What does standing strong mean?

Author: "My Justice" Stand strong like that single blade of grass which takes all Mother Nature has to give, and through the power of its roots and the entwined support provided; it not only grows – it thrives!!!

 

  “What does standing strong mean”. Everyone has always told me, at least throughout my adult life, “Trish, just be strong and keep moving forward”. I take time to reflect now in my SAFE & LOVED WORLD, what does this mean and how has it built who I am today.

Standing strong means to endure cruelty beyond imagination and come out with a positive loving view of our world on the other side. As I look out at the green life sprouting back after the cold winter days; I was taken to thinking about the very smallest blade of grass. It stands there always, it takes all that mother nature dishes out and still remains standing. It’s very likely that you will never kill it even though it may go dormant for some time; it will return.

The grass is built by its roots. It gets its strength through how determined its roots are to hanging on. At times it has very few supporters around, but also it can be sitting pleasantly among many; standing and waiting to be counted.

The cycle of life begins with that blade of grass. It gives off oxygen for human life. It gives beauty, comfort, and safety to the minute bugs that live within its depth. We, as humans, give back to it the carbon dioxide that it needs to thrive and grow stronger with each day.

The meaning of standing strong is to simply endure, learn, and move forward. We all have a purpose in this world, even if we are not sure of that purpose. We are no less than life for that single blade of grass. Without our exhale it would not exist.

When you find yourself in question of existence, perhaps remember…..

Stand Strong and believe that the storms will pass. They may rock you and even threaten to loosen your ground, but they will pass and you will grow from the moisture they give. Every tear you shed will water your roots and you will grow wiser and more capable. We are survivors, each and every living micro on this planet. Children are the roots of life to come. Just as we plant that grass seed and provide it with water, nourishment and loving care; we must also provide the same to our children. Never allow the dark storms of harm to take them from this cycle of life. They depend on us to protect and support them as they grow. This is much the same as the patches of grass that grow and slowly come together as a huge comfortable blanket to protect the earth and cushion us as we fall. Lay and be energized by the strength in the roots which have created you today!!

You matter 🙂

(c)Patricia A. McKnight

www.butterflydreamsalliance.org

http://www.facebook.com/triciagirl62

blog edited – Mar 2018

Published by @ButterflyTrish

I am a survivor of over thirty years trapped inside the silence and brutality of Family Crimes, Child Sex Trafficking, and a life lived pattern of tolerance for over 30 years in almost murderous relationships. In Feb. 2011 I chose to publish the truth about what happened in our home, the community around me, and the learned patterns of self-hatred and tolerance which became such a huge factor in my life. My life today was built through publishing 'My Justice'. I never would felt worthy of life, breathing, love & respect with first healing myself. There were many things the traits and tragedies that influenced my life seemed to control everything inside me and it was nothing but sadness and fake emotions. Only by facing the horrors I went through, the choices I made as a woman & mother, then relating to the greatest guilt I have; how the trauma behavior has affected my children's lives. It's my hope to help others get through their battles, regardless of the type of trauma because when we hurt our lives are forever changed. This graphic, violent memoir is NOT SUGGESTED FOR ANYONE UNDER 14 years of age. It discusses the permanently wounding life and the cycle of destruction that held me in expecting/tolerating ridicule and violence in my adult relationships. This truth was published to inspire others to take an in-depth look at their life and behaviors as a result of their past. Connect the dots of your rebuilding in understanding the pattern of adult choices in coping addictions, parenting, and partners; even affecting our careers and self-sustainable life. I'm so honored to have 'My Justice' used at the collegiate level for psychology classes, upcoming therapists and educators. Today my life is very blessed. I'm finally safe, finally truly loved, finally feeling the magic of what life is supposed to be like. My greatest power only began to show when I first made the choice to end the violent relationships and behaviors around my children; to give them something better, something SAFE!! In choosing to share my own story, I've also gone that serious extra step to educate myself through years of research, attending training opportunity, and collaborating with other advocate resources, abuse, sexual harm, and the experts digging deep to recreate help and healing. I've chosen to use my past as a way to inspire a greater good; hopefully somehow change the cycle of tragedy in our homes so that we empower our kids to live a more positive path. The best education we can give, is a survivor of traumatic experiences who can use what they felt then and what they wish they would have had available; those who could have and should have said something. We can change things for our life today, but best of all in healing our wounds, we give communities a supportive working strategy in assisting the people in our lives. One step at a time, one caring soul at a time, we can give them a path to changing our human society as a whole. This is a tell all, which was written in the midst of my third nervous breakdown as I struggled to put all my distorted pieces back together, help my children understand how the violence I tolerated against me invaded their emotional well-being. My children have always been my world, but my behaviors, lack of healthy parenting and life skills, and an inability to remain stable has caused another generation of suffering for my grandchildren. This is a very difficult thing to watch and the continued tragedies that seem to keep affecting the choices in my family. Writing this book was only the beginning of trying to release all that has haunted me for so many years. I have finally removed his thick, cruel, coal stained hand which trapped me in fear for decades. Those hands and his evil, her housemaid and caregiver; they created a slave and that slave submitted to horrific and brutal attacks but always felt it was her burden to bare. I lived with that hand holding me down to terrorize and steal away my voice, holding me captive in the dysfunction of the aftermath and casting a shadow of darkness on everything good in my life. Living in the true spirit of freedom, I have now become a strong advocate against the life cycle of human destruction. We cannot live stuck in the tragedy of hardships and pain. Life is meant to be lived, to be enjoyed, to see what you can do and what you can achieve, to find out what is important to you. We all become adults. We all have a burden to bare. Stand up and keep moving, keep living, keep dreaming. You have two choices in recreating and rebuilding yourself. Do you stay stuck in the dark shadows of your past? Do you dig deep and find that spirit that kept you alive so that you could become the proud, strong, capable, resilient, kind human being ? Which do you choose and how will that choice affect your children and theirs? We can be supportive, provide resources and suggestions for help so that families suffering with addiction or past trauma themselves can find a recovery balance to rebuild their family in a more positive life pattern. We will recover, we will rebuild, we will conquer the pains of yesterday to live in the true sense of life, freedom and safety today. Patricia 'Trish' McKnight Author: 'My Justice' Fndr/CEO: Butterfly Dreams Alliance, NFP Mentor/Advocate/Speaker/Survivor

6 thoughts on “What does standing strong mean?

  1. Every time I read your blog or attend one of your Blog Talk Radio programs, I grow in strength and courage and I learn more about compassion for myself and for others. You are a great teacher. The sharing of your story touches my heart in areas that I didn’t know I could touch. Thank you.

  2. Reblogged this on survivorsjustice and commented:
    Pls do not turn away from this blog. I am but one of the estimated 60 million survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. Yes I’ve published my story, but more importantly is that I ask you to PLEASE SUPPORT & LISTEN TO ANY SURVIVOR THAT SHARES THEIR SECRETS!!!

  3. Rudyard Kipling had a good answer to the question “What does standing strong mean?”
    Of course, “If” was written about war, but I’m sure Kipling’s words will resonate with any parent or grandparent suffering PAS.

    BY RUDYARD KIPLING
    If you can keep your head when all about you
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
    If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too;
    If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
    Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
    Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
    And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

    If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
    If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
    And treat those two impostors just the same;
    If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
    Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
    And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

    If you can make one heap of all your winnings
    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
    And lose, and start again at your beginnings
    And never breathe a word about your loss;
    If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,
    And so hold on when there is nothing in you
    Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

    If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
    If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
    If all men count with you, but none too much;
    If you can fill the unforgiving minute
    With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
    Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
    And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

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