Email to President Obama
Sent – May 03, 2012
Who Will Stand
Dear President Obama:
You don’t know me. I don’t have money; in fact I am on Disability because of an injury from Domestic Violence. I am now a full-time volunteer for Dreamcatchers for Abused Children, based out of Peck, Michigan. However, I live in Breese Illinois and what I do is mostly online.
In March I was appointed as Exec. Director of their blog talk programming. I am also a survivor of 12 yrs. of severe sadistic abuse from my stepfather, complete sacrifice of me by my mother. All medical and dental needs were ignored even though we had excellent health insurance from UMWA, but not so much as a tooth-brush could be provided for the rotting little girl.The neglect of my mother was so extreme that as a skin infection ate away at my arms and legs from not being able to have the safety to bathe in my home, she never cared or provided the medical treatment that was needed to stop it. For a period of 5 years I could not bathe and the infection left me scarred on every inch of skin that covered my arms and legs. I went to school with black rotting teeth, front teeth that were visible. My arms and legs and deep rotting infected sores on them and everyone dodged contact with me.
A community of 1500 people knew who I was and who to contact if I did something wrong. A school system I attended for a repeated 9 years never asked about the silent girl whose skin was literally rotting away. The school mates who attended our many late night parties,were provided with drugs and alcohol, then were asked who would be the first to take me in the back and give me what I deserved, but no one ever offered to care. The police and neighbors who witnessed the girl getting beaten in the street, walking around with multiple bruises, drug by the hair and worse. Still with all of this no one ever said a word or questioned my parents. In Feb. 2011 I published my story, “My Justice”, is out there and I changed the names of the many who abused me throughout 32 years of my life, mainly because it wasn’t about the who but about the what was done.
In this novel I apologized to my children for the way my abuse had flowed into their lives and distorted their world. It meant most to me that if my story could help just one person gain the courage to speak out and heal for themselves rather than continue on the self-destructive path of despair, depression, P.T.S.D. and even dissociation; this makes me happiest. However, I must say that since becoming highly involved with Dreamcatchers I have succeeded many times at helping others heal and speak out,but there is still no direct attention where it needs to be. The laws of child abuse need to be radically changed!! Social Workers need to be made accountable for their actions. There are so many levels of wrong on this very important issue of protecting our most valuable asset, our children. I summed up the courage to send First Lady Obama a copy of “My Justice” along with a three page letter, which begged for her beautiful passion of family to be used to acknowledge the estimated 60 million survivors who, like me, have allowed their lives to be shattered and keep these secrets of horrific trauma, so that their family and work peers would not shame them. It is time, Sir, for the blame and shame to be put on the pedophiles and monsters who harm our children. We need to provide better resources to help children move past the abuse and heal so that they can achieve their dreams and possibly be the next great President of our America. Mr. President, I am not famous; I am not rich to put money into your campaign or into any other organization or political stand. I am a nobody, Sir, just a common citizen of this country trying very hard to devote all she has left to help change the laws and protect our children.
Sir, I know that the politician who makes Child Abuse a campaign issue will have the support of some many millions of citizens. There are so very many who are searching for someone to be vocal and let them know that it is alright, it is safe to talk, it is safe to take this stand. Please Mr. President, perhaps you will talk with your wife and find out if she received the book copy and the letter. You may want to read it yourself, but I warn you it is a true and graphic account of what happened. My former teachers have read it and apologized for letting me slip through the cracks. They said my book was so well written on the subject of being a silent surviving child of horrific torment that it should be used as a guide to teach others. The reviews I am getting from others on the story is the same, from counselors, survivors, advocates.
In closing Mr. President, I beg you to take a stand on this issue. You have stood strong on our economy, our war, our joint communication between the lines of government; YOU SIR ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO DO THIS!!! Please help the many who are buried and tormented by these vicious and heinous crimes. Children are having to live with these monsters, 93% of all abuse is by someone the child loves and trusts. Our children will not speak against their parents and family so teachers and counselors have to be better educated and trained to pick up on the signs of the silently screaming child. Please Mr. President, please help our children, protect them, save them. Thank you and I hope you do get to read this, as I am sure you get many other emails about other issues. We protect our animals, do commercials to help children in other countries; we need to protect our children.
Patricia A. McKnight
Author: “My Justice”