August is “Don’t Be A Bully” Month!!!

Talk to your kids about Bullying!!! Parents are your kids being bullied or maybe they are the bully????

August 1st Kicks off  National Month of ” Don’t Be a Bully”!! Our kids will be starting back to school and there is so much to worry about. However I do hope you take a few bits of time here and there to address the subject of Bullying with your kids. It’s my opinion that we cannot just say “Deal With It” any longer to our children. As you have seen shared across the web and I’m sure your local news channels, BULLYING IS A SEVERE & TRAGIC LEVELS!!! It is the epidemic that plaques our children.

We have seen and heard how vicious these attacks of bullying have grown. We have also seen and heard how many of our young children either succeed at committing suicide because of bullying or they have stated a threat of suicide. I’m not talking about just the dramatic teens; I’m talking about children as young as NINE years old. I’ve seen and heard this first hand from my own grandson.

Many times in his third grade year he went to the teacher with a complaint of harassment, teasing, even physical pushing from other classmates. When my daughter tried desperately to get the school active at helping with the worsening situation, she was ignored; even told her son needed to learn how to cope with the teasing of other kids,

“Kids will be Kids”.

How true that  simple statement is, but do we realize just how bad it has gotten? When I was a kid the teasing happened only at school. These days our children can’t get away from the constant torment of others. They are using cyber bullying, texting, phone calls, and even bold enough to video tape themselves to try and get famous on YouTube!! There is a difference between some teasing that all of us have been a part of, but our children are suffering Anxiety attacks just trying to get to school each morning. They dread so badly what the Bully/Bullies might do or say, that it causes severe emotional distress. In fact, if your child rides a bus to school, it’s likely that the bully they dread might be on that same bus or at their same bus stop.

We can’t expect the teachers and our educators to take full responsibility for educating our kids about this growing epidemic. We as parents have a larger responsibility because they are OUR children; teaching them about life’s issues is the responsibility of the parents. All schools need to enact some form of Early Learning Anti-Bullying Program. This needs to be addressed to K-3 grades. I believe that if we can make a greater impact on our younger children about how NOT to be a bully; how to report acts of bullying; how to understand we are not all the same and that’s alright because it makes the world a great place, these are some basic early learning skills that our kids are smart enough and capable of understanding. It will give them knowledge, which instills confidence, this grows personal safety awareness, allows our children to develop a caring for others in society, and gives them courage when reporting ANY ACT that is perceived as wrong; including abuses that may be going on at home, which results in greater safety for our kids.

As schools vamp up address the school officials in your area and find out their policy on bullying; record any reports your child makes; if the problem is not addressed properly and promptly, please take it to your NEWS MEDIA and hold our schools responsible for the balance of safety within their boundaries; including on the buses!!!

National Center for Mental Health Promotion and Youth Violence: http://www.promoteprevent.org/

Published by @ButterflyTrish

I am a survivor of over thirty years trapped inside the silence and brutality of Family Crimes, Child Sex Trafficking, and a life lived pattern of tolerance for over 30 years in almost murderous relationships. In Feb. 2011 I chose to publish the truth about what happened in our home, the community around me, and the learned patterns of self-hatred and tolerance which became such a huge factor in my life. My life today was built through publishing 'My Justice'. I never would felt worthy of life, breathing, love & respect with first healing myself. There were many things the traits and tragedies that influenced my life seemed to control everything inside me and it was nothing but sadness and fake emotions. Only by facing the horrors I went through, the choices I made as a woman & mother, then relating to the greatest guilt I have; how the trauma behavior has affected my children's lives. It's my hope to help others get through their battles, regardless of the type of trauma because when we hurt our lives are forever changed. This graphic, violent memoir is NOT SUGGESTED FOR ANYONE UNDER 14 years of age. It discusses the permanently wounding life and the cycle of destruction that held me in expecting/tolerating ridicule and violence in my adult relationships. This truth was published to inspire others to take an in-depth look at their life and behaviors as a result of their past. Connect the dots of your rebuilding in understanding the pattern of adult choices in coping addictions, parenting, and partners; even affecting our careers and self-sustainable life. I'm so honored to have 'My Justice' used at the collegiate level for psychology classes, upcoming therapists and educators. Today my life is very blessed. I'm finally safe, finally truly loved, finally feeling the magic of what life is supposed to be like. My greatest power only began to show when I first made the choice to end the violent relationships and behaviors around my children; to give them something better, something SAFE!! In choosing to share my own story, I've also gone that serious extra step to educate myself through years of research, attending training opportunity, and collaborating with other advocate resources, abuse, sexual harm, and the experts digging deep to recreate help and healing. I've chosen to use my past as a way to inspire a greater good; hopefully somehow change the cycle of tragedy in our homes so that we empower our kids to live a more positive path. The best education we can give, is a survivor of traumatic experiences who can use what they felt then and what they wish they would have had available; those who could have and should have said something. We can change things for our life today, but best of all in healing our wounds, we give communities a supportive working strategy in assisting the people in our lives. One step at a time, one caring soul at a time, we can give them a path to changing our human society as a whole. This is a tell all, which was written in the midst of my third nervous breakdown as I struggled to put all my distorted pieces back together, help my children understand how the violence I tolerated against me invaded their emotional well-being. My children have always been my world, but my behaviors, lack of healthy parenting and life skills, and an inability to remain stable has caused another generation of suffering for my grandchildren. This is a very difficult thing to watch and the continued tragedies that seem to keep affecting the choices in my family. Writing this book was only the beginning of trying to release all that has haunted me for so many years. I have finally removed his thick, cruel, coal stained hand which trapped me in fear for decades. Those hands and his evil, her housemaid and caregiver; they created a slave and that slave submitted to horrific and brutal attacks but always felt it was her burden to bare. I lived with that hand holding me down to terrorize and steal away my voice, holding me captive in the dysfunction of the aftermath and casting a shadow of darkness on everything good in my life. Living in the true spirit of freedom, I have now become a strong advocate against the life cycle of human destruction. We cannot live stuck in the tragedy of hardships and pain. Life is meant to be lived, to be enjoyed, to see what you can do and what you can achieve, to find out what is important to you. We all become adults. We all have a burden to bare. Stand up and keep moving, keep living, keep dreaming. You have two choices in recreating and rebuilding yourself. Do you stay stuck in the dark shadows of your past? Do you dig deep and find that spirit that kept you alive so that you could become the proud, strong, capable, resilient, kind human being ? Which do you choose and how will that choice affect your children and theirs? We can be supportive, provide resources and suggestions for help so that families suffering with addiction or past trauma themselves can find a recovery balance to rebuild their family in a more positive life pattern. We will recover, we will rebuild, we will conquer the pains of yesterday to live in the true sense of life, freedom and safety today. Patricia 'Trish' McKnight Author: 'My Justice' Fndr/CEO: Butterfly Dreams Alliance, NFP Mentor/Advocate/Speaker/Survivor

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