Month: June 2013

Highest Praise for Author Lynn C Tolson

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Tolson 4 Tears; Lynn C Tolson Reviews ‘My Justice’ – http://beyondthetears.blogspot.com/2013/07/tolson-4-tears-reviews-my-justice.html

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Recommendation for Author/Advocate, Ms. Lynn C. Tolson

In these last two years it has been a great pleasure to meet and interview some of the very best devoted advocates. One of these incredible advocates is Author Lynn C. Tolson, whom our first contact originated from her autobiography, ‘Beyond the Tears; A True Survivors Story’. Having first communicated with Ms. Tolson during an interview on Dreamcatchers Talk Radio, I researched and read her intense story of child abuse, child sexual abuse, rape and the aftermath of the broken adult survivor. Her story opens up at the age of twenty-five as she contemplates suicide due to the mess of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, along with many other related emotional dysfunctions. However, it isn’t until she goes through the process of therapy to break through the barriers of understanding the many confused emotions, when finally she realized how all the pieces begin to fit together.

Her memoir, published in September 2003, is one of the first survivor stories to be shared at a time when only a few had challenged breaking down the barriers of silence about lives tormented from the impact of Domestic Violence, Sexual Abuse, Physical & Emotional wounds, which she finally pieced together as the deep embedded scars from all she had endured as a young girl. Her childhood home was chaotic with broken dysfunctional parents and a terrorizing father who’s only shown emotions were that of rage and sexual destruction of his daughter.

As you read this powerful memoir you are taken through her recovery from the madness, the life lived in self-destruction from alcohol, drugs, and constant thoughts of suicide. You walk with her through regaining her strength as a human being, reclaiming the life taken and invaded by the ever so present violent and abusive actions that had existed since her beginning. Ms. Lynn C. Tolson had finally found her healing courage, which has led now to her mission in life; telling her story in all its ugly truths and empowering others with the belief in their own power to heal. In publishing her story she leaves her soul vulnerable to the general judgments and condemnation from a society trained into the ever so present heavy silence about these horrendous crimes within our homes. Thankfully as Lynn has shared in her own words many times during our chats, ‘Writing her story to help others find their way is simply a labor of love’, but in this path she has found also a blessing of peace from the treacherous journey of rebuilding her inner self.

It is in these last six months that I have become quite close to the voice that had been so strong. She had quieted back some not sure of her ability to truly make a difference; however, this is one true survivor who has resurfaced with the spirit and determination not only to talk about her journey, but to create a program that is educating society about the connections between Rape & Suicide.

Author/Advocate, Lynn C. Tolson, has published a synopsis on the relative connection between these two topics. Her devotion to helping survivors find their way through to reclaiming their true life in the spiritual, physical, and emotional healing is a non-stop mission. Lynn’s education in Social Services led to her created program, Research 4 T.E.A.R.S., which she presented at the Annual Social Work Institute, held at Missouri Western State University in Saint Joseph, MO, which was also published in an article of the National Association of Social Workers Missouri Chapter Newsletter.

This was her new beginning, this was her found path; the path intended and embedded within her soul. She now gives her expertise and her voice as she shares her study, TELLING EVERYONE ABOUT RAPE & SUICIDE. Lynn has brought all that she went through in her healing to a published study on the correlation between these two entities. Having reviewed many cases and studying the destruction and desire of suicide, she found there was a distinct connection between the sexual assault and sexual abuse of a child to the ever present thought of suicide. If you think of the many broken souls of adult survivors of childhood rape, molestation, and even the cases of adult rape; you will also find most if not all of those affected by this crime have also contemplated or succeeded at taking their own lives. She has given the world another conclusive fact concerning the deep impact of these crimes. Many studies have been provided by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, and also by the National Institute of Mental Health, which I have studied long and hard in my own healing path and what I wanted to pass forward to others in education and prevention. Ms. Tolson’s relative connection study of these two factors is another study which should be shared and published around the world.

It is with the highest respect and a personal sister survivor spiritual connection to the amazing work of Ms. Lynn Tolson, that I gladly submit this recommendation for her studied program of education to be shared, but also as a survivor myself encourage everyone to read her memoir ‘Beyond the Tears; A True Survivors Story’. I would also recommend that survivors who are struggling today review the information supplied in Ms. Tolson’s study and perhaps you may find a glimpse of your person in the aftermath and destruction felt by the impact of these many silent, but soul murdering crimes.

You can connect with Author/Advocate, Ms. Lynn C. Tolson, through many of our social networking sites. I also highly recommend that you take the opportunity to read her blog site, which provides the published article of the Rape & Suicide Study, the many links to her memoir, and a huge collection of reader reviews, which just on Amazon alone you’ll find at least 50 or more who have given their Five Star recommendations for her journey of reclaiming her life in the aftermath of a lived filled with pain and terror of a child, young woman, who has grown strong and found her happiness; her own true freedom from abuse and sexual violence.

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Recommendation by: Patricia ‘Trish’ McKnight

Author/IL. Cert. Advocate/Speaker/Talk Radio Prod & Host/Survivor

Founder: Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery & Talk Radio Programming

http://www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery.com

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Think you know about child abuse? Hear it from the voice of a child.

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Another brave voice sharing their story of the evils lurking about in the homes intended to protect us. These survivors should be the teaching path for society today. We can no longer turn away and pretend not to know about the impacts of these crimes. Let no child suffer these cruel actions. Stand up and intervene, let them know they are worth the effort to rescue, give them hope & help for recovery and strength. Thank you. Read ‘Dear Teddy’ by JD Stockholm!!!

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Think you know about child abuse? Hear it from the voice of a child.

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Little boy little boy,
Curled in a ball.
I know your secrets,
I know them all

I write in my journal as much as I can. I talk to Mr. Ted. He is my only friend. He understands when the bad man comes. He holds my hand when I have nightmares and my mummy doesn’t hear me cry. Mr. Ted doesn’t tell. He won’t say when my daddy hurts me. He keeps my secrets and my stories. I love Mr. Ted. He is the only one who loves me back.

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An Open Letter to the Mainstream Media

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Most definitely a must read blog to ‘Mainstream Media’

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Mac and WillDear Mainstream Media,

I know we haven’t exactly got along in the past, but I’m just writing to let you know the status of our relationship is now in an emergency zone. I’m no longer just pissed off. I’ve reached the point of contempt. It’s not like I didn’t already know you were a broken-record narrative, full of bias, inaccuracy and completely anti-balance, but now I have a fictional model of just how good you could be if you gave a shit. And this just makes the reality of your inadequacy even more obvious. Yes, I’m watching Aaron Sorkin’s Newsroom and it’s completely depressing.

Since you probably haven’t watched Newsroom, and if you have you’re no doubt laughing it off just like your biggest defender, @sclark_melbs, calling it ‘fictional’ and ‘drama’, I thought it might be timely to let you know you could really learn something from this television…

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My skin and her neglect

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Friends I’d like to share a very personal part of me with you. Many of you have heard me talk about the severe neglect of all basic human needs and caring, which I endured throughout twelve years while living in Freeburg Illinois and attending the same school district for six consecutive years. (I dropped out in my sophomore year so that I could go to work, hoping to find some escape).

The video I’ve uploaded here was just recently taken so that I could share in a few direct press contacts I’ve made, which if you’d like to forward to anyone please do so. It would help share the message in a big way!!!

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Thankfully after leaving home and being able to bathe the sores and infection cleared right away, but sadly the scars never will. This is my constant reminder of hell!!!

The inability of being able to safely bathe in my home led to the horrifying scars you are about to view. At the age of twelve I made the conscious choice not to bathe and be trapped in his most favorite torture room. My mother would never intervene and ask him to leave me alone, as I’ve shared she had given me to him like property when they first married; I was five.

We had excellent health insurance and all medical would have been provided had she chose to do the right thing and at least take me to see a doctor, but I rotted for four years before that ever happened. It wasn’t until just before quitting school that I was finally taken to a dermatologist for evaluation. By then the dirt crusted deep in every crevice of my body and what had started out in a rash had then ate away at my almost every inch of my skin, which you’ll see what has been left behind.

No medication or treatment was given after the doctor did his biopsy for testing. We were given a jar of Ucerin cream and sent on our way. I don’t know what the doctor said to my mother, for he took her in another room when he was done checking me. I do know that she berated me the entire way home about how ashamed I should be because I look like that, how disgusting that you don’t even bathe, do you know how bad you stink, how dare you embarrass me like that, on and on and on…..  

 

My parent’s both worked so the money in our family was pretty good, at least for those times. He was a certified electrician with the coalmine and she a bartender, having left the restaurant then. We should have had what we needed in the house with just five of us there. Hell I supported myself and three kids on much less than this in the 90’s. However, it seemed my parents couldn’t even afford toilet paper or tooth brushes, let alone sanitary napkins and such. You see where I’m going with this right? It was horrible conditions and there was my older brother and younger sister; but I was the target child. The child who did the cooking, laundry, cleaning, child care, and also had to tolerate the beatings, molestations, rape, exploitation, trafficking and whatever else he could think of.

When ‘My Justice’ was compared to the incredible work of Dave Pelzer and his autobiography ‘A Child Called It’, that somehow gave me a sense of validation. It meant that finally someone had heard my voice and all the pure evil that was my world. It didn’t surround my world, because there wasn’t any form of Domestic Violence or other such things going on. It was just them using me as their property and not seeing me as a human being or deserving of human needs.

So as embarrassing and shaming as this short clip is, please don’t leave me negative comments or degrade me any further than has already happened. This is to share how the entire community all turned away from what they saw with their eyes and could not ignore. The girls in the locker room at gym class all witnessed the disgust, whispered, pointed and shamed me. But hey, isn’t that what kids do?

The teachers and parents all made sure to avoid any contact with me for fear of catching something. The girls were told to stay away from me and the boys were told never to date me. This was my hell and almost everyone in the community played a part in someway. It is those adults that I hold responsible. You don’t see a child covered in this type of disgust and do nothing. Especially the school system, the law enforcement and others who had the authority to intervene.

Where the hell were you people and why in the world didn’t you say something? ANYTHING???

A ‘Higher Power’ can help abused children recover.

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Once again the excellent Dr. Nicholas Jenner has shared his expertise in the hope of providing recovery and hope to those survivors of childhood abuse and nightmarish acts of hell. As he shared the quote by Alice Miller ‘soul murder’ and taking back our power through forgiving but not forgetting. Moving on from the cage of abuse and finding your life of happiness, inner peace today.

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Children who are subject to abuse of any sort often look for help outside of the family in their quest for recovery. Often abandoned emotionally and bruised physically, they cannot find solace within the family unit which was often responsible for the abuse in the first place. The following quote says much about why children turn to a “higher power” in their search for inspiration.

“There is an old saying in Alcoholics Anonymous: In the disease of alcoholism, spirituality is the first thing to go and the last thing to come back. Compared with alcohol, the troubled family may be far more efficient at committing what Alice Miller calls a “soul murder”. Abused children are robbed of their faith in the goodwill of other people and their belief in a safe world”

For an abused child to recover this faith, his or her view of the world must be reconstructed…

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Recommended bloggers and resources of help

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Recommended bloggers and resources of help

Friends this link will take you to the blogger spot which I fail to use as often as I should, but wanted to share some of those incredible friends I’ve built bonds with in this mission of awareness, education, and vigilance against all forms of abuse. I do hope you’ll check out those listed and see what they are sharing today and tomorrow. Perhaps you’ll follow what they’re doing and make new friends as I have. Perhaps you’ll also check out our radio programming on Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio by visiting http://www.blogtalkradio.com/butterflydreamsabuserecovery – We are NOT JUST ANOTHER ABUSE RADIO PROGRAM!!!With only 70 broadcasts under our belt we have an incredible 22,939 listens to the shows already!!! I’ll be broadcasting every Monday & Wednesday evening and our new host Debra Mize brings her Life in Transformation broadcst of Metamorphosis to the show. We are also looking for a MALE HOST to join our team. If you are interested, please contact me at butterflydreamsabuserecovery@gmail.com Thank you for supporting our programs and we hope you check out and use the website!!! Remember to hit those share buttons as we all are hoping to rally our voices to end the crimes of abuse and violence, especially those within our homes!!!