Highest Praise for Author Lynn C Tolson

Tolson 4 Tears; Lynn C Tolson Reviews ‘My Justice’ – http://beyondthetears.blogspot.com/2013/07/tolson-4-tears-reviews-my-justice.html


Recommendation for Author/Advocate, Ms. Lynn C. Tolson

In these last two years it has been a great pleasure to meet and interview some of the very best devoted advocates. One of these incredible advocates is Author Lynn C. Tolson, whom our first contact originated from her autobiography, ‘Beyond the Tears; A True Survivors Story’. Having first communicated with Ms. Tolson during an interview on Dreamcatchers Talk Radio, I researched and read her intense story of child abuse, child sexual abuse, rape and the aftermath of the broken adult survivor. Her story opens up at the age of twenty-five as she contemplates suicide due to the mess of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, along with many other related emotional dysfunctions. However, it isn’t until she goes through the process of therapy to break through the barriers of understanding the many confused emotions, when finally she realized how all the pieces begin to fit together.

Her memoir, published in September 2003, is one of the first survivor stories to be shared at a time when only a few had challenged breaking down the barriers of silence about lives tormented from the impact of Domestic Violence, Sexual Abuse, Physical & Emotional wounds, which she finally pieced together as the deep embedded scars from all she had endured as a young girl. Her childhood home was chaotic with broken dysfunctional parents and a terrorizing father who’s only shown emotions were that of rage and sexual destruction of his daughter.

As you read this powerful memoir you are taken through her recovery from the madness, the life lived in self-destruction from alcohol, drugs, and constant thoughts of suicide. You walk with her through regaining her strength as a human being, reclaiming the life taken and invaded by the ever so present violent and abusive actions that had existed since her beginning. Ms. Lynn C. Tolson had finally found her healing courage, which has led now to her mission in life; telling her story in all its ugly truths and empowering others with the belief in their own power to heal. In publishing her story she leaves her soul vulnerable to the general judgments and condemnation from a society trained into the ever so present heavy silence about these horrendous crimes within our homes. Thankfully as Lynn has shared in her own words many times during our chats, ‘Writing her story to help others find their way is simply a labor of love’, but in this path she has found also a blessing of peace from the treacherous journey of rebuilding her inner self.

It is in these last six months that I have become quite close to the voice that had been so strong. She had quieted back some not sure of her ability to truly make a difference; however, this is one true survivor who has resurfaced with the spirit and determination not only to talk about her journey, but to create a program that is educating society about the connections between Rape & Suicide.

Author/Advocate, Lynn C. Tolson, has published a synopsis on the relative connection between these two topics. Her devotion to helping survivors find their way through to reclaiming their true life in the spiritual, physical, and emotional healing is a non-stop mission. Lynn’s education in Social Services led to her created program, Research 4 T.E.A.R.S., which she presented at the Annual Social Work Institute, held at Missouri Western State University in Saint Joseph, MO, which was also published in an article of the National Association of Social Workers Missouri Chapter Newsletter.

This was her new beginning, this was her found path; the path intended and embedded within her soul. She now gives her expertise and her voice as she shares her study, TELLING EVERYONE ABOUT RAPE & SUICIDE. Lynn has brought all that she went through in her healing to a published study on the correlation between these two entities. Having reviewed many cases and studying the destruction and desire of suicide, she found there was a distinct connection between the sexual assault and sexual abuse of a child to the ever present thought of suicide. If you think of the many broken souls of adult survivors of childhood rape, molestation, and even the cases of adult rape; you will also find most if not all of those affected by this crime have also contemplated or succeeded at taking their own lives. She has given the world another conclusive fact concerning the deep impact of these crimes. Many studies have been provided by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, and also by the National Institute of Mental Health, which I have studied long and hard in my own healing path and what I wanted to pass forward to others in education and prevention. Ms. Tolson’s relative connection study of these two factors is another study which should be shared and published around the world.

It is with the highest respect and a personal sister survivor spiritual connection to the amazing work of Ms. Lynn Tolson, that I gladly submit this recommendation for her studied program of education to be shared, but also as a survivor myself encourage everyone to read her memoir Beyond the Tears; A True Survivors Story’. I would also recommend that survivors who are struggling today review the information supplied in Ms. Tolson’s study and perhaps you may find a glimpse of your person in the aftermath and destruction felt by the impact of these many silent, but soul murdering crimes.

You can connect with Author/Advocate, Ms. Lynn C. Tolson, through many of our social networking sites. I also highly recommend that you take the opportunity to read her blog site, which provides the published article of the Rape & Suicide Study, the many links to her memoir, and a huge collection of reader reviews, which just on Amazon alone you’ll find at least 50 or more who have given their Five Star recommendations for her journey of reclaiming her life in the aftermath of a lived filled with pain and terror of a child, young woman, who has grown strong and found her happiness; her own true freedom from abuse and sexual violence.

Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story: Welcome 2 Beyond the Tears

Recommendation by: Patricia ‘Trish’ McKnight

Author/IL. Cert. Advocate/Speaker/Talk Radio Prod & Host/Survivor

Founder: Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery & Talk Radio Programming



Published by @ButterflyTrish

I am a survivor of over thirty years trapped inside the silence and brutality of Family Crimes, Child Sex Trafficking, and a life-lived pattern of tolerance for over thirty years in almost murderous relationships. In Feb. 2011, I chose to publish the truth about what happened in our home, the community around me, and the learned patterns of self-hatred and tolerance which became such a huge factor in my life. I never felt worthy of life, breathing, love & respect; not until I honestly began a strong focus on healing myself. There were many traits and tragedies that influenced my life. It seemed to control everything inside me and it was nothing but sadness and fake emotions. Only by facing the horrors I went through, the choices I made as a woman & mother, then relating to the greatest guilt I still grieve; how the trauma behavior has affected my children's lives. It's my hope to help others get through their battles, regardless of the type of trauma because when we hurt our lives are forever changed. "My Justice' is not an easy read. It was published to release the thick layers of trauma, sex trafficking, and disfiguring neglect, the enslavement of a child to answer the ring of 'his' bell, and keep my own private terrorist alive. This memoir is NOT SUGGESTED FOR ANYONE UNDER 16 years of age. It discusses the permanently wounding life and the cycle of destruction that held me in expecting/tolerating ridicule and violence in my adult relationships. This truth was published to inspire others to take an in-depth look at their life and behaviors as a result of their past. When we connect the dots through rebuilding an understanding of the pattern of adult choices in coping addictions, parenting, and partners; even affecting our careers and self-sustainable life. I'm so honored to have 'My Justice' used at the collegiate level for psychology classes, upcoming therapists, and educators. Today my life is very blessed. I'm finally safe, finally truly loved, finally feeling the magic of what life is supposed to be like. My greatest power only began to show when I first made the choice to end the violent relationships and behaviors around my children; to give them something better, something SAFE!! In choosing to share my own story, I've also gone the serious extra step to educate myself through years of research, attending training opportunities, and collaborating with other advocate resources focused in human resilience and healing from abuse, sexual harm, and sex trafficking. Today there are experts digging deep to recreate help and healing. I've chosen to use my past as a way to inspire a greater good and; hopefully, somehow change the cycle of tragedy in our homes so that we empower our kids to live a more positive path. The best education we can give is healing our survivors of traumatic experiences so we understand what they felt then and what they wish they would have had available; those who could have and should have said something. We can change things for our life today, but best of all in healing our wounds, we give communities a supportive working strategy in assisting the people in our lives. One step at a time, one caring soul at a time, we can give them a path to changing our human society as a whole. This is a tell-all, which was written in the midst of my third nervous breakdown as I struggled to put all my distorted pieces back together, and help my children understand how the violence I tolerated against me invaded their well-being. My children have always been my world, but my behaviors, lack of healthy parenting and life skills, and an inability to remain stable have caused another generation of suffering for my grandchildren. This is a very difficult thing to watch and the continued tragedies that seem to keep affecting the choices in my family. Writing this book was only the beginning of trying to release all that has haunted me for so many years. I have finally removed his thick, cruel, coal-stained hand which trapped me in fear for decades. Those hands and his evil, her housemaid and caregiver; created a slave, and that slave submitted to horrific and brutal attacks but always felt it was her burden to bear. I lived with that hand holding me down, continually terrorizing and silencing, stealing my voice to protect their pure evil. Throughout decades the dysfunction caused by the chaos inside my head would affect every relationship, my children, and cast a shadow of darkness on everything good in my life. Living in the true spirit of freedom, I have now become a strong advocate against the life cycle of human destruction. If we want to control our life and achievements today, then we cannot live stuck in the tragedy of hardships and pain. Life is meant to be lived, to be enjoyed, to see what you can do and what you can achieve, to find out what is important to you. We all become adults. We all have a burden to bear. Stand up and keep moving, keep living, keep dreaming. You have two choices in recreating and rebuilding yourself. Do you stay stuck in the dark shadows of your past? Do you dig deep and find that spirit that kept you alive so that you can become the proud, strong, capable, resilient, kind human being? Which do you choose and how will that choice affect your children and theirs? We can be supportive, and provide resources and suggest help so that families suffering from addiction or past trauma can find a recovery balance to rebuild their family into a more positive life pattern. We will recover, we will rebuild, we will conquer the pains of yesterday to live in the true sense of life, freedom, and safety today. Patricia 'Trish' McKnight Author: 'My Justice' Fndr/CEO: Butterfly Dreams Alliance, NFP Mentor/Advocate/Speaker/Survivor

3 thoughts on “Highest Praise for Author Lynn C Tolson

  1. Patricia, thank you for writing this tribute! I am humbled by your respect. Sometimes I wonder how to answer the question about what I do; I think I will refer those questions to this blog. You have explained my work as an author and advocate as a mission to bring awareness. Sincerely, Lynn

    1. Dear Lynn, it was a great pleasure to write this and share with the world just how amazing I believe you to be and the specific message you carry for others. You are a true light dear, just keep glowing and sharing your adorable self with others
      Always my best
      trish 🙂

  2. Why did you decide to write a book? Was it difficult writing about such a personal story?The book [Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story] began by putting pen to paper in journal writing sessions. Themes emerged regarding the ramifications of sexual abuse, like drug addiction and suicide attempts. Eventually, a story of transformation to wholeness evolved. Journal writing was a cathartic experience. However, writing the book was difficult because I had to find the courage to face my fears: What would others think? What would my family think? But my conviction to tell the truth became greater than the difficulty of writing a personal story. I realized that I was writing about personal yet universal issues. My desire to share a message of healing from trauma became too strong to ignore; the book became my mission despite the difficulty. Sexual assault, addiction, and suicide are unsolved social problems that carry stigmas. The stigmas cast a code of silence that do not solve problems. The result from not speaking about the crime of sexual assault is too often tragic. Thus, there is a need for real stories of recovery. By bringing my dark secrets to light, it is my hope that others who have had similar events will know that they are not alone.

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