Pedophilia as an accepted Sexual Orientation – Never!!!



Dear Friends, Family & Media Resources;

Many of you know my story and I personally know many of your stories. You probably know the stories of many others who have endured the vicious acts of Child Sexual Abuse. Now I’m not saying that physical abuse is any less of an issue but this post is focused on the need to stop PEDOPHILES from bringing their attractions and actions against our children. The most important factor, how can a child give true ‘CONSENT’ when they can’t even decide their favorite Crayon Color? Still, we are supposed to accept this as a Sexual Orientation. ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!

On Monday, March 10th, we did a show on Butterfly Dreams Radio about the U.K. recent talks to permit Pedophilia as a sexual orientation. Fighting for the rights of Pedophiles to be accepted within our society. How much lower will we sink in destruction of our children? This show was inspired by the blog feature provided by David Pittman

I would encourage everyone to listen in to this very important broadcast, we will certainly be hearing talk of this in the U.S. at least by next year if it’s not already here. This can NEVER be accepted within our society!!!

Listen to the show here––pedophilia-should-it-be-an-accepted-act

There are studies completed by the National Institute of Mental Health, Center for Disease and Control, and many many advocate resources who all share the many deep wounding affects the moment any form of Adult to Child sexual interaction takes place, but you know what, those studies are back up material to what THOUSANDS OF SURVIVORS are saying today!!

SURVIVORS & SOCIETY, the most important fact we can give to end what is now being discussed as a sexual orientation, but what is really a VICIOUS PERSONAL CRIME – We MUST share our stories!!!

It is crucial for our entire human society to realize that the THOUSANDS, which I am connected to online and millions more that are living among us everyday; we must hear their voices!!! Please take a chance and TELL YOUR STORY TO SAVE THE CHILDREN FROM THIS PAIN TOMORROW. Listen to how deviate and evil the crimes can get against those who we can take over complete control, force our vile acts of sexual desire and then force them into silence and tolerance, day after day, year after year.

An adult who is being attacked can kick, scream, fight back or run. We have the knowledge and understanding of what is actually happening to us and more importantly it’s not usually someone you live with who attacks you. This is not to say that our loved ones/partners don’t rape & molest us, but we understand and we have a choice to leave.

Think about this list of things a child DOES NOT have to protect themselves:

1) A child believes they are completely dependent upon that person for their very survival

2) A child will do ANYTHING if they believe it will make that parent happy

3) A child can be easily manipulated by an adult to permit the act to happen

4) A child can be easily terrorized into believing the adult has the power to end their life as they know it, have them taken from the family they love or worse, kill the family they love

5) A child does not have the understanding of what it means to touch someone there or to rub this, kiss that.

6) A child does not have the mental capacity to ‘CONSENT’ to the sexual interaction

7) A child cannot scream out for help unless we (as a society) begin teaching them differently

8) A child cannot fight an adult

9) A child cannot run away and escape the attack

10) A child’s developing brain suffers deep emotional disturbances, especially when there is years of forced sadistic attacks and a refusal by other family members to protect them or help them.

In years passed we’ve all hid our true self in the closet far away from the judgment & rejection of others and only those in our closest circles knowing any of our suffering. Today there are THOUSANDS who can no longer live in that darkness. They have chosen to share their story for their healing, but more importantly to HELP SOCIETY UNDERSTAND THE LIFETIME OF DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIORS AS A RESULT OF WHAT WAS FORCED IN THE SILENCE AND ACCEPTANCE OF AN ENTIRE CHILDHOOD LIVED IN THE DEVIATE AND PERSONALLY DESTRUCTING ATTACKS.

Now perhaps you are one who wants to review study after study on the affects of this CRIME on a child’s developing brain? Maybe you want to read the studies about distorted views and perceptions it creates in the adult lives of the survivors? Maybe you would prefer to study the laws and the history of our country’s Child Protection Act, which goes back as far as the first added amendment to the Social Securities Act back in 1963? All of this is important information for you to understand what it is that so many are finally realizing today. It matters to us as survivors because finally we see in black & white that we are ‘NOT’ CRAZY, these are life destroying crimes.

An easy and interesting way to find out about all of the above information here, you can listen in to the broadcasted show archives for Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio. We have discussed each and everyone of these very important truths in our country’s history and more importantly, the ongoing generationally taught human behaviors of these acts and the tolerance and silence we continue to enforce within our homes & our families. Listen in here to shows broadcasting since January 2013 and reaching close to 42,000 listens!!! .

Throughout history, generation after generation, we continue to ignore what is happening within our families. We continue to ignore all the violence between partners/parents/couples. We then tell our children they are not allowed to talk about the fear they felt, the pain of seeing their mom or dad attack the other parent. This is detrimental enough and we know it flows out into our schools in their acting out what they see.

Sexual abuse is an even more disturbing level of secrecy. The pedophile who they live with, wake up with, and depend on for survival must keep the attacks against their own child (maybe even neighborhood children) a deeply hidden secret. They will go through extreme measures to protect THEIR SHAME from being seen by those they work with, live with, interact with everyday. They must maintain this secret so they can continue to abuse the child to satisfy their need for power or their deviate sexual cravings. We must know the ‘SIGNS & SYMPTOMS’ of a SILENT CHILD VICTIM. Survivors YOUR STORIES EDUCATE!!! YOUR STORIES EMPOWER AT LEAST ONE PERSON EVERY TIME YOU SPEAK!!! YOUR STORY SAVES LIVES!!! Your story is the most crucial weapon we have to combat against the strong ring of money, politicians, and lobbiest who are fighting to have this CRIME accepted as a SEXUAL ORIENTATION!!! Please do not hold back any longer. Your healing journey and a child’s life depends on your story.

We need your stories and we as a human society need to listen to the NUMBERS of stories. Many of the stories I’ve helped survivors through are more violent and deviate than any television producer could possibly imagine, They are more destructive to the child than any ‘NORMAL’ moral person could ever possibly accept.

TELL THE PEDOPHILES ABSOLUTELY NO – YOU WILL NOT BE PERMITTED TO HAVE SEX WITH OUR CHILDREN. Tell the molester in your family, even if it is your partner/spouse, you will not tolerate them touching or having any sexual contact or interaction with your children. Tell our justice system to punish these soul destroying criminals to the fullest extent of the law. Tell our politicians to stand behind the community and create an awareness and prevention measure in every small community around the globe. No child should ever have to endure these vile acts of harm by those entrusted with their care!!!

As a survivor I fully understand that a safe community with which to share our stories is always a much needed and absolutely fabulous resource. However, now YOUR STORY is more important than ever!! We have a huge problem on our hands, the pedophilia sexual orientation acceptance is being discussed now in the U.K.; we cannot allow this. As my dear friend Michal Madison put so very well “We need an Army of Angels sharing all of our stories”. As I’ve said many times my friends, it is the extreme details of deviate acts and the HUGE numbers of survivors who are brave enough to stand up and speak out because they know this cannot be pushed under the rug and ignored any longer. To all of you who have endured this CRIME AGAINST YOU, know that we are not alone any longer. There is nothing to be ashamed of and you have absolutely NO GUILT in this interaction. It is ALWAYS the adult (the attacker) who is to blame for their actions. Today it is crucial to empower our kids to believe and know that we as adults will protect them, we will fight for their wellbeing when they cannot fight or protect themselves. We have to stop the ongoing generationally taught forced silence and tolerance of this vicious crime!!!

MEDIA RESOURCES – PLEASE COVER THESE VERY IMPORTANT ISSUES AND KEEP THIS FIGHT TO END THESE ACTS IN OUR PUBLIC EYE!! We have a responsibility and media, as this particular broadcast will reveal, presents what is acceptable in our society. Think back to the 1960’s when it was rare to see a African American on television, then our country changed and Civil Rights Movement began. Think back to when shows didn’t use swear words, didn’t show Gay couples, didn’t reveal sexual interactions at all. Look at what we have learned to find acceptable in our society by the history of our media. (These listed comments are not a degrading remark toward any person’s race, creed, color, gender, sexual orientation, except the so-called Pedophilia Orientation) It is simply to show the history of our human society and how important our media is to what we in society learn to find acceptable and tolerable. How long will it take before we become accepting & tolerant of Pedophilia? 

Now I first went public with my story back in Feb 2011 when I published ‘My Justice‘. I know of at least 30 authors who have published and connected with me on Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio to share their life filled with pain, emotional breakdowns, ongoing mental health issues, the flat out destruction of their soul from viciously violent & sadistic, even the so called ‘gentle’ incest or inter-family tolerated and accepted years of ongoing molestation and rapes.

 Please speak out you are no longer alone! We as a society have the power to end this now. April is Child Abuse Prevention Month. I am personally inviting every resource who is having an event where a survivor can speak to please give them that opportunity. There is nothing more powerful than seeing a survivor tell their story and release their trapped inner silence; the emotions will rock you to the very core of your soul. If you are holding an event please share in the Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio & Abuse Recovery Open Facebook Group. We will be announcing events on our shows beginning the last week of March. If you want to have your event announced please post it in our group and tell us who your main speaker will be and what are they sharing to make a difference. For all persons in our society, this is a plea for you to attend at least one event in April. Let our children actually see the support we want to give them. Let them take part and feel the energy that stands at their side. Encourage them to be involved and WEAR YOUR BLUE WITH PRIDE. I know of one resource who is selling shirts at this time everyone can buy one online for $25.00. Please let’s give our kids a life filled with a positive influence it is certainly the least they deserve and we can end what has been so blindly accepted throughout our human history. Please give them this gift of love & safety within their homes, their community, their schools, their life.

Thank you,

Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery & Talk Radio Programming

Butterfly Dreams Team

Patricia ‘Trish’ McKnight


Author/Advocate/Radio Host

Mentor/Crisis Resources/Survivor

Team: V.P. & COO Michal Madison, Kelly Townsend, Julia D’Alfanzo, Linda Walcher, Dr. Brenda Joyce Markert-Green, John Lewis Mealer, Mary Graziano, Faith McDaniel, Patricia Caldwell, Debbie Naylor Cox, Robbie Tshcannen, Sue Knepper

Advisory Team: Lynn C. Tolson (Beyond the Tears – A true survivors story) & Petra Luna (PLuna Foundation)

(c) Copyright Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery 2014

Published by @Trecia_Ann

Recently, Facebook locked and removed my decade long creation of work and public profile, which focused my work as an advocate, speaker, mentor, and creator of more than a few programs used throughout Illinois, but also shared nationally and some have reached international platforms. So.... let's start fresh and see where it goes! Please see the writings on this blog dating back into 2011, created after the publication of 'My Justice'. There are two specifically, which have been tagged and shared by many....."Judging Eyes" and "Triggers; what they are and how to handle them" I am a survivor of over thirty years trapped inside the silence and brutality of Family Facilitated Violence, Torture, and Child Sex Trafficking. In Feb. 2011, I chose to publish the secrets and the horrors endured; the many levels of destruction and decay which the community around me witnessed, ignored, condemned and blamed regardless of the injuries and tortures endured. It all became the learned patterns of self-hatred and tolerance which was a huge factor in my adult life. Have you endured childhood harm, or endured terroristic types of abuses? Did you feel unworthy of life, breathing, love or respect? Did you feel as if no one ever really saw you, heard you, or seemed to care about the silent cruelties of your existence? It wasn't until I honestly began a strong focus on healing myself, which took years of researching credible data and published research surrounding the lasting effects of abuse, violence, sexual harm, and human trafficking that I began to understand who I was and why there were many traits and tragedies that influenced my adult choices, relationships, the chaos deep in my soul and the behaviors used to survive. It seemed to control everything inside me and it was filled with pain, and tragedy. The research became my rebuilding journey and my road to advocacy, creating legislative changes, sitting as an active member and providing testimony in the creation of area task force operations, victim/survivor services, trauma informed awareness for law enforcement, educators, social services, healthcare and community providers. I began that research of understanding myself in 2008, wrote the memoir "My Justice' in 2010, began working to change statutes in my home state in 2013, became a Certified DV Advocate and Panel Member of DV Offender Education Program in 2015, which then initiated a decade long career as a trusted, confidential advocate, and a highly skilled and knowledgeable speaker/educator on the topic of Assessment, Family/Survivor Rebuilding, Trauma Informed Care & Response, with the primary focus on family/relationship acts of terroristic abuses and/or human trafficking. Beginning in January 2010 there have been developed programs and connected resources for men, women, children, and families who endured these same types of tragedies. Unfortunately, our human society still has barriers to seek help or speak openly about these types of tragedies, especially if it happened in our homes and families. The laws to protect from such harms were enacted for children in 1963, as an amendment to the Social Security Act. Domestic Violence was not a topic until 1995, when then Senator Joe Biden introduced the Violence Against Women Act, which has since been adapted to provide shelters, counseling, protection orders, and rebuilding services for ALL persons regardless of gender or identity. Although slavery was brought to an end by the historical act of President Abraham Lincoln, we unfortunately have millions of human beings still being traded, sold, controlled and trapped in a hellish evil, which often begins by a parent or intimate partner. Legislation didn't arise regarding the term 'Human Trafficking' until the turn of the new millennium. Protection for victims of human trafficking was signed into law as the 'Trafficking In Persons Act of 2000', which with modern day social media it quickly became a new hot-topic point, which then sparked the creation of Trauma Informed Care, Rebuilding & Trauma Therapy, and thus adult survivors began speaking out about the dark terrifying reality of Child Sex Trafficking. Today many use the term, Modern Day Slavery, and we have multi-faceted task force operations and rescue resources working around the globe to end this new form of human slavery. We also have a few hundred thousand or more who are adult survivors of histories involving Parental Child Sex Trafficking. In one recent study from 2018, they found 85% of these victims were trafficked by parents in trade for drugs, family needs, or basic human survival. As I look back on the career that grew from my own personal need to understand the chaos in my head, the constant failed relationships and almost murderous acts committed against me; as I deal with increasing health problems that includes multiples of head and spinal cord traumas; the most important goal for me from day one of this extremely personal experience; the healing and rebuilding of my own children and grandchildren who were all continued generational victims of the trauma influenced behaviors and choices that resulted from the destruction enforced by my mother and stepfather many decades ago. The little girl, 'Trecia Ann', she survived pure evil as an entire community witnessed, shamed, blamed, and dismissed the visible decay and rot, stench and filth covered, battered and intoxicated body of a young girl who was publicly exploited and shared in the bars of that small town, in her home with boys she attended school with and adult men from the local coalmine. It was as if they all got a thrill from watching her respond to the ring of that little brass bell. They laughed, molested, raped, and purchased for a few bucks or a few beers the sexual use of that young girl right in full public view! Her mother held the power to stop it all, but rather enjoyed having a 'slave' to cook, clean, care for the family as well as entertain the sadistic alcoholic man she chose to marry. Today, I'm so honored and proud to have that little girl's spirit with me. It is through the use of my lived experience, along with a decade of research, and at least five certifications in prevention, response, and trauma; I've assisted a few hundred survivors through the multilevel process of rebuilding and reclaiming their voice, their safety, their freedom! I've trained law enforcement, healthcare, childrens service investigators, our school educators, and co-presented in trainings with some outstanding experts in the field. For the many I've assisted or empowered, they continue becoming thriving survivors, advocates, authors, speakers, and most important of all; they are healing their children and grandchildren! It is a truly beautiful experience and I am so amazed to have been a spark, a resource, or a friend in their life reclaiming freedom. The adult children of generations past have broken through the glass ceiling and finally there is a hint of change in the world. "A lifetime filled with daily torture, tragedy, and pain creates someone completely different than we should have been. We feel that person inside, but our lives are altered by the emotional and physical suffering. We cover it up and hide it deep inside through substance abuse, which falsely helps us believe we are doing fine. The extreme physical and emotional injuries leave our mental and physical selves terribly impacted. Thankfully there is more information and resources of help available today for all types of adverse or traumatic experiences. We have specialized therapeutic help and healthcare professionals developing new ways to identify and assist persons harmed or at risk of harm. We have so much more to do, so please help by having casual open conversations with your friends, family, coworkers, leaders, and especially our kids. Teach them early how to avoid both online and in person harms. Encourage adults and kids both to use the BDA Buddy Skills 2.0, which you will find through my list of assessments and prevention strategies. "My Justice' was written through my own beginning of acknowledging and releasing the personal destruction of the girl once known as 'Trecia Ann'. It is not an easy read, but it has opened many eyes about the reality of evil that occurs inside our homes, against those too small to protect themselves or understand what's happening. It was published to release the thick layers of trauma, sex trafficking, and disfiguring neglect. It is the voice of the enslaved child who existed only to answer the ring of 'his' bell, and the enforced burden to keep my own private terrorist alive. 'My Justice' is NOT SUGGESTED FOR ANYONE UNDER 16 years of age. It discusses the permanently wounding life and the cycle of destruction that held me in tolerating ridicule, control, and violence in my adult relationships. This truth was published to inspire others to take an in-depth look at their life and behaviors as a result of their past, in hopes they too will better understand their suffering today, the continued relationships with the parents and family who inflicted those harms, and finally breaking free from that pain so they can reclaim their voice and their true sense of freedom! We always have the opportunity to learn that we are worthy, capable, incredibly strong, compassionate, and filled with endless possibilities. It is a choice. It is a conscious decision to dig into our trauma, take ownership of our own failures, the harm our choices have caused, and the work we need to do to change it and succeed for ourselves and our families. It is such an honor to have 'My Justice' used at the collegiate level for psychology classes, upcoming therapists, and educators. Today my life is very blessed. I'm finally safe, feel truly loved, finally feeling the magic of life! Always choose to see your star and how it shines on others in your journey. My greatest power only began to show when I first made the choice to end the violent relationships and behaviors around my children; to give them something better, something SAFE!! In choosing to share my own story, I've also gone the serious extra step to educate myself through years of research, attending training opportunities, and collaborating with other advocate resources focused in human resilience and healing from abuse, sexual harm, and sex trafficking. Today there are experts digging deep to recreate help and healing. I've chosen to use my past as a way to inspire a greater good and; hopefully, somehow change the cycle of tragedy in our homes so that we empower our kids to live a more positive path. The best education we can give is healing our survivors of traumatic experiences so we understand what they felt then and what they wish they would have had available; those who could have and should have said something. We can change things for our life today, but best of all in healing our wounds, we give communities a supportive working strategy in assisting the people in our lives. One step at a time, one caring soul at a time, we can give them a path to changing our human society as a whole. This is a tell-all, which was written in the midst of my third nervous breakdown as I struggled to put all my distorted pieces back together, and help my children understand how the violence I tolerated against me invaded their well-being. My children have always been my world, but my behaviors, lack of healthy parenting and life skills, and an inability to remain stable have caused another generation of suffering for my grandchildren. This is a very difficult thing to watch and the continued tragedies that seem to keep affecting the choices in my family. Writing this book was only the beginning of trying to release all that has haunted me for so many years. I have finally removed his thick, cruel, coal-stained hand which trapped me in fear for decades. Those hands and his evil, her housemaid and caregiver; created a slave, and that slave submitted to horrific and brutal attacks but always felt it was her burden to bear. I lived with that hand holding me down, continually terrorizing and silencing, stealing my voice to protect their pure evil. Throughout decades the dysfunction caused by the chaos inside my head would affect every relationship, my children, and cast a shadow of darkness on everything good in my life. Living in the true spirit of freedom, I have now become a strong advocate against the life cycle of human destruction. If we want to control our life and achievements today, then we cannot live stuck in the tragedy of hardships and pain. Life is meant to be lived, to be enjoyed, to see what you can do and what you can achieve, to find out what is important to you. We all become adults. We all have a burden to bear. Stand up and keep moving, keep living, keep dreaming. You have two choices in recreating and rebuilding yourself. Do you stay stuck in the dark shadows of your past? Do you dig deep and find that spirit that kept you alive so that you can become the proud, strong, capable, resilient, kind human being? Which do you choose and how will that choice affect your children and theirs? We can be supportive, and provide resources and suggest help so that families suffering from addiction or past trauma can find a recovery balance to rebuild their family into a more positive life pattern. We will recover, we will rebuild, we will conquer the pains of yesterday to live in the true sense of life, freedom, and safety today. Patricia 'Trish' McKnight Author: 'My Justice' Fndr/CEO: Butterfly Dreams Alliance, NFP Mentor/Advocate/Speaker/Survivor

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