A Letter to an Angel…..Dearest Danyelle;

Wishing I could be like you……


You’re beautiful you know. When I first met you and we shared those first cheers together, we rode on the wagon through town in the biker parade. I didn’t know how to talk to you. I was afraid I’d say or do something that would cause you to see me as unacceptable.

Your spirit was amazing. Such a beauty you carried. In truth, your confidence and astonishing smile intimidated me. From the very first time we spent together I questioned,

Why can’t I be more like her?

You loved so openly and you saw beauty in absolutely everything. You allowed yourself to be free in every glorious way. How do you do this?

Every time I was around you, I was simply amazed by you. You know the hayride we shared, when Robbie and I had just recently started hanging around the area again? Not sure if you know how excited I was to share the fun with you, but of course the wuss I am; tequila rose didn’t allow me to make it very far on the ride. So sorry I passed out in your lap dear friend. Thank you though for taking good care of me. Truly appreciate it my friend.

You probably felt I was secretly bi-sexual, especially the night I walked mesmerized smelling your perfume, lol!!! I’m not girl, you were an idle to me and I know I never said those words to you. Perhaps you would have understood me better if I could have said what I can only write to you now?

You see, it’s too late for me to tell you what I saw in you. How the love you openly shared of everything in life, is something I could only dream of doing. Your beauty, your smile, your laughter, your kindness; it all intimidated me. I know if you knew this you’d give me a hug, buy me a shot and tell me, ‘Don’t be silly Trish. Look at what you do and what you’ve done; you’re beautiful girl!!’

Problem dear friend, I don’t know I will ever be able to see me through your eyes or through Robbie’s eyes for that matter.

Dearest Danyelle, I know many will miss you. Hell, look at the mile and half long funeral procession you had, it was magnificent to see how you had touched so many lives in the short time you were on this earth. You touched every heart you came in contact with. Danyelle your spirit is something I dream of having. No matter what the need or what the fighting cause, you were there. Who could tell you no?

Dear sweet, beautiful lady, you touched my life in ways that I never had the guts or words to tell you. Every time I tried to be around you, I screwed it up. Did you know how uncomfortable I was? I didn’t know what to say or do. I didn’t want you to see how my horrid life had marred me and how dysfunctional I am around people I admire so much. People Like You!!!

I’m so sorry I never shared this with you while you were here on earth, but some part of me hopes you know and that your magical spirit will find a way to help me become more like you.

Fly free Danyelle!!!

Stay glorious my beautiful friend. You are missed by many, but somehow, I want you to know how much you will be missed by me!!!

Tricia McKnight

Friend, Author, Advocate for the Abused

4 thoughts on “A Letter to an Angel…..Dearest Danyelle;

  1. I have been blessed to have this kind of friend in my life at one time. Like Danyelle, my friend left too quickly. It hurts to lose such a wonderful friend. Mine was my best friend, mentor, role modal for being a healthy woman, and my counselor for incest. She taught me what healthy looked like. She also taught me that it was okay to be vulnerable and to open my heart to those that I trusted. She taught me that I could trust women. I never did before meeting her because all of the women in my family were so blaming and judgmental. She touched my life and I am a better person/woman/mother because of it. Allow yourself as long as you need to grieve Trish. You don’t have to rush through it for us. By allowing yourself to grieve you will teach others that it is okay for them to grieve too. So much of healing from sexual abuse means grieving our losses. When someone dies that we love, they give us the opportunity to open our hearts and to do all of the grieving that we haven’t done before this point in time. My friend taught me that. Her death was the first one that I truly grieved for. (((Hugs))) my friend.

  2. Trish this is just beautiful..I was in tears reading this beautiful letter to your beautiful friend. She knows Trish, she knows how much you admired, cared, about her. She smiles down at you and knows every word you write to her. Feel her close to you, she is there, all around you..Your memories will stay with you forever. Her spirit will hep and guide you, and she will still be there for you in spirit..One day you will be able to see through her eyes, and you will know when that day comes. Take the time you need to grieve the loss of your beautiful friend,but remember she smiles down at you every day…Love you Trish..Big hugs to you my friend ❤ ❤

  3. Trish, this is so nice. Danyelle was glad to have you as a friend and was so proud of all you do to help others! Trust me, I know. She told me. We will miss her everyday but be thankful of all the great memories we have of her. She was the best and I was the luckiest guy on Earth!! Love you and Robbie, you’re the best!!

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