotion or fear. These for are instinctive reactions engrained in our system from the attack/traumatic situation that caused the original emotion.
Just like we have remembered happy moments, which set off laughter or tenderness; compassion, we can also have negative and fearful moments. In fact; as my therapist shared with me, if the trauma is severely impacting our body will lean more toward a negative memory before a happy memory because the negative emotions are much stronger. We have to challenge ourselves in working through our triggers and this is first understanding what they are and how they work. Know that a trigger will lose its initial power and we can relax rather than instantly respond; we can learn to control our reactions just like we do with anything else in life.
Some of these triggers however terrorize us to the extreme and a person may take years to finally be able to work it through; some may never end. Sadly it all depends on the person themselves; what they can tolerate, how badly they were traumatized, what specifically was done, if it was a repeated trauma, then how often did it occur and how long did it last overall? All of these go into play when we are learning to deal with these instinctive reactions, the emotions suddenly felt and the memories which take over our thoughts.
Society doesn’t know that you are sensitive to loud noises, or that you get sick when you get around the smell of a certain cologne. Even our family & friends would rather hear how you get turned on by a certain cologne or giggle when you jump time and again from being startled. We have to be able to cope in society’s rules. Not everyone will be sensitive to our responses, which means we have to take away its power and control our reactions & actions. Not in the sense of pretending; rather in a sense of connecting with the split second memory but not being horrified by it. You wouldn’t be exactly functioning in society’s ‘normal’ acceptance of these rules if you didn’t suffer some form of emotional trauma from the violence or sexual actions against you.
(We wouldn’t blame a soldier for being in a public place, then suddenly freaking out from a remembered fear. However we would say; he needs to stay home and work through this, or careful of his reactions. We warn others about their responses, be it for their sake or ours.)
Living in society is a lot different than sitting in our homes with our family. To LIVE in society means to work, run errands or be out in public in some form. It can get pretty crazy just being in isolation day after day, so living in your life is crucial to a sense of happiness.
Taking back your power can be achieved by first recognizing there is a ‘trigger’ and what is our initial response when we are suddenly right in the midst of a trigger. It can sometimes take a few seconds before we realize it is setting us off at all. Many times if the trauma itself was a way of life for you it became a trained behavior so the initial traumatic response may not be as intense, but it may grow in momentum, taking over our thoughts and setting off a series of tensions & fears.
Recognize the trigger as a trauma induced memory or reaction. When we look at it logically rather than emotionally (even if at first it is emotional, step back for a second and regroup), then as we learn to recognize this in connection to a serious perception of fear, then we can begin working through each reaction or memory of that specific trauma. This can be done on your own through simple daily tasks, however if you are having difficulty you may want to search out a support group or a therapist.
(Keep in mind it is a process, it takes work and it won’t just happen without you being an active participant. You can choose to work through it or bury it some more until there may not be any other choice but to work through it all, depending again on the sense of fear. It is all a very personal and painful journey)
There are many terrific online resources to guide you through some daily healing steps. You will find our homepage has some great steps which I personally use still to this day. Understand that some of the healing can seriously become a new learned way of life. Meaning that we completely change our living behaviors and learn to re-do something without the trauma being a part of that specific behavior, such as some of the things I’ve shared below.
We can’t work through the emotions if we do not re-visit the trauma itself. As we work through the imposed fear, we become stronger & the trigger loses its power. I don’t jump as often any more when people come up behind me. I don’t duck every time I hear a loud noise. I don’t get disgusted by doing dishes or standing at the vanity to brush my teeth. These are just some of the triggers that have lost their power and I am not afraid to see how my original dysfunctional perceptions of those simple things were adjusted by the constant ongoing threat.
True healing, changing the impact the trauma has on our life, is all connected and it works through the same mental path as our military veterans learning to work through their Post Traumatic Stress or other form of trauma related response. They relive the battle field – as does each and every healing survivor! We can only go so long in pretending it didn’t happen and ignoring the impact it had on our life in that moment.
Love, strength, and courage for your ongoing challenge to heal <3>
May you begin your positive change and gain those more positive moments in your special journey.
Thanks for reading & be well
Its a Family Affair -Secondary Wounding of PTSD and Family Violence 02/24 by Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery | Self Help Podcasts
Tonight my friends we welcome two special guests on ‘Its a Family Affair’ on Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio. You and your family are invited to join in our conversation as we discuss Secondary Wounding of Family Violence and the ‘Prisoner of War’ focus on the victims who endures in silence without a weapon everyday, especially our children who don’t even have the right to say ‘No’.
Conversation starts at 9pm eastern time, let’s get our thoughts and conversation points going on this link, or set your REMINDER here and join in with us live tonight. Call in at 347-215-7754 or connect with our awesome Butterfly Helpers in the chatroom. There is a change in the views of these actions and it is all of those who have survived to tell their story who are the greatest teachers we will ever have. Believe in the studies and the truth of how these types of tolerated acts have been endured with enforced silence, but today you are the key to that change. We can empower as we teach our children a better way, no longer do we have to suffer in silence or endure the pain day after day. There is hope & help!! Chat with everyone later. How has violence impacted your life or your children’s perception of safe behaviors today?
Land of the Free: where the government can kidnap your child and lock her in a psych ward for a year
This is an outright look into some of our nation’s law enforcing CPS, not all are working in a very backwards process but most certainly there are many who are. I realize we have very few case workers throughout our country, at least compared to the number of REPORTED CASES (specificially 33,000 workers vs. 3.7 Million Reports in 2011) of course this is just what we have on file. Many times it is up to that specific call taker who receives the report whether or not help will be provided at all. There is a lot of reforming we need to do in this country and reforming our family protective courts system is a big part of that entire measure. You’ll find this blog filled with some powerful information about our CPS and children stolen or intervened for medical reasons. Definitely a blogger with an open opinion and I believe I like the way he is addressing this issue. These are discussed cases where no crime at all has been charged against the parent, the children were taken for what was determined to be parenting decisions about medical care, what one doctor suggests compared to another, then compared to the states opinion. Check it out I’m sure you’ll have an opinion, I do; while you’re checking out this blog on the survivorsjustice blog, also take a moment to check out the state by state comparison of child maltreatment reports across every state. Sometimes there can be a underlying reason for the intervention, we must consider what we see reflected in the children themselves. Talk with them and allow them a voice to decide whether or not they are actually being harmed. How about if we focus on what is best for the kids, rather that our job security and family court income gained through these ongoing injustices. just sayin all, give a kid a voice!!
Originally posted on The Matt Walsh Blog:
Are you imagining this? Have you put yourself in this situation in your head?
Now, what do you do? How do you react?
I can tell you my answer: with brutality. I’d fight this man, wouldn’t you? If I had a knife I’d stab him in the heart. If I had a gun nearby I’d put a bullet in his head. I’d kill him. I’d end his life without hesitation or remorse. This man is…
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Survivors World – Understanding YOUR Trauma 02/19 by Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery | Self Help Podcasts
Hi ya Bookie Darlins Are you ready for Survivors World tonight on Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio. Join in w/ Trish & special co-host tonight, returning for a continuing chat from Monday’s discussion concerning the heavy prescription dosage of #Psychotropic #Medications. Tonight we are discussing the functions of your wounding from trauma. There is a Five Step suggested process on our homepage, please learn to understand the impact of your wounding. How is your emotional and responsive wiring been jolted and sometimes impossible to manage. If you’d like to join in we are broadcasting live at 9pm eastern tonight. You’re invited to call us at 347-215-7754 or connect with Support Butterflies in our chatroom. Breathe and know it will be alright <3
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE LIKE THIS, IT IS POSSIBLE TO SEEK & RECEIVE HELP, PLEASE RESCUE YOU TODAY!!
Have you taken a look at Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery lately, there is a full page write up of reviews, statements and work since deciding to be an advocate against violence and abuse, hope you give it a look, get your copy of ‘My Justice’ and then pass it all on to a friend. Sharing information to aide in the recovery, rebuilding, and understanding process of the horrors which most commonly occur right in our very own homes.