The Maddening Silence!!

When you come from a battered past, whether it be emotional, physical, sexual or even a neglectful pattern of generational abuse/family or relationship violence; we are trained, as anyone would be, to behave in certain manners. These teachings can reflect in many ways throughout our life.   Patterns & Beliefs Of Victims:     1) We don’tContinue reading “The Maddening Silence!!”

The distorted views, perceptions, value I passed forward……

Coming from my history where sexual activity, alcohol, drugs, and value was only felt through being desired by a man; I’ve done some pretty horrible things in my life. “If someone wanted to have sex with me, then I was worthy of existence” My only perceived value was in my sexuality as an object, notContinue reading “The distorted views, perceptions, value I passed forward……”

Three Coping Skills Everyone Can Use–becoming your own thriver!!!

We all have something that has happened to darken our world, even those who are just regular folks and have never experienced any form of abuse or violence, still have something that has invaded their life with a cloud of bad memories. It’s really hard to focus on our present life when we have allContinue reading “Three Coping Skills Everyone Can Use–becoming your own thriver!!!”

Here’s to providing a positive influence on our tomorrow!!!

So what is this healing thing? Can we accept who we are now? What about accepting what we have either done to others or how we have impacted the lives of those who love us? I’m thinking about where I am now, who I am now; mainly because of building the Butterfly Dreams Abuse RecoveryContinue reading “Here’s to providing a positive influence on our tomorrow!!!”

Exciting News – Welcome to Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery!!!

Friends, Advocates, Organizations, Foundations, Survivors  All are Welcome!!! Today I’d like to make the official announcement of my next step in this journey. Founder; Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery You are invited to visit the new website and check out the information. You will find the ‘Welcome’ page to enlighten on what is happening here. ThereContinue reading “Exciting News – Welcome to Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery!!!”

Hopes, Dreams, Moments of Laughter; Thriving

          Hopes, dreams, laughter;         Victims do not have grand moments of these three irreplaceable gifts in life. When you live as a victim of abuse or violence you thrive for the calm moments, rather than filling them with hopes, dreams, and laughter. Maybe you view things as I once did: IContinue reading “Hopes, Dreams, Moments of Laughter; Thriving”

Surviving, living, believing, achieving; Healing from Abuse!!

Posted Nov. 13,2012 It was another restless night of haunting memories and emotions!! Its been awhile since I’ve posted a blog, but there are some things that are rushing around in my head this morning, actually they’ve been swimming around in there since yesterday afternoon. Yesterday, as I was online building the information on the newContinue reading “Surviving, living, believing, achieving; Healing from Abuse!!”

What are we going to do for them???

Mankind has accepted the acts of maintaining our homes through fierce control for decades. We’ve turned away as our sons and daughters are being beaten, molested, raped, sodomized; forced to do unspeakable acts, but even with all that I’ve seen change in the past two years it still is not enough!!! I ask EVERYONE; When willContinue reading “What are we going to do for them???”

Domestic Violence…..Intimate view of the Red Flags and Warning Signs of an Abuser

Do you know the Red Flags and Warning Signs of an abusive partner? How do you view your own self-worth and relationships? This may be triggering for some but it is intended as a upclose and intimate view of Interpersonal Violence and may be the life saving influence for another. Please help pass this informationContinue reading “Domestic Violence…..Intimate view of the Red Flags and Warning Signs of an Abuser”