Child Abuse – Speak Out

NEED YOUR COURAGE
SPEAK OUT AGAINST
CHILD ABUSE
Dear World:
Inside, in secret, we all support the efforts against Child Abuse.  However; it seems as though no one wants to be the big star who speaks out publicly against this tragedy.  Every day we see commercials to end abuse against animals, which I also highly support.We also see the commercials about helping to feed & educate the children in other countries; also another cause I agree with. In our America, the land of free speech, it appears that to speak out against Child Abuse is something we are all afraid to publicly support. Even I used to be afraid to speak about the crimes committed against me and go against the people who committed them. 
Each and everyday there is one of three children who will be abused in some form. It may be a beating, sexual assault or neglect. These children have to face their abusers each day. They have to learn how to function at school without speaking against their abuser. Each evening they worry if they will be attacked again. At night they don’t get to lie safely in bed for a good nights sleep after having dinner, a bath, and doing homework like many of their classmates. These children have worry constantly!!!! There is never a peaceful moment of childhood happiness in their hearts. They may be the child that is responsible for helping take care of their siblings and maybe even their abuser. They do not get time for homework or when they do they can’t really concentrate on doing it properly. They don’t have kindness around them or encouragement to move forward and make the best of who they can be in this world. Instead, they are taught to believe that they are worth nothing. Trained to believe that they deserve nothing good in their lives; that they don’t even deserve love!!! Is this really how we want our next generation to grow in this world.
Children are a very special gift. They deserve all of our support, all of our love, all of our guidance. It’s hard in our busy lives to dedicate time to spend with our children, but all it really takes is just an ounce of effort each day. My children did not have a perfect life, but they did know that they would have dinner as a family together each night. That we could discuss what they did each day at school or just a simple chat over how their day was. They knew most of all that they were loved, even with the divorce of their parents. It wasn’t perfect and yes they still had some issues as they grew, but the most important was they knew they could depend on their parents to protect them, love them and try to guide them through with the best of our ability. It’s my opinion that those few little constants in the lives of our children will make a big difference. None of us are perfect, but in the eyes of our children we don’t have to be. All they really need from us are the basics of life which we all deserve and need.
My life was destroyed by the severe child abuse I survived. It left scars that ate away at me for most of my life; in fact, there are a lot of those scars that I still deal with each day. My mother’s severe neglect left me physically rotting away while a skin infection from not bathing ate deep holes in my skin that covered most of the area on my arms and legs. She also denied me any medical or dental care, but we had excellent insurance through the mine workers union. There was never any care for my physical hygiene or a few simple lessons on how to take care of myself. She never supplied a toothbrush for me or took me to see a dentist, even though by the time I was 15 I had black holes covering what should have been my incisor teeth and my back teeth were literally breaking off in my mouth as I chewed.
My stepfather controlled every moment of my life for twelve years, until I finally left home at seventeen. He viciously attacked me sexually and physically; he also loved to see the fear in my eyes at the threat of his continuous attacks. He chose to use a little girl as his personal whore and trained her to believe that all of the acts he committed against her were her crimes and would never be forgiven by anyone, not even the Lord above. His abuse not only scarred me emotionally, but has also sparked a forever fear in me that my death would some how be punished for what I did in my childhood. This was from a man that was studying to be a minister before he met my mother. His threats invaded not only this life, but have also triggered fears in what would be my afterlife as well.
Through the link I’ve provided here, you will find a YOUTUBE video that I’ve created>>>> http://t.co/i3L6Jtu . Yes, much like me and my nature, it is imperfect; but so deeply sincere. In this short eight minute video you will see the physical scars left on me by the neglectful abuse of my mother. You will hear me discuss the emotional scars of the physical and sexual trauma, also you will hear how they passed forward to invade my children’s lives. You will  hear me discuss a cause of awareness that has been created. There are many causes out there, but I believe that STOP WHISPERING goes directly to the very important issues of the forced silence of these crimes. If everyone would simply adjust their mode of thinking; these crimes are AGAINST our children, NOT COMMITTED BY THEM. Society leaves the survivors of these crimes to feel ashamed instead of feeling strong about who they are and what they had the courage to survive!!! Children’s minds are so inspiring, their trust and belief that we will care for them and love them is the statement of true unconditional love, but what is most amazing is their courage to survive these crimes and carry those secrets around with them forever. Always we make them feel that it is not proper for them to discuss these issues, unless it is in private with a therapist.
Out of all of the wonderful public figures we have in our society and all the praise that we give each of them; are there no voices out there that want to stand proudly and speak out publicly to help bring awareness to the horrific nature and scars of these crimes?  How do we find that public figure? How do we gain their attention and get their voice? Is it something that we must pay for? Isn’t this subject serious enough that we can influence at least one of those great, amazing stars or public figures to join with the voices of the victims and survivors of these crimes?
I AM ASKING EVERYONEGO TO >>>CAUSES.COM/STOP WHISPERINGhttp://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Ft.co%2F3oyY01t&h=cAQAGZikj  >> simply click the link and join with our voices to help change our children’s future. It is really up to us as parents and grandparents to protect the lives of our children. It is up to the survivors to speak publicly about the crimes they survived and for society to stop shaming us and instead place that disgust and blame on the heads of the predators and abusers who haunt our children.
If anyone would like to contact me, please direct an email to: trish.mcknight@live.com, if you are on Twitter my user ID is triciagirl62 or you can find me on Facebook at triciagirl62@facebook.com . If you would like to find out more about me or my horrifying story, it has now been published in the novel “My Justice”. You can find this novel on the following sites, authorhouse.com / amazon.com / bn.com / google books. Thank you for lending me your time. I know how busy life can be but spend time and talk with your children about the issues of abuse, in school and at home. Teach them that they have a voice and that they are strong; they can speak against ANYONE who may be hurting them or touching them in ways they shouldn’t.
It’s time to speak out for our children world, PLEASE HELP ME DO THIS!!!!
Sincerely wishing for all of your moments to be safe and happy. You never truly know the importance of safety in our lives until you no longer have that control. When you lay your head down in FEAR each night instead of peaceful, happy, comfort; then you know what survival is all about. For the survivors of abuse, I say to you: “If we carry the secrets of our abuse, then we also carry that shame.” Please gain your courage and speak out to protect the children of our future. Everyone must be aware of the children around them, in their neighborhood; be watchful and protect them. Don’t allow abuse to go unnoticed, unreported!!
Thank you,
Tricia McKnight
Author: “My Justice”

Published by @ButterflyTrish

I am a survivor of over thirty years trapped inside the silence and brutality of Family Crimes, Child Sex Trafficking, and a life lived pattern of tolerance for over 30 years in almost murderous relationships. In Feb. 2011 I chose to publish the truth about what happened in our home, the community around me, and the learned patterns of self-hatred and tolerance which became such a huge factor in my life. My life today was built through publishing 'My Justice'. I never would felt worthy of life, breathing, love & respect with first healing myself. There were many things the traits and tragedies that influenced my life seemed to control everything inside me and it was nothing but sadness and fake emotions. Only by facing the horrors I went through, the choices I made as a woman & mother, then relating to the greatest guilt I have; how the trauma behavior has affected my children's lives. It's my hope to help others get through their battles, regardless of the type of trauma because when we hurt our lives are forever changed. This graphic, violent memoir is NOT SUGGESTED FOR ANYONE UNDER 14 years of age. It discusses the permanently wounding life and the cycle of destruction that held me in expecting/tolerating ridicule and violence in my adult relationships. This truth was published to inspire others to take an in-depth look at their life and behaviors as a result of their past. Connect the dots of your rebuilding in understanding the pattern of adult choices in coping addictions, parenting, and partners; even affecting our careers and self-sustainable life. I'm so honored to have 'My Justice' used at the collegiate level for psychology classes, upcoming therapists and educators. Today my life is very blessed. I'm finally safe, finally truly loved, finally feeling the magic of what life is supposed to be like. My greatest power only began to show when I first made the choice to end the violent relationships and behaviors around my children; to give them something better, something SAFE!! In choosing to share my own story, I've also gone that serious extra step to educate myself through years of research, attending training opportunity, and collaborating with other advocate resources, abuse, sexual harm, and the experts digging deep to recreate help and healing. I've chosen to use my past as a way to inspire a greater good; hopefully somehow change the cycle of tragedy in our homes so that we empower our kids to live a more positive path. The best education we can give, is a survivor of traumatic experiences who can use what they felt then and what they wish they would have had available; those who could have and should have said something. We can change things for our life today, but best of all in healing our wounds, we give communities a supportive working strategy in assisting the people in our lives. One step at a time, one caring soul at a time, we can give them a path to changing our human society as a whole. This is a tell all, which was written in the midst of my third nervous breakdown as I struggled to put all my distorted pieces back together, help my children understand how the violence I tolerated against me invaded their emotional well-being. My children have always been my world, but my behaviors, lack of healthy parenting and life skills, and an inability to remain stable has caused another generation of suffering for my grandchildren. This is a very difficult thing to watch and the continued tragedies that seem to keep affecting the choices in my family. Writing this book was only the beginning of trying to release all that has haunted me for so many years. I have finally removed his thick, cruel, coal stained hand which trapped me in fear for decades. Those hands and his evil, her housemaid and caregiver; they created a slave and that slave submitted to horrific and brutal attacks but always felt it was her burden to bare. I lived with that hand holding me down to terrorize and steal away my voice, holding me captive in the dysfunction of the aftermath and casting a shadow of darkness on everything good in my life. Living in the true spirit of freedom, I have now become a strong advocate against the life cycle of human destruction. We cannot live stuck in the tragedy of hardships and pain. Life is meant to be lived, to be enjoyed, to see what you can do and what you can achieve, to find out what is important to you. We all become adults. We all have a burden to bare. Stand up and keep moving, keep living, keep dreaming. You have two choices in recreating and rebuilding yourself. Do you stay stuck in the dark shadows of your past? Do you dig deep and find that spirit that kept you alive so that you could become the proud, strong, capable, resilient, kind human being ? Which do you choose and how will that choice affect your children and theirs? We can be supportive, provide resources and suggestions for help so that families suffering with addiction or past trauma themselves can find a recovery balance to rebuild their family in a more positive life pattern. We will recover, we will rebuild, we will conquer the pains of yesterday to live in the true sense of life, freedom and safety today. Patricia 'Trish' McKnight Author: 'My Justice' Fndr/CEO: Butterfly Dreams Alliance, NFP Mentor/Advocate/Speaker/Survivor

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