Praise for a modern day ‘Peter Pan’

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Peter Thomas Senese

Best Selling Author

Devoted Child Advocate

Founder: I CARE Foundation

Preventing International Child Abduction

Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about those who have played a role in the voice I have today and the path I’ve come to follow.

When I first published ‘My Justice’ in Feb 2011, it was just about six months later the first incredible Five Star Review was shared on Amazon. Amazingly enough, somehow this story had caught the attention of Best Selling Author/Child Advocate/Founding Director for I CARE Foundation; Mr. Peter Thomas Senese.

To me it was incredible that my story of a life endured and battled through more than thirty years of vicious, almost deadly, abuse and relationships, had made an impact on his already highly devoted heart at protecting children. He shared his novel, ‘Chasing the Cyclone’ which was taken from a few true events he had gone through in the aftermath of International Parental Abduction. Upon reading this page turning whirlwind of unimaginable dangers in which children are easily submitted to by an abducting parent, all I could do was give my unending support in his continued mission.

Peter then reached out to me on a personal level to share with me how my fight for true freedom had influenced his drive to push through even harder to protect and rescue as many children as he could. His team at the I CARE Foundation has developed tools which are battling through the international barriers; fighting through the Hague Convention Treaty; rescuing kids from Sex Trafficking Rings and they have now provided one of the most impacting of those protective measures; they have developed the ‘International Travel Child Consent Form’ which is dedicated to Officer Chris Morris and the mission to return his beautiful daughter to the land of her birth and the arms of a loving father.

To say the least, I’m very excited to know that my journey to live in ‘UHURU’, as Peter states, has inspired him to delve deeper into his mission of child protection advocacy & activism. He has written many blogs about this impact and has shared his views many times about seeing me as a ‘Hero; A conqueror over abuse’; to share I had the very blessed distinct honor to be his first chosen ‘Today’s Heroes’. He has shared many personal phone chats to encourage me and remind me of how important it is for me to continue; how I really am making a difference and how when he is in doubt he always asks himself, ‘What would Tricia do?’.

Throughout our friendship I’ve had the extreme pleasure to host at least three interviews with this ‘MODERN DAY PETER PAN’ who gives his heart to creating protection for children every day. He also makes sure to enjoy the simplest of pleasures in each moment as he well knows how things can change in an instant and our world becomes filled with darkened clouds of challenge.

There is an extensive personal interview I did with Peter, which was published in St. Louis Examiner.com, but I’ve also shared a much deeper interview in full length with him on the page of Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery, which I’ve dedicated to the great work of I CARE Foundation and most of their recent updates.

In the past two years I’ve watched as his foundation grows and the impact they are making to protect children around the world from international parental abduction continues as hundreds of cases are prevented each month. This new tool, ‘International Travel Child Consent Form’ is already being used by family lawyers around the world in just a few short weeks; imagine how many children will be protected from this growing trend in the next six months, or even within the next year. If you are planning a trip abroad from your child’s home country, check out this form to ensure that your parental rights and the rights of your child are protected.

Believe me, from what my own children and I went through during the 4 years when their father took off and ran, not once but twice to another state with them; breaking the bond between a parent and child is indeed a very deep wound that sometimes can never be repaired. Parental alienation is most definitely child abuse. Our children are NOT pawns in a chess match of the most strategic force, but should grow in the love and support of both parents equally for the most positive impact on their world and their healthy development.

When it comes to child abuse, we never know when tragedy will strike. Sadly, the repeated stats are published every year and the most harmful dangers to our children are often the pain endured from their own parents. We must teach ALL children the power of their voice to speak out when someone, ANYONE, is harming them. Also to let them know that there are millions of responsible adults out there who will believe them and help them when they reach out. It is horrifying to think that our children today must tell SEVEN ADULTS about being abused before someone will believe them. Always remember that young children will rarely make up such lies; that sexual abuse is a silent crime which rarely leaves any physical signs; that emotional abuse is extremely harmful; and kidnapping our children, even by a parent (unless it is a life saving measure) should never be permitted or supported, but instead fought against just as we would any other form of abuse.

The momentum we are seeing now with the rise in survivors of various types of abuses come forward and speak up, should be the teaching path of what we need to watch for in society today. We can no longer pretend these crimes don’t exist, or that they aren’t harmful; these are life changing and life impacting crimes that are being committed against 1 in 5 children every second of every day. We can no longer pretend not to know.

Join me in giving thanks to the thousands of advocates protecting children and raising awareness against all forms of abuse. Join me in thanking Mr. Peter Thomas Senese for the protective measures his team at I CARE Foundation are building everyday as he continues to give his financial and personal devotions to protecting and rescuing children from abductions and trafficking. Read the full personal interview with Peter through this provided link – http://www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery.com/parental_abduction.html

 

You will find the link to ALL OF PETER’S fascinating geo-political thriller novels through Amazon here – http://www.amazon.com/Peter-Thomas-Senese/e/B0040RCZY8

Stay up to date with I CARE Foundation by visiting: http://www.stopchildabduction.org

Read Peter’s many blogs and personal shares by visiting:

http://peterthomassenese.blogspot.com/2013/06/child-custody-fights-divorce-summer.html

From one devoted abuse advocate/author/talk radio host, I am very proud to say that I have a trusted and incredible friend in the heart, soul, and passions of this magnificent modern day ‘Peter Pan’; Mr. Peter Thomas Senese thank you for all you have inspired in me today!!!

©Patricia A McKnight

Founder/CEO: Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery & Talk Radio Programming

http://www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery.com

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/butterflydreamsabuserecovery

Author: ‘My Justice’ 12156430-butterfly-dreams-abuse-recoveryBookcvr1

Published by @Trecia_Ann

Recently, Facebook locked and removed my decade long creation of work and public profile, which focused my work as an advocate, speaker, mentor, and creator of more than a few programs used throughout Illinois, but also shared nationally and some have reached international platforms. So.... let's start fresh and see where it goes! Please see the writings on this blog dating back into 2011, created after the publication of 'My Justice'. There are two specifically, which have been tagged and shared by many....."Judging Eyes" and "Triggers; what they are and how to handle them" I am a survivor of over thirty years trapped inside the silence and brutality of Family Facilitated Violence, Torture, and Child Sex Trafficking. In Feb. 2011, I chose to publish the secrets and the horrors endured; the many levels of destruction and decay which the community around me witnessed, ignored, condemned and blamed regardless of the injuries and tortures endured. It all became the learned patterns of self-hatred and tolerance which was a huge factor in my adult life. Have you endured childhood harm, or endured terroristic types of abuses? Did you feel unworthy of life, breathing, love or respect? Did you feel as if no one ever really saw you, heard you, or seemed to care about the silent cruelties of your existence? It wasn't until I honestly began a strong focus on healing myself, which took years of researching credible data and published research surrounding the lasting effects of abuse, violence, sexual harm, and human trafficking that I began to understand who I was and why there were many traits and tragedies that influenced my adult choices, relationships, the chaos deep in my soul and the behaviors used to survive. It seemed to control everything inside me and it was filled with pain, and tragedy. The research became my rebuilding journey and my road to advocacy, creating legislative changes, sitting as an active member and providing testimony in the creation of area task force operations, victim/survivor services, trauma informed awareness for law enforcement, educators, social services, healthcare and community providers. I began that research of understanding myself in 2008, wrote the memoir "My Justice' in 2010, began working to change statutes in my home state in 2013, became a Certified DV Advocate and Panel Member of DV Offender Education Program in 2015, which then initiated a decade long career as a trusted, confidential advocate, and a highly skilled and knowledgeable speaker/educator on the topic of Assessment, Family/Survivor Rebuilding, Trauma Informed Care & Response, with the primary focus on family/relationship acts of terroristic abuses and/or human trafficking. Beginning in January 2010 there have been developed programs and connected resources for men, women, children, and families who endured these same types of tragedies. Unfortunately, our human society still has barriers to seek help or speak openly about these types of tragedies, especially if it happened in our homes and families. The laws to protect from such harms were enacted for children in 1963, as an amendment to the Social Security Act. Domestic Violence was not a topic until 1995, when then Senator Joe Biden introduced the Violence Against Women Act, which has since been adapted to provide shelters, counseling, protection orders, and rebuilding services for ALL persons regardless of gender or identity. Although slavery was brought to an end by the historical act of President Abraham Lincoln, we unfortunately have millions of human beings still being traded, sold, controlled and trapped in a hellish evil, which often begins by a parent or intimate partner. Legislation didn't arise regarding the term 'Human Trafficking' until the turn of the new millennium. Protection for victims of human trafficking was signed into law as the 'Trafficking In Persons Act of 2000', which with modern day social media it quickly became a new hot-topic point, which then sparked the creation of Trauma Informed Care, Rebuilding & Trauma Therapy, and thus adult survivors began speaking out about the dark terrifying reality of Child Sex Trafficking. Today many use the term, Modern Day Slavery, and we have multi-faceted task force operations and rescue resources working around the globe to end this new form of human slavery. We also have a few hundred thousand or more who are adult survivors of histories involving Parental Child Sex Trafficking. In one recent study from 2018, they found 85% of these victims were trafficked by parents in trade for drugs, family needs, or basic human survival. As I look back on the career that grew from my own personal need to understand the chaos in my head, the constant failed relationships and almost murderous acts committed against me; as I deal with increasing health problems that includes multiples of head and spinal cord traumas; the most important goal for me from day one of this extremely personal experience; the healing and rebuilding of my own children and grandchildren who were all continued generational victims of the trauma influenced behaviors and choices that resulted from the destruction enforced by my mother and stepfather many decades ago. The little girl, 'Trecia Ann', she survived pure evil as an entire community witnessed, shamed, blamed, and dismissed the visible decay and rot, stench and filth covered, battered and intoxicated body of a young girl who was publicly exploited and shared in the bars of that small town, in her home with boys she attended school with and adult men from the local coalmine. It was as if they all got a thrill from watching her respond to the ring of that little brass bell. They laughed, molested, raped, and purchased for a few bucks or a few beers the sexual use of that young girl right in full public view! Her mother held the power to stop it all, but rather enjoyed having a 'slave' to cook, clean, care for the family as well as entertain the sadistic alcoholic man she chose to marry. Today, I'm so honored and proud to have that little girl's spirit with me. It is through the use of my lived experience, along with a decade of research, and at least five certifications in prevention, response, and trauma; I've assisted a few hundred survivors through the multilevel process of rebuilding and reclaiming their voice, their safety, their freedom! I've trained law enforcement, healthcare, childrens service investigators, our school educators, and co-presented in trainings with some outstanding experts in the field. For the many I've assisted or empowered, they continue becoming thriving survivors, advocates, authors, speakers, and most important of all; they are healing their children and grandchildren! It is a truly beautiful experience and I am so amazed to have been a spark, a resource, or a friend in their life reclaiming freedom. The adult children of generations past have broken through the glass ceiling and finally there is a hint of change in the world. "A lifetime filled with daily torture, tragedy, and pain creates someone completely different than we should have been. We feel that person inside, but our lives are altered by the emotional and physical suffering. We cover it up and hide it deep inside through substance abuse, which falsely helps us believe we are doing fine. The extreme physical and emotional injuries leave our mental and physical selves terribly impacted. Thankfully there is more information and resources of help available today for all types of adverse or traumatic experiences. We have specialized therapeutic help and healthcare professionals developing new ways to identify and assist persons harmed or at risk of harm. We have so much more to do, so please help by having casual open conversations with your friends, family, coworkers, leaders, and especially our kids. Teach them early how to avoid both online and in person harms. Encourage adults and kids both to use the BDA Buddy Skills 2.0, which you will find through my list of assessments and prevention strategies. "My Justice' was written through my own beginning of acknowledging and releasing the personal destruction of the girl once known as 'Trecia Ann'. It is not an easy read, but it has opened many eyes about the reality of evil that occurs inside our homes, against those too small to protect themselves or understand what's happening. It was published to release the thick layers of trauma, sex trafficking, and disfiguring neglect. It is the voice of the enslaved child who existed only to answer the ring of 'his' bell, and the enforced burden to keep my own private terrorist alive. 'My Justice' is NOT SUGGESTED FOR ANYONE UNDER 16 years of age. It discusses the permanently wounding life and the cycle of destruction that held me in tolerating ridicule, control, and violence in my adult relationships. This truth was published to inspire others to take an in-depth look at their life and behaviors as a result of their past, in hopes they too will better understand their suffering today, the continued relationships with the parents and family who inflicted those harms, and finally breaking free from that pain so they can reclaim their voice and their true sense of freedom! We always have the opportunity to learn that we are worthy, capable, incredibly strong, compassionate, and filled with endless possibilities. It is a choice. It is a conscious decision to dig into our trauma, take ownership of our own failures, the harm our choices have caused, and the work we need to do to change it and succeed for ourselves and our families. It is such an honor to have 'My Justice' used at the collegiate level for psychology classes, upcoming therapists, and educators. Today my life is very blessed. I'm finally safe, feel truly loved, finally feeling the magic of life! Always choose to see your star and how it shines on others in your journey. My greatest power only began to show when I first made the choice to end the violent relationships and behaviors around my children; to give them something better, something SAFE!! In choosing to share my own story, I've also gone the serious extra step to educate myself through years of research, attending training opportunities, and collaborating with other advocate resources focused in human resilience and healing from abuse, sexual harm, and sex trafficking. Today there are experts digging deep to recreate help and healing. I've chosen to use my past as a way to inspire a greater good and; hopefully, somehow change the cycle of tragedy in our homes so that we empower our kids to live a more positive path. The best education we can give is healing our survivors of traumatic experiences so we understand what they felt then and what they wish they would have had available; those who could have and should have said something. We can change things for our life today, but best of all in healing our wounds, we give communities a supportive working strategy in assisting the people in our lives. One step at a time, one caring soul at a time, we can give them a path to changing our human society as a whole. This is a tell-all, which was written in the midst of my third nervous breakdown as I struggled to put all my distorted pieces back together, and help my children understand how the violence I tolerated against me invaded their well-being. My children have always been my world, but my behaviors, lack of healthy parenting and life skills, and an inability to remain stable have caused another generation of suffering for my grandchildren. This is a very difficult thing to watch and the continued tragedies that seem to keep affecting the choices in my family. Writing this book was only the beginning of trying to release all that has haunted me for so many years. I have finally removed his thick, cruel, coal-stained hand which trapped me in fear for decades. Those hands and his evil, her housemaid and caregiver; created a slave, and that slave submitted to horrific and brutal attacks but always felt it was her burden to bear. I lived with that hand holding me down, continually terrorizing and silencing, stealing my voice to protect their pure evil. Throughout decades the dysfunction caused by the chaos inside my head would affect every relationship, my children, and cast a shadow of darkness on everything good in my life. Living in the true spirit of freedom, I have now become a strong advocate against the life cycle of human destruction. If we want to control our life and achievements today, then we cannot live stuck in the tragedy of hardships and pain. Life is meant to be lived, to be enjoyed, to see what you can do and what you can achieve, to find out what is important to you. We all become adults. We all have a burden to bear. Stand up and keep moving, keep living, keep dreaming. You have two choices in recreating and rebuilding yourself. Do you stay stuck in the dark shadows of your past? Do you dig deep and find that spirit that kept you alive so that you can become the proud, strong, capable, resilient, kind human being? Which do you choose and how will that choice affect your children and theirs? We can be supportive, and provide resources and suggest help so that families suffering from addiction or past trauma can find a recovery balance to rebuild their family into a more positive life pattern. We will recover, we will rebuild, we will conquer the pains of yesterday to live in the true sense of life, freedom, and safety today. Patricia 'Trish' McKnight Author: 'My Justice' Fndr/CEO: Butterfly Dreams Alliance, NFP Mentor/Advocate/Speaker/Survivor

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