So what is the problem here???

Please forgive me if this post seems a bit gruff or harsh, I surely do not intend for it to be disrespectful in any form.

What in the world is going on here???????

This morning I’m waking up and catching the early morning St. Louis local news broadcast, which I always do, with an excellent team I enjoy @KMOV News 4. Once again they did a wonderful job in bringing attention to 2 local area recent ATTEMPTED CHILD ABDUCTIONS by a predator. They also focused a few moments on sex abuse, which once again a victim of a coach is coming forward to speak up about what happened seventeen years ago while under the coach’s direction.

I am so proud of the silent victims who find the courage to speak up about any case of sexual abuse. It is a truly SILENT CRIME. Molestation leaves NO PHYSICAL WOUNDS to show the child has been touched, fondled, violated. Oral Sexual Abuse leaves NO PHYSICAL WOUNDING for us to see; something to confirm right off the bat our child has been harmed. Sexual abuse of children in this form is just the beginning for a pedophile, if not caught early on, the abuse could last for 10 years or more. This is the need we have now to teach our children the power of their voice and speak up when they are being violated by these acts, NO MATTER WHO THE OFFENDER MIGHT BE!!!

Back to the direct topic, about the victim who is speaking out against the coach who abused them and the media coverage of these cases….

Now I absolutely do not have a problem supporting the media finally bringing attention to this topic, it is most definitely about time. The issue I thought of as I listened was simply this;

Why is it that when a victim comes forward about an abduction or another person who had charge of them and then abused that power, our media is more than happy to share? However, when it is a victim coming forward about a childhood filled with nightmarish abuse and evil sadistic attacks by their parent(s) – NOT ONE PUBLIC TELEVISION NEWS WANTS TO BE THE ONE TO REPORT THAT STORY????

Sadly our society knows inside, that this type of abuse happened for many children decades ago, and still today, ON A CONSTANT BASIS!!! Their homes which should be filled with laughter and love of family, are turned into a whirlwind of degradation, violent attacks, threats with weapons, and the worst of continuous sexual contact. The abusive acts are suspected by others or witnessed by others, but then dismissed or discounted; minimized so the child will remain silent and believe they are crazy for acting out. Even on a deeper level of predator control; their lives or the lives of other family members or pets may be threatened with death if the child speaks up, or we will lose our home, our family will be torn apart and it will all be YOUR FAULT. This is the truth about what the daily abused child lives with and what many hundreds of us as adults, parents & grandparents now, are finally trying to break down the barriers of family silence about these acts and give the survivors comfort to heal, resources to help mend their broken lives.

Why do we NOT want to bring media attention to these types of cases?

Well it is this survivors opinion that because this type of abuse and evil violent attacks have touched so many of our lives in the past. Many of us have become numb to these cases because it runs so deep within our past generations. Many more of us believe that if we bring this type of evil to the surface it will invade our family and then what will we do?

I’m asking, as I always do, that survivors of these past types of childhood attacks find the courage to break their silence and allow the media to draw attention to the vast numbers of beings we represent as a whole. We are an estimated 50 to 60 Million Survivors Strong so you will NOT STAND ALONE as you speak up. Those around you may not wish to hear your toxic words, but until we can make these types of cases a fact in our society and teach everyone the importance of protecting their family circle; then how can we expect our children who are living in this constant threat from their parents to ever find the courage to speak up?

I, and many millions of others, know how harmful these heavy secrets can be to a person’s emotional state and how years of accepting these personally violating attacks day after day will take away the value you should feel about yourself. It traps you in believing it doesn’t matter; many victims find themselves trained into a continuing pattern of acceptance and maybe even harming their own children?

When will the vast majority of these cases be a sign that we need to do something about it now? When will these horrifying stories of vicious incest and even the common practice of handing our children off for someone else to violate, be as important in the media as the cases of the coaches, pastors, scout leaders and others such persons of society? These are the ugly truths that must be brought forward in order to help change what we have always passed on to our children.

Don’t get me wrong here, we must continue to teach our children to defend against a predator from outside the family circle, but when will we also empower them to believe it is just as important to see that ANYONE, even your parents, can be a predator??

I am a strong voice against the abuse or violence against any other being, but my focus is directed at the attacks which happen inside our homes every second of every day!!! When we empower society to end the tolerance of these types of abuses, then we can truly begin to feel we are making a huge change to influence a safer world for our kids. They will be the ones to pass on the knowledge, the human behaviors we teach them, the socially acceptable practices we drill into their heads every day, this is what they will be teaching their children.

What happens when we continue to teach silence about the acts of sexual, physical, or emotional harm that happens within their family unit? We get yet another generation infected with a higher rate of premature death; heart & pulmonary conditions; other health related issues both physical and emotional. Is this what we want to pass on in their lives, so that they are broken parents who then influence their children with emotional harm or worse?

It is my hope that if you read this blog, you pass it on to another, and then another. It’s not about fame or attention, it is about passing it on to empower another survivor, who was once a child victim, to believe in their voice and the courage they carry inside to break down those cage like walls then finally walk free from these life impacting wounds today. Join with me and many hundreds more as we share our voices to empower children today. Join us in letting kids who are being harmed at this very moment, to know there is a life outside of these attacks and they too will one day break free to begin their own path in life, they will have freedom & safety when they use their voice to end the constant abuses.

It is also my hope that our country’s media resources begin revealing the ongoing numbers of parental victims of vicious childhood abuses who are sharing their stories to enlighten, empower, and educate society today; hoping they can make a difference in saving just one child from this lifelong pain of secrets.

Thanks for taking the time to read this, please help me share this message. Again I am not condemning our media or the many victims of society’s abuses who are speaking up today, I am merely hoping that someone will help bring focus to the daily attacks that happen within our homes, killing the souls of men, women & children every second of every day!!!

 

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4 thoughts on “So what is the problem here???

  1. In my experiences, one of the major symptoms is PRIDE. The other “adult” member doesn’t want to “look bad”–or any worse. So they cover up for the other parent (in this case). What bit of AUTHORITY that the other parent may have, they use to CONTROL the child(ren). They are not going to give up their supreme power over a little pip squeak like their child. Then there is the family get together, where all the adults are socializing and the kids are pushed aside. There is laughing, drinking and talking. The adults are having a grand old time. When home, the mask comes off their face.

  2. And this is exactly why I wrote my book, NO TEARS FOR MY FATHER. ! I have spoken up and out about what my father did to me and now I’m trying to get the word out to media in my hometown. And guess what? Two letters/press releases to my local big paper and … nothing! They happily wrote a half page article a couple of months back on an older woman in town who was keeping herself busy with a blog on this and that and wasn’t it wonderful that a senior had found this way to pass her time and “get with it”. As for this old lady here, who has just released her own self-published book, her own true story of incest, who’s been blogging for years now … no response at all. Hello??

    But, on the brighter side, I did get a breakthrough with our local TV station: they are getting me in on Sept. 13 to do a 5 minute slot on the morning show and think it’s wonderful and courageous of me to do this. I’m thrilled, assuming folks are watching, but at least it’s something. But I can’t help but wonder if they would have given me the time of day if it weren’t for the fact they’ve had my singer daughter on their show in the past and just love her. So they’re just that bit more receptive to mom.

    Whatever the case, it’s media exposure and perhaps it’s a sign that finally, finally, we are getting somewhere by speaking out from under childhood sexual abuse by our own parents!

  3. We so need to speak out about this horrific crime that was done to us. I have been blogging for many years, and speaking about my own incest abuse on my blog. I just don’t understand why this subject is so taboo. Turning a blind eye to what is happening to our children today, is so wrong, like it just doesn’t matter. But put an animal in harms way makes a great story. I’m sorry but humans come before animals and I am an animal lover, but I can’t stand by and see a child be abused in anyway by anyone. Families just don’t want to hear it, and hide behind closed doors, live a life that others say “what a beautiful family” and behind those closed doors is a life of hell and the poor children suffer with the abuse, and go on for years hurting in their heart just like we do. We have to be the voices for children everywhere. I am going to be a guest speaker on the “Shattering the Silence Tour and documentary” when they come back to Canada, and I will tell my story so that others who see this documentary next year, will see that there are many many of us who are standing up for ourselves and not hiding anymore!!!

    • Mary, this is so true, the heart of what we need to show them lies in the vast number of survivors, an entire 30 years of children now finally speaking up. Think about the 3.7 million who were reported to cps in US just in 2011, there is an entire generation already just in that one year alone. How can we continue to ignore the numbers involved here? We are soul murdering our own kind and trying to destroy what is good in them. What in the hell are we thinking???

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