There must be something we learn from our past…..

Permit a few moments please. You will find all of my contact information below in the signature area of this email if you decide to speak with me, which of course I hope you do.
For three years I’ve been meeting with, speaking to, collaborating via email, and gaining support through speaking venues; encouraging our legislators in Illinois to update our Statute of Limitations for Sex Crimes Against Children & Human Trafficking. Sadly in our rather rural areas family members are usually the ones who share the kids with others in what is often just random private parties at their house or at the homes of others. It happens everyday, but we turn our heads and ignore the deep sorrow and trauma.
Along with this nightmare is also the blatant disregard which can often be horrific neglect, emotional trauma, threats, what I often refer to as ‘terroristic’ actions. These are used in both domestic violence situations to keep victims trapped in the abusers control, but more often than not; these acts are the main reason why kids will remain silent and endure the nightmares of home. Where will they go and what will happen if they say something or tell someone? This is their home, this is their family, this is all they know; this is their ‘normal’.
I am really happy to say that as of yesterday, Illinois Statute of Limitations – Criminal Sexual Abuse & Criminal Sexual Assault of a Child was heard under Senate Bill #SB189, which I’m very happy to share was voted unanimously by Senate Judiciary Committee. House Bill #HB3629 Human Trafficking of Victims Under 18, is now approved by the Senate as #SB840 and Rep Jay Hoffman has picked it up in the Illinois House Assembly to move forward as a paragraph attachment to #SB189. HOwever they do it, let’s get it moving forward Illinois. Still, it’s a bit frustrating that even though I’ve been using all of my data on statistics research and psych impact of ‘terroristic trauma’; to create and encourage our legislative representatives, from the House to Congress to the White House; yet not a single person has returned my call about information or updates for what was originally #HB3629.
There must be something of value in this story. There must be something we can learn from our past. As we teach about bullying and shaming; this is disregard of what is destroying lives and sending people down a very dark path in life. I believe if we really want to help our country and our world recover from the many tragedies that strike in our communities everyday; we must first pay attention to those closest to us and acknowledge our responsibility to help them by using the tools and knowledge we have available today.
It’s a huge tragedy when it takes a death of a child or a near death to gain media attention. I’m asking you to please view the attached video and help me get this message out there. I’ve been trying for three years in our legislative area. I’ve been a certified Illinois advocate since 2014; I’ve been an active online & personal mentor/assistant for victims & survivors since 2010. Please help, this is something that CANNOT be accomplished by just one person, just one community, just one legislator. This must be a Human Initiative because Every Life Matters!!!
My kindest regards,
Patricia ‘Trish’ McKnight
Phone: 618.304.7438
Email: p.mcknight@charter.net
Cert DV & CA Advocate – Illinois
Cert Human Trafficking Trainer
Speaker/Author/Mentor/Survivor
Your Voice Radio Network
Author: ‘My Justice’

Published by @ButterflyTrish

I am a survivor of over thirty years trapped inside the silence and brutality of Family Crimes, Child Sex Trafficking, and a life lived pattern of tolerance for over 30 years in almost murderous relationships. In Feb. 2011 I chose to publish the truth about what happened in our home, the community around me, and the learned patterns of self-hatred and tolerance which became such a huge factor in my life. My life today was built through publishing 'My Justice'. I never would felt worthy of life, breathing, love & respect with first healing myself. There were many things the traits and tragedies that influenced my life seemed to control everything inside me and it was nothing but sadness and fake emotions. Only by facing the horrors I went through, the choices I made as a woman & mother, then relating to the greatest guilt I have; how the trauma behavior has affected my children's lives. It's my hope to help others get through their battles, regardless of the type of trauma because when we hurt our lives are forever changed. This graphic, violent memoir is NOT SUGGESTED FOR ANYONE UNDER 14 years of age. It discusses the permanently wounding life and the cycle of destruction that held me in expecting/tolerating ridicule and violence in my adult relationships. This truth was published to inspire others to take an in-depth look at their life and behaviors as a result of their past. Connect the dots of your rebuilding in understanding the pattern of adult choices in coping addictions, parenting, and partners; even affecting our careers and self-sustainable life. I'm so honored to have 'My Justice' used at the collegiate level for psychology classes, upcoming therapists and educators. Today my life is very blessed. I'm finally safe, finally truly loved, finally feeling the magic of what life is supposed to be like. My greatest power only began to show when I first made the choice to end the violent relationships and behaviors around my children; to give them something better, something SAFE!! In choosing to share my own story, I've also gone that serious extra step to educate myself through years of research, attending training opportunity, and collaborating with other advocate resources, abuse, sexual harm, and the experts digging deep to recreate help and healing. I've chosen to use my past as a way to inspire a greater good; hopefully somehow change the cycle of tragedy in our homes so that we empower our kids to live a more positive path. The best education we can give, is a survivor of traumatic experiences who can use what they felt then and what they wish they would have had available; those who could have and should have said something. We can change things for our life today, but best of all in healing our wounds, we give communities a supportive working strategy in assisting the people in our lives. One step at a time, one caring soul at a time, we can give them a path to changing our human society as a whole. This is a tell all, which was written in the midst of my third nervous breakdown as I struggled to put all my distorted pieces back together, help my children understand how the violence I tolerated against me invaded their emotional well-being. My children have always been my world, but my behaviors, lack of healthy parenting and life skills, and an inability to remain stable has caused another generation of suffering for my grandchildren. This is a very difficult thing to watch and the continued tragedies that seem to keep affecting the choices in my family. Writing this book was only the beginning of trying to release all that has haunted me for so many years. I have finally removed his thick, cruel, coal stained hand which trapped me in fear for decades. Those hands and his evil, her housemaid and caregiver; they created a slave and that slave submitted to horrific and brutal attacks but always felt it was her burden to bare. I lived with that hand holding me down to terrorize and steal away my voice, holding me captive in the dysfunction of the aftermath and casting a shadow of darkness on everything good in my life. Living in the true spirit of freedom, I have now become a strong advocate against the life cycle of human destruction. We cannot live stuck in the tragedy of hardships and pain. Life is meant to be lived, to be enjoyed, to see what you can do and what you can achieve, to find out what is important to you. We all become adults. We all have a burden to bare. Stand up and keep moving, keep living, keep dreaming. You have two choices in recreating and rebuilding yourself. Do you stay stuck in the dark shadows of your past? Do you dig deep and find that spirit that kept you alive so that you could become the proud, strong, capable, resilient, kind human being ? Which do you choose and how will that choice affect your children and theirs? We can be supportive, provide resources and suggestions for help so that families suffering with addiction or past trauma themselves can find a recovery balance to rebuild their family in a more positive life pattern. We will recover, we will rebuild, we will conquer the pains of yesterday to live in the true sense of life, freedom and safety today. Patricia 'Trish' McKnight Author: 'My Justice' Fndr/CEO: Butterfly Dreams Alliance, NFP Mentor/Advocate/Speaker/Survivor

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