Healing our past to change their future….

Hi there everyone; permit me to share with you the interview with a survivor that absolutely needs to go viral. Help me out. Watch just the first 15 minutes and I promise you will not be disappointed.

Friends do not miss this interview that will completely change your view about the issues which prevent healthy family development in every small community around the world. Please share this with your friends, family, co-workers, community leaders, even your media resources.

I would like to sincerely thank Ms. Rebecca Kimbel​ for being such a tremendous television host, interviewer, and allowing me to share with the world exactly what is the truth in “My Justice​”.

Thank you to Stephanie Mann​ & Safe Kids Now National Network, Bill Murray​, National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse (NAASCA.org); and most of all thank you to every person who has supported the path of very publicly sharing my horrific childhood and how this survivor can help empower every human being to be strong, live your life, and never ever give up.

Trust me darlins, it may have taken some 35 years of hell, but there is magic waiting for everyone. Your special someone will be there, you will rise above all of your sadness and trauma. You are amazing so let the world see you and know just how tremendous you are.

Miss Linda Wall Walcher​ – thank you my dearest teacher who inspired me then and the one who helps comfort me today. Love & magic everyone ❤ thank you 🙂

 

Building healthy families….

 

A special interview on the Rebecca Kimbel Show – a very honest discussion about the serious influence concerning crimes inside our family unit. We absolutely can change the future for our children, but only in ending this disease and helping Parents of past trauma heal so they can become a positive guide for their children. Addressing the decaying destructive disease which has caused more long-term illness & injury, has influence such a deep sense of pain & distortion that the numbers of suicides will never be fully known, and has protected extremely violent Family Predators throughout the history of mankind? Creating healthy families & raising healthy children takes a lot more than just proper diet and exercise. #EndingFamilyCrimes

Amend to ensure the offenders inside our homes are held just as guilty as the stranger on the street. It is horribly tragic when prisoners in our jails are given more protective rights than the innocent children they choose to attack.

Sadly only 6% of crimes against children are committed by someone outside the family circle. Prosecution for family offenders who use terroristic threats and attacks against young victims for the purpose of preventing prosecution and maintaining fierce control; thus preventing this victim or other persons in the home from speaking up or contacting assistance. We have a moral responsibility to our children to ensure we investigate, justify, and prosecute the family crimes, especially when committed against young victims.

Sign today & pass it forward. Our children deserve to have the same protection under the law as any adult. They deserve the greatest of our efforts to inspire positive success and encourage their future.

‘Family Crimes and Terroristic Abuse Act’ – Federal Prosecution for Grievous Injury and Sex Crimes against persons 15yrs or younger.

Please ask your #Legislator to review this information and make it an issue for our #Election2016 – Who is brave enough to stand in solidarity and end this pattern of extremely destructive, life altering, and forced silence in constant fear about the 92% of #CrimesAgainstChildren which are committed by #FamilyOffenders.

The greatest human tragedy; #FamilyCrimes the disease that passes into every generation and infects the life pattern of more people than any other disease known to mankind. Now it is time to open the door, end the silence, stop this destructive cycle in our human society today. You have the elective power to force their political direction. You have the voice and the freedom to inspire the greatest possible change for those who cannot defend themselves. Please take that chance and join with myself, Lisa Chilton and Ms. Dana Pfeiffer today. Together we can give them something better!!!

 

Meet the Congressman Who’s Heroically Breaking the Law by Giving Medical Cannabis to Sick Children | The Free Thought Project

Civil Disobedience is one of the greatest American texts, and was a prime influence for Martin Luther King, Jr., who said, “One has a moral responsibility to disobey unjust laws.

via Meet the Congressman Who’s Heroically Breaking the Law by Giving Medical Cannabis to Sick Children | The Free Thought Project.

Trish here – this is a truly heroic ‪#‎Congressman‬…..This man is not only upholding his commitment to his constituents, but he is also changing the view of our society. Not everyone agrees with ‪#‎MedicalCannabis‬ however, there are absolutely tremendous benefits on many different levels. The quality of life is much better, especially for someone who suffers in crisis. There are many laws in our country which interrupt our ‪#‎freedom‬. They don’t always help and protect those whom they are intended. It is only through courageous steps forward in rebuilding our decent human moral value with focus on the wellbeing of others around us, that we will recover our personal responsibility to our children and our community.

We can’t save everyone from sorrow and pain, this is a tragic truth. However dear friends, in each small community we must watch out for others around us. Ensure services of help are out in the open and that EVERY PERSON HAS ACCESS to the help they need. Sometimes the moral value is much more important than the financial gain of another.

In my view of the Medical Cannabis, it is simply the ‪#‎Pharmaceutical‬ ‪#‎Billionaire‬who is blocking the way for a plant that can be grown and is a completely natural remedy for ailments dating back to our ‪#‎NativeAmerican‬.
‪#‎CivilDisobedience‬ is one of the greatest American texts, and was a prime influence for Martin Luther King, Jr., who said, “One has a moral responsibility to disobey unjust laws.
Read more at http://thefreethoughtproject.com/georgia-lawmaker-defying…/…

 

Steps to Recovery by a survivor for survivors

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Six Daily Recovery & Rebuilding Tools; created by a survivor & geared to help survivors reclaim their incredible self!!

​​​Take a breath and a moment of quiet in a safe place. Your panic response has developed through different traumas. This influence was probably a repeated dominance and harm over a period of time. It will take time to develop the ability to feel safe; to actually live life in a true sense of freedom. Do not feel guilty about your pain. This is something another person CHOSE to inflict against you. All the fear you carry, the panic, the distorted behaviors and reactions, these are an injury caused by personally harming actions against you.

​​Build your SAFE CIRCLE, try the daily behavioral skills, and see just how strong, intelligent, capable, and wonderful you really are.

​One breath at a time, one baby step at a time – you are in control and you will create your own dreams.

The one priority needed to begin any healing journey; FEELING SAFE.

1>>List the persons in your SAFE SUPPORT CIRCLE– family, friends, therapist, neighbors –             list should include emergency phone contact

2>>List contacts of help for your immediate daily survival needs
(Shelter, Food, Job Skills, Education Assistance, Counseling, Transportation)​

3>>Create Daily To-Do List– Making phone calls to get help, cleaning house, grocery shopping, laundry – completing small simple tasks helps to rebuild self esteem, sense of accomplishment – learning responsible behavior skills provides self sustaining survival which can help prevent being dependent on another person for life necessities.

4>>Create Positivity List– ‘I CAN DO THIS’, ‘I AM SAFE’, ‘THE DANGER IS GONE NOW’, ‘I AM IN CHARGE’;  ALWAYS CARRY IT WITH YOU, if panicked find privacy, read out loud, concentrate on breathing, slow pace- change negative reaction into positive thoughts ​https://survivorsjustice.com/2014/02/26/triggers-what-are-they-and-how-do-we-work-through-them/

5>>Learn Emotional Wounds– understand you have anxiety, depression, perhaps Complex PTSD; research how these wounds will cause challenges in your activities today; going shopping, having lunch, being alone. Practice coping skills, monitor your actions/reactions changing behavioral responses & actions will prevent further victimization.

6>>Get Healthcare– A healthy body is a pathway to your recovery. It’s important to take care of any injuries or chronic health problems to allow the rest of your healing, and prevent any further victimization from another dominant person.

‘Always believe anything is possible with you in the active equation’~~
trish mcknight​​​​

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A human society creating Victims and Offenders……

Often trying to assist victims of trafficking and other dangerous crimes, we find they don’t always see how serious the harm. For them it is something they just always had to tolerate in order to survive, so as a result by the time they are older teens or adults, they might not even feel it was an actual crime. I know because it happened to me.

The first time he took me out to another location I was about 10 years old and it was a tugboat down around the Baldwin Illinois area. He used to take me with him quite often, something I couldn’t refuse without punishment and something my mother never questioned regardless of what condition I returned home. He picked up a 12pack of Pabst and we took off driving, him feeding me all but three of the beers which he drank. Needless to say I was wasted. I don’t remember everything, but I sadly remember all the hands, the touching, groping, and oral sex I was made to perform on at least one of the men. They lit up a joint and took full advantage of having the intoxicated little girl to play with for their (and his) amusement.

Next it was the bar where my mother worked & all the local coal miners hung out. I was 11 years old when my stepfather involved me in very public exploitative measures so men would buy him beer and he could watch as they all flirted and played with me. He offered the one young man time alone with me outside, thankfully the guy responded ‘She’s just a kid’. However it set off a rage of fury when we immediately left and I was beaten in the car because ‘You’re just too ugly, that’s why nobody wants to be with you.’ My head was bashed against the window a few times, on the dashboard, and his hands clenched around my throat.

Surprisingly my mother came walking up and pulled me out of the car. She didn’t ask why I was crying, or what had happened; she simply hustled me home angry and screaming at me for getting drunk. It was all my fault those men wanted to do things and Malcolm was beating the crap out of me.

This was just the beginning of what would be the next five years of private parties initiated by him with neighborhood boys, schoolmates, and grown men who came to our house on late Friday night. It was all so ‘normal’ for me. It’s what I had been beaten into tolerating and no one was doing anything to stop it. The boys and men always laughed and enjoyed it, my mother stayed in her bedroom and watched tv or she took off for the weekend and left me there.

In all honesty, I had never considered myself a ‘trafficked child’. I didn’t understand how everything that happened and all the ways that I was used, manipulated, and forced into these situations created such a mess and it trained my behavior to be exactly what he wanted; his own personal little prostitute. Sadly by the time I was around 13, that is exactly what the community talked about when they saw me.
How in the world was I supposed to understand exactly how wrong it was when no one was doing anything about it?

The community members whispered about it and how I messed around with their husbands, boyfriends, and sons. They whispered about the filth that covered my body, the body odor, the infected sores, and how I rarely ever had time allowed out of the house because there was always something I had to take care of, or there might be something or someone who needed me to do something. I was the girl their daughters could not hang out with and the girl their sons were never allowed to date. I’ll never forget how it felt growing up in the center of that small Illinois town while neighbors, family friends, teachers, and classmates all made fun of me and shamed me, but not a single person ever tried to help me. In the end the only way I knew how to get through a day without being beaten was to do whatever was ordered, whenever it was ordered, and with whomever was next in line.

It wasn’t until after I started really focusing on coping through my Complex PTSD, and the debilitating injuries from all the physical trauma which existed for some 20 years in my adult relationships. I couldn’t figure out what it was about me, why did all of this stuff happen and why didn’t anyone seem to care? This is when I began writing ‘My Justice’; hoping to put all my pieces back together and help my kids understand that their screwed up ideas about relationships had resulted from how I had been so well trained to tolerate extreme harm and never believe that I deserved anything different. I was almost 50 years old before I was able to connect the dots of trauma, to my lasting wounds today. It was after the book was published and I took a training seminar on trafficking before I realized ‘OMG, that was me’.

Helping victims of Family Crimes, whether it be extreme physical violence, sexual harm, or perhaps even trafficking; these persons do not always understand that they were victims at all. To them, to me, it was just survival. I had to do whatever was demanded and I developed survival coping skills in that horror. This is what happens when we dismiss the possibility or even witnessed exploitation or direct harm of a child.

In trying to help someone cope today, we must have compassion for the emotional instability, remember they are just beginning to realize exactly how much evil they had to endure just to survive. Almost all of the adult & teen prostitutes today, first became victims as a young child. To them their body is nothing more than a sexual object, one built to satisfy others and to endure whatever they might inflict.

Helping victims of Family Related Offenders is a difficult situation because we teach them quite young to be quiet, stop crying about it, it’s nothing, it’s because you did something, it’s because we need the financial help, it’s because we need a roof over our head, it’s your burden to carry those very ugly secrets and never tell anyone about what happens here.

How many more victims of trafficking, grievous injury, emotional trauma, and lasting mental health challenges will our human society continue to raise as we turn our backs and pretend nothing happened, or convince ourselves that it’s not our problem. If you know about a family or person in harm’s way, then it just became your problem. If you don’t get that person help, who will? It’s time to stop raising Victims & Offenders, it’s time to initiate intervention and community involvement to stop ALL crime, even the generational teaching of tolerance about crime inside our family.

Keep in mind that it’s not just the children who are forced or manipulated into multiple sexual interactions or forced to stay quiet as they are beaten beyond recognition. These actions against persons inside our homes affects all races, genders, and most importantly ALL AGES. There are no boundaries when it comes to inflicting harm on those who do not understand or are not able to defend themselves.

We must defend a persons right to be protected regardless of who they are or where they live. Home doesn’t have to be perfect, but it absolutely must be SAFE. To provide any change is going to take a strong united human effort. Ending the harm inside our families, means that we give our children a better, safer world to flourish in their dreams and achievements. Teaching that all beings deserve safety, that we have worldwide laws & constitutional laws defending our right to be safe. This should be taught in every basic history class across the country.

Give a child the gift of freedom without the fear of grievous harm, especially inside their home.
Using information & resources shared on www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery is just one possible source of help. There are resources around the world to aid in this recovery process and life skills development for healthy parenting. If you or someone you know is in distress or being harmed, please research available resources in your area.

 

Thanks & be a blessing to those in your life’s path

Trish McKnight

Author: ‘My Justice’

Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery & Talk Radio Network

Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Specialist

Family Violence Speaker & Educator

Family Crimes and Terroristic Abuse Act – ‘Trecia’s Law’

Illinois Updates Crimes Against Children

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Hello Friends,

Permit me to inform you of some changes we are initiating here in Illinois and how it just might be able to affect the future of our children & families across the nation.

You may have seen the petition – ‘Family Crimes & Terroristic Abuse Act’ -Trecia’s Law – https://www.change.org/p/family-crimes-and-terroristic-abuse-act-amending-prosecution-policy-provisions-in-crimes-of-family-related-exploitation-trafficking-extreme-acts-of-grievous-bodily-injury-threats-to-create-a-believed-sense-of-certain-death-terroristic-violence?recruiter=3351592&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink

Myself and two fellow advocate resource partners have submitted a collection of research to justify the need for Federal Policy & Prosecution Updates in measures to spot a ‘terrorized’ silent victim, and how to assist them through intervention & life skills recovery, which will prevent the cycle of family violence moving forward. Our collected data has been requested for further research by Assistant Attorney General, Jessica O’Leary. According to Ms. O’leary, she and her staff are confirming the Statistics Report which was personally investigated and published via Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery for FFY 2011 Child Maltreatment Report, Children’s Bureau.   https://survivorsjustice.com/child-maltreatment-report-ffy-2011/ Along with the statistics report, is also data from CDC, National Child Traumatic Stress Network, National Institute of Mental Health, National Institute of Health, National Domestic Violence Hotline, and National Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Network.

This data was recently addressed in my meeting with Congressman John Shimkus, who confirmed the Congressional Statement of 2012 Campus & Military Sexual Assault. In the published statement of Adult Sexual Assault they stated – ‘For every 1 report of sexual assault that is made, at least 6 others are not’. The tragedy of this is much worse when we consider this crime committed against a child, especially one who is trapped inside a home filled with control and fear. As of now we can absolutely confirm 1 in 9 children suffering sexual abuse, so if we allow this same variable we can assume at least 1 in 3 children who are being sexually assaulted and manipulated by adult offenders, which show direct family & parental offenders in 92% of all reported maltreatment cases.

When children are being shared, traded, drugged, or exploited by persons within their home there is most commonly a constant 24/7 dominance, which may be so extreme that threats of death or grievous injury, possibly including weapons, are used to silence children and control every moment of their existence. They are being trained to protect their family offender. They are being taught that society does not care if their parents are using given parental authority as a weapon against them, violating the written statutes of Human Rights Protection at the highest level as established by our United Nations Universal Declaration of Human Rights.  http://www.ohchr.org/EN/UDHR/Documents/UDHR_Translations/eng.pdf

Sadly warriors, as you know these types of crimes within our homes are quite commonly overlooked by our neighbors, community members, educators, even law enforcement. We do not prosecute the Family Offender for Crimes Against Humanity even though these are the most destructive crimes. We have years of documented studies which substantiate the ongoing life altering and permanently injuring effects from the painful burdens forced upon young persons; many of whom do not even understand what’s happening. This way of life becomes all they have ever know and influences the type of person they grow to become.

This is the pattern of harm which causes a young person to seek self medicating methods of coping in their home everyday. This is the pattern of harm which will affect their ability to focus on their education, to succeed at believing in their personal value as a human being, and the good they can pass on to their children. It affects criminal behavior, outbursts of anger, bullying, gang violence, and some of these victims end up becoming adult sexual predators and offenders against other children. It is the cycle of human destruction we have been taught to accept and tolerate, protect in secrecy and ignore within our family unit for centuries.

The amount of tax payer money spent to assist adult survivors, provide child protection, educate in prevention, helping those suffering addiction, homelessness, lack of job skills, education, ongoing mental & medical healthcare; these tax dollars can never be fully accounted for but according to information available by CDC today, it is estimated at some $130 Billion every single year.

We know this is a man-made type of disease which impacts every age, gender, ethnicity, economic and geographic area. We know there are absolutely no barriers this disease doesn’t invade and the only cure is to provide a safe healthy home environment. Not every family can be assisted. Not every child can be saved. However, if we implement awareness posters, education in schools, and provide the necessary prosecution guidelines to deter predators of Family Crimes, we can at least provide a beginning hope and societal involvement to assist as many as possible.

Throughout human history we have repeatedly forced unspeakable crimes against those who cannot defend themselves and those in extreme destitute areas. Generation after generation have been taught to dismiss some level of violence within the family unit, and as a result it has been permitted to become more vicious and severely destructive, affecting more lives and causing more deaths than any other disease known to mankind. The only way to end this grievous pandemic is by working together.

Many new laws and strategies of prevention have been implemented since the creation of Child Abuse Prevention Act 1984 & Violence Against Women Act 1994. As intelligent as the human being is we have only just updated our laws in 2014 to permit protections & assistance resources for ALL persons of harm. This now allows for each state to provide resources for Men, Women & Children. It widens the scope of prosecution, and releases persons under the age of 18 years from prosecution when they are arrested or rescued in crimes of prostitution. No longer across our nation can any minor child be held responsible for the act of prostitution; they cannot give consent to the sexual act, so therefore they cannot be prosecuted for it. These measures are huge, but it still does not deter a Family Offender.

Every state has their own statute guidelines for Criminal Child Sexual Abuse, Sex Trafficking, Physical Injury, and Neglect. Each state has their own Statute of Limitations regarding how long a child victim has to bring forth charges for their suffering. In Illinois child victims have ONE YEAR after their 18th birthday for these types of crimes, and when it comes to physical harm it must be prosecuted within three years from the date of injury. We allow 20 years for Criminal Sexual Abuse of a Child, but only ONE YEAR for the crime of Criminal Sexual Assault or Forced Sexual Servitude of a child. These are the technicalities which prevent a balance and stable set of prosecutorial measures and continue to confuse many Social Services Agents when determining a child’s welfare. Many states have initiated Erin’s Law which permits Public School Sexual Abuse Education; however very few schools have been able to fund the additional trainings needed to provide this prevention measure.

The measures stipulated in ‘Family Crimes and Terroristic Abuse Act’ begins quite simply; our country and our United Nations both have written laws to protect Human Rights, specifically the RIGHT TO BE SAFE. This is our greatest individual protection and guarantees that without regard to age, gender, ethnicity, religion, geographic or economic standing; every person has a right to be free from harm & free from the fear of harm.

This is basic education in our American & Societal History; giving all schools the power to create the greatest change for our human society in history by simply making sure that every young person believes that without regard to the type of harm being done, without regard to who the offender might be; without regard to any demographic; NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO CAUSE GRIEVOUS INJURY OR SEX CRIMES AGAINST YOU.

As adults expect that our laws be enforced when it comes to our protection, but yet we do not teach that same standard to our children. We have the definitions and statutes needed to provide them with the voice they deserve when violations are committed against them, especially when the action is a daily/weekly offense which might go on for years and be committed with extreme heinous; a manner that can only be described as ‘terroristic abuse’.
Review the information on this petition and encourage your legislators to begin addressing this issue now. We will only end this destructive disease as a United Human Society, and it will take each and every victim or adult survivor to lead the way in the healthy development of our children tomorrow. Bringing the nature of Family Crimes to the forefront of our society will influence the direction of our basic human existence as a whole, and the overall wellbeing of our entire planet. For the sake of all that it is good, please help implement ‘Family Crimes & Terroristic Abuse Act’  https://www.change.org/p/family-crimes-and-terroristic-abuse-act-amending-prosecution-policy-provisions-in-crimes-of-family-related-exploitation-trafficking-extreme-acts-of-grievous-bodily-injury-threats-to-create-a-believed-sense-of-certain-death-terroristic-violence

Thank you for your time and consideration. If you have any questions about research collected, would like to take our survey on ‘terroristic abuse’, or would like to donate to provide the needed funding as we move forward; please feel free to contact me at p.mcknight@charter.net.

Today we have resources across the country and around the world. Today we have proven scientific data on the many types of developmental impairments as a result of these traumas. Today we are strong adults who have addressed almost every type of societal issue; Gay Rights, Women’s Rights, Civil Rights, even Human Rights. However, it seems our greatest failure would be to ensure that every child is given the same protections under the law and permitted the necessary assistance, including time in healthy development, before deciding to bring forth charges for the varying degrees of harm endured. We believe that as the strong survivors of yesterday our greatest accomplishment will be how we influence the safety of our children tomorrow.

Respectfully,
Patricia A. McKnight

You can attend our upcoming CONFERENCE FOR FREE – http://www.eventbrite.com/o/butterfly-dreams-abuse-recovery-and-grounds-of-grace-overcoming-human-trafficking-9130462958

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trish.mcknight@live.com
Owner/CEO – Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery (http://www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery.com/)

Researcher/Speaker/Advocate/Author: ‘My Justice’

Peer Support/Assistance Resource
Cert.Human Trafficking 101 Trainer

Domestic Violence Support Advocate

Child Sexual Abuse Awareness & Prevention Specialist

**Always believe anything is possible with you in the active equation ~~

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