Do We Really Understand What This Means????

 

 This is a picture of me as a child when the abuse from the man who became my stepfather first occurred. Do you see the innocence shared in this child’s face? Do you see the sparkling young girl who is waiting to bloom? This child died!!!!

In the very midst of the Sandusky Trial, I have to wonder if we really appreciate what this means? This is a Voice Awakening Event for all who are survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. This trial will represent what our future in the battle to end this abuse will be. We can now step forward without shame or fear and speak out about the abuses we have endured.

There are literally millions of us walking about in this world each day. We carry these deep dark secrets of our past, hoping that no one sees what disgusting acts we have had to commit and accept in order to get through our days. We were children who wanted to run and play with our friends. We tried to do our homework and pay attention in our classes. We cried in silence as the evil acts destroyed our souls.

This is the time that I am asking all survivors of abuse to pull together on the internet and within our own community; this is the time to speak about the secrets we have kept. Remember that these are not good secrets!!! These are black ugly secrets that have trapped us in a world separate from our true happiness. You can now face yourself in the mirror and utter the voice of your child.

I am at a new place in my life now after sharing my voice to help support and empower other survivors of abuse, both child abuse & domestic violence. I lived that ugly life of a continued acceptance of the cruelty that was taught to me as a child. I have made the mistakes of a woman and mother in this continued pattern of life. It is the deep dark secrets that move forward with us and will sneak out at times to effect and destroy all that is good in our world. Since I published my own true horror story of a lifetime spent in abuse, have learned the power of releasing these secrets.

My life has been renewed in many ways. First and foremost is the repair of the relationship between myself and my children. My eyes now can see the wonderful blessings I have been given and appreciate the peace that continues to grow within. I encourage all survivors of abuse to please now take this opportunity. You do not have to go public with your ugly secrets. You only have to admit them to yourself. You only have to look in the mirror and finally say, “I was sexually abused as a child.” That is the most powerful beginning one can offer you. This trial will give many the courage to speak out publicly, but most important is simply admitting it to yourself. Embrace the child that still lives within and holds these secrets with her mouth held tight. Allow this child to finally breathe and give her the voice that was taken.

You are a beautiful rose waiting to bloom. Take this amazing chance and comfort that child within. Let her see the love & safety around her. Let her see where her life is at now and where it can go in the future. Be empowered and encouraged to join with other survivors and take a stand to protect the children of our next generation. Be part of this wonderful journey.

I beg you to please share this blog with others. Please let everyone know that this is our chance to speak without shame or blame; to finally remove the stain of silence that has been forced upon us. Join me and encourage those around you to give voice to these ugly vicious crimes; the crimes that destroy not only your life, but also affect the live’s of our children and grandchildren.

We all deserve to have roses in our garden of life. Please do not keep these secrets of silent destruction. Share them as we support all who come forward. Justice is a voice we all deserve!!!!

Blessings of Love & Light

Patricia A. McKnight

Author/Survivor/Advocate/Support Grp Mngr/BTR Host & Exec. Dirctr.

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Check out my other blogs and be sure to take a look at the novel

“My Justice” – Authorhouse.com/Amazon/Barne’s&Noble

Available in Paperback, E-book, Kindle & Nook

June Line Up for Dreamcatchers Blog Talk Radio

Dreamcatchers For Abused Children

Blog Talk Radio

June Guests & Special Shows

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/dreamcatchers/2012/06/07/child-abuse-and-survival-education-with-patricia-mcknight

Please join with me and the amazing team at Dreamcatchers as we welcome this month’s wonderful guests. There are just a couple that we are welcoming back who we had problems with their previous broadcast or there was more to their story. I hope that all of you will join in the shows, grab the knowledge and empowerment from our guests, then pass this forward to share with others. Our programs always depend on your involvement and your voice. Please call in to (9178)932-1132 to speak with me live and watch for those Facebook Event Invitations that I send to each on my friends list.

Here’s Our Line Up!!!

Wednesday, June 6th – Survivor/Author/Advocate  

 Mr. Jan L. Frayne – Sharing his amazing story of survival from child abuse “Beyond Survivor – Rising Out of the Ashes of Childhood Abuse”

Thursday, June 7th –  Author/Advocate/Blog Talk Host

Ms. Julie Federico w/ her two wonderful children’s books

“Some Parts are not for Sharing” & “Anger is Ok – Violence is Not”

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June 10th thru the 16th – I will be out-of-town, not broadcasting. Still pending as to whether we will have another host step in to share with you.

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Monday, June 18th – Forensic Nurse Exmnr, Ms. Charla Jamerson

joining to talk about the expectations for a victim of Sexual Assault.

Wednesday, June 20 – Award Winning Free Lance Author/Editor –

 Ms. Paula Felps – Also a Sexual Abuse Survivor w/ her organization Sexual Abuse Resource Network

Thursday, June 21st – Survivor/Author/Advocate Ms. Angelica Harris

Ms. Harris is a return guest to complete her very powerful story that is now a memoir to her survival through abuse & domestic violence.

Wednesday, June 27 – Survivor/Artist – Ms. MaryAnn Gougler

Ms. Gougler will be sharing her story and the power of healing through art therapy.

Thursday, June 28 – Ms. Mandy Troutan

Survivor/Author comes to join us; sharing the release of her new novel; “Maybe Today”.

All of the specifics on each guest and our discussions will be shared on the Facebook Event Invitations. Please join in for the wonderful information these guests have to share. I am honored to host this awesome line up of Survivors/Authors/Advocates/Artist who will share their knowledge and survival with you. You too deserve to be the blooming beautiful rose as intended. Remember child abuse changes the person we were meant to be so that we can survive, but in healing we learn to put the pieces of our soul back together and grow in the light to lead others.

Thank you for viewing & sharing this announcement!!!

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Please view our Calendar of Upcoming Events for more Dreamcatchers for Abused Children Events & Activities!!!

Patricia A. McKnight

Exec. Director & Host

Survivor/Author/Advocate

Dreamcatchers for Abused Children

Dreamcatchers Blog Talk Radio – Upcoming Shows

Dreamcatchers Blog Talk RadioDreamcatchers for Abused Children

Blog Talk Radio Programming

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/dreamcatchers

Monday, Wednesday, Thursday

9pm e.s.t.

Exec.Director & Host

Tricia A. McKnight

           We have had a very busy 6 weeks on the radio program, with so many amazing advocates and survivors coming to share their empowerment and inspiration with us. This will continue through the month of May and into June, so I thought I’d share our scheduled programs for the rest of this month.

Beginning with tonight; we have MMA Fighter/Advocate; Joey Primak.  Together he and I are going to discuss the Males Survivors of Domestic Violence. While we can see by the stats provided that the majority of physical attacks of battery have been primarily men abusers, there are also many men who have been financially, emotionally and physically abused by their wife/partner (male & female). As we await updated information on the passing of the Violence Against Women Act; which now included men in its language to provide the same resources that are available for women. Unfortunately at this point however, there are very few resources for men at this time. Most men remain silent because of the fear of being shamed or not believed when they report a case of Domestic Violence. Joey is a survivor of this crime as well a survivor of child abuse that we have chatted with before. Now he is coming back to share the spirit of his courage in speaking out about the need for better resources to men for the crimes of rape and domestic battery.

On Thurs. May 24th- Our show will be; GETTING OUT & MOVING ON! This will be an Open Discussion Format with your calls and your shares. If you have a special topic of discussion or a story that you would like to share, you can either email me at tricia.mcknight@hotmail.com or you can message me at http://www.facebook.com/triciagirl62 For this program I strongly encourage you to invite family & friends to listen in live or to the archive as we will be discussing the need to recognize the violence, gauge the level of danger, making a plan of escape, getting out safe and then moving forward.

Monday May 28th – Ms. Kelly Karius will be joining me for a share on her organization, NO SUCH THING AS A BULLY. It was through a mutual friend that I became acquainted with Kelly and have had the pleasure of sharing a blog talk program with her before. Her program is aimed at changing the language, the stigma, and the violence attached to BULLYING. I believe you will enjoy this program and find it very informative on dealing with and explaining a bully to your children. Again this is a topic for all family members!!!

Wednesday, May 30th – Musician/Advocate Michael Skinner will be coming back to do a show focusing on May – Mental Health Awareness Month. Michael and his organization Surviving Spirit does a lot to recognize the mental illness related to the aftermath of abuse. Also how hard it can be to cope with BiPolar Disorder; Schizophrenia; Depression; P.T.S.D. and other related problems.

Thursday, May 31st – Advocate Ms. Shirelle “Diamond” Hogan will be joining me; hopefully we will also have two other survivors. The three ladies were a panel interview for a 3 part series of “What Goes On in the Mind of a Battered Woman”. It was Journalist/Author Jerome L. Whitehead who did this interview series and I would like to take a look at who they were while in the midst of the violence and who they are now. How did they first acknowledge the violence they were in? How did they go about getting out and being safe? How are they impacting the lives of others with their survival stories now?

This is the line up that will take us through the end of May and you can find this and more on our UPCOMING EVENTS CALENDAR which is available on the main website @ http://www.dreamcatchersforabusedchildren.com

Hopefully, all of you will join in for these shows and support our guests and those who call in to share. We want to give everyone that positive empowerment to share the information for educational and awareness purposes, but also to help anyone who may be struggling in the silence of these crimes. It seems the abuses that exist and go on everyday in our homes is still one topic that society does not wish to discuss, but we want to keep it in the forefront of our society to help create a change for something better, something SAFE FOR EVERYONE!!!

Please leave any comments or questions about this line up here or on my Facebook page. As always an event will be created with the Event on Facebook and invitations will be sent to those on my friends list. The team at Dreamcatchers wishes everyone safety and happiness in their lives.

We all deserve those beautiful roses in our garden of life!!!

Male Sexual Abuse Survivor/Author/Advocate; Jan Frayne

Dreamcatchers for Abused Children

Blog Talk Radio Programming

Welcomes Tonight

Mr. Jan Frayne

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/dreamcatchers/2012/05/18/child-abuse-and-survival-education-with-patricia-mcknight

Tonight our guest is a man I’ve been communicating with personally via Twitter/Facebook for about 6 months now. I was honored when he asked me to provide a write up about his new novel, “Beyond Survivor – Rising from the Ashes of Childhood Sexual Abuse”. Even more, I was flabbergasted when he published this write-up on the back cover of his book. Jan and I have become quite connected and he is an extremely dedicated advocate. Hoping to inspire and empower more men to speak out of the cruelties against them, never to be shamed and breaking the myths of Male Childhood Sexual Abuse.

Mr. Frayne’s powerfully and beautifully written novel of Poetry and Short Stories will take you through his process of healing from this torture. You will be allowed to feel the true depth of his silence and in the end, finding the courage to speak up. He has become successful in his life and is hoping that the voice of our many men and boys, who have been held captive, will finally gain their needed support to speak  without shame.

You can go to the following sites to read his blog and find out more about this incredible man. Connect with him and allow his story to create an empowerment for others to come forward in safety. Our show will begin at 9:00pm e.s.t. and our call in number to listen or share is (917)932-1132.

Survivor/Author/Advocate

New Novel: “Beyond Survivor – Rising from the Ashes of Childhood Sexual Abuse” http://bookstore.authorhouse.com/Products/SKU-000556774/Beyond-Survivor–Rising-from-the-Ashes-of-Childhood-Sexual-Abuse.aspx

Jan Frayne’s Blog Site; http://whatislove-2010.blogspot.com/

See his PRWeb Release Here – http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&frm=1&source=web&cd=18&ved=0CGUQFjAHOAo&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.prweb.com%2Freleases%2F2012%2F4%2Fprweb9435690.htm&ei=_wK1T-uONoSu8QSKweDVDw&usg=AFQjCNGJe4sFxWZBeM5WqnT1-oc3UGNOvg

Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/jan.frayne

Domestic Violence Healing with Angelica Harris

Dreamcatchers for Abused Children

Blog Talk Radio

Welcomes Tonight

Author/Advocate; Ms. Angelica Harris

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/dreamcatchers/2012/05/17/child-abuse-and-survival-education-with-patricia-mcknight

Our Dreamcatchers Blog Talk Radio Program w/ Exec. Director & Host; Patricia “Tricia” McKnight, welcomes an impressive survivor of Sexual Abuse and living within the Domestic Violence of her parents and her mother’s sinking into mental illness. This wonderful and inspiring Author/Advocate, is using her story, partnering with organizations such as, Institute of Violence, Abuse and Trauma and Amnesty International. Through this combined effort Ms. Harris is devoted to not only raising awareness about the damage these crimes can do, but also to bring a sense of support & healing to those effected.

Ms. Harris changed her world in 2010 by writing her memoirs. She had always enjoyed writing and believed it to be her great escape through her teens and onward. It is through this love of writing that she developed/founded the Excalibur Reading Program. This pilot program is now being used in designated Queens, NY Public Schools. The Excalibur Reading Program, is a non-profit program that brings the imagination of escape & coping, as well as mid-evil conquering, to these children; hoping to inspire a way to help them cope with these problems they live with each day.

Please join us beginning at 9pm e.s.t. this evening for another wonderful share from a highly inspiring survivor who is sincerely devoted to making a difference. Remember our call in number is (917)932-1132!! You can call in to listen through your phone or press 1 to connect and talk live with us.

Here is the main site for information on our guest & her amazing Excalibur Reading Program — http://www.angelicaharris.com/

You can find out about her book, “Living with Rage” and much more.

International Parental Abduction w/ Peter Thomas Senese

Dreamcatchers for Abused Children

Blog Talk Radio

Special Guest

Peter Thomas Senese & Attny. Ann Marquez

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/dreamcatchers/2012/05/10/child-abuse-and-survival-education-with-patricia-mcknight

Tonight on the Dreamcatchers Blog Talk Radio our host & Exec. Director, Tricia McKnight, will be sitting in with two very special guests from the I CARE Foundation. Please join us in welcoming Author/Advocate Peter Thomas Senese and Attorney Ann Marquez, who are joining me for a sit down Q & A on the I CARE Foundation and International Parental Abduction.

Peter and Ms. Ann Marquez, who previously held the position of Senior Litigator for New York State Child Protective Services, are going to give us a few inside bits to the mess we call CPS; as well we will be chatting about a few of their recent international rescues of kidnapped children. They are also going to share with us what we can expect to see from this amazing team as they move forward in this battle to help prevent the abduction and human trafficking of our children.

Most parents may never know the fear of having their child kidnapped by the opposite parent and taken to a country where the laws to protect them from Pedophilia or Trafficking are not viewed with the harsh objectiveness as here in the United States. Some of us have known the anguish of having them stolen into another state or taken wrongly by the Protective Social Services unit. This leaves a parent with a mind racing full of unimaginable fear and worry over what could happen to their child; I am one of those parents and know this huge depth of pain that takes over our world. But imagine your child being taken out of the country!!! Where do you go for help? Who can you call to find out what resources are available to help you get them back? This is the amazing team at the I CARE Foundation who review laws and fight the international borders to hunt for these children and return them to the custodial loving parent.

Tonight’s discussion with Peter & Ann will be something for all of us to listen in on. We may never have to go through this unimaginable fear, but we may be the one to see a kidnapped child while out on vacation to another country or perhaps while out on a cruise ship. We want you to know what to do and also who to contact if you are the Chasing Parent and as in Peter Thomas Senese’s best-selling novel, what to expect when you are “Chasing the Cyclone”.

Please encourage your family and friends to join in for another great discussion on the Dreamcatchers Blog Talk Radio tonight. We begin our broadcast at 9pm e.s.t. and our phone lines are always open to allow your thoughts, shares, and questions. You can call in to listen or chat live at (917)932-1132. Please help protect the safety of all children and stay vigilant with us in this battle to end the many abuses against them.

Here are a few links to find out more about tonight’s special guests:

http://www.peterthomassenese.com/

http://www.chasingthecyclone.com/Abduction_Documentary.html

http://www.chasingthecyclone.com/CHASING_THE_CYCLONE_Home_Pa.php

Mark A. Palmer & Jessica’s Law Now on the BTR!!

 

Dreamcatchers for Abused Children

Blog Talk Radio

Welcomes Tonight

Mark A. Palmer

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/dreamcatchers/2012/05/08/child-abuse-and-survival-education-with-patricia-mcknight

 Tonight on our Blog Talk Radio, Host & Exec. Director, Tricia McKnight welcomes a man who fights endlessly to help locate and find our missing children. Please join us as we share a great discussion with Mr. Mark A. Palmer!!

Mark is a tireless advocate who strives above and beyond to locate our missing children. Having worked hard to enact some version of Jessica’s Law into 44 states. He and his organization have worked in over 500 cases of missing children and make it their mission to fight for tougher laws. The importance of creating laws across our nation to protect our children from the many pedophiles, monsters & murderers is very crucial. Please join in as we share all that Mark and the Jessica’s Law Now organization is doing to ensure just that.

Our blog talk program this evening is very important for all to get involved. We will be sharing not only about Jessica’s Law but also about some of the missing children that this organization is working at locating now, including Isabel Celis. If you recall there has been a lot of posts concerning this little girl’s disappearance. This beautiful little 6-year-old was stolen in the middle of the night while her family slept. Some 17 Sex Offenders that lived close by have already been interviewed and cleared. Where is this child and the many millions more who are missing? How can we help ensure that Amber Alerts are passed immediately for ALL MISSING CHILDREN???

Join in at 9pm e.s.t. tonight as we talk about these subjects with Mark. We encourage you to invite your family and friends to get involved. It is important that we reach out to all of society when we are discussing the protection of our children. Remember our phone lines will be open, which you can call in to share or listen by calling (917)932-1132.

***Mark will not be taking any calls related to specific cases of missing children tonight. This is a time to update everyone on the continued efforts of this organization to enact Jessica’s Law Now & Amber Alerts. We will be discussing a few of the major cases of missing children that they are working on at this time. You must contact your local law enforcement agency to report a missing child or question a specific case.***

Here are a few sites where you can find out more about our guest:

Facebook for Mark A. Palmer: https://www.facebook.com/mpalmer7

Jessica’s Law Now Blog: http://jessicaslawnow.wordpress.com/

Center for Missing & Exploited Children: http://www.missingkids.com/missingkids/servlet/PublicHomeServlet?LanguageCountry=en_US&

Email to President Obama-Stand on Child Abuse!!!

Email to President Obama

Sent – May 03, 2012

Who Will Stand 

For

Our Children!!!

 Dear President Obama:

 You don’t know me. I don’t have money; in fact I am on Disability because of an injury from Domestic Violence. I am now a full-time volunteer for Dreamcatchers for Abused Children, based out of Peck, Michigan. However, I live in Breese Illinois and what I do is mostly online.

In March I was appointed as Exec. Director of their blog talk programming. I am also a survivor of 12 yrs. of severe sadistic abuse from my stepfather, complete sacrifice of me by my mother. All medical and dental needs were ignored even though we had excellent health insurance from UMWA, but not so much as a tooth-brush could be provided for the rotting little girl.The neglect of my mother was so extreme that as a skin infection ate away at my arms and legs from not being able to have the safety to bathe in my home, she never cared or provided the medical treatment that was needed to stop it. For a period of 5 years I could not bathe and the infection left me scarred on every inch of skin that covered my arms and legs. I went to school with black rotting teeth, front teeth that were visible. My arms and legs and deep rotting infected sores on them and everyone dodged contact with me.

 A community of 1500 people knew who I was and who to contact if I did something wrong. A school system I attended for a repeated 9 years never asked about the silent girl whose skin was literally rotting away. The school mates who attended our many late night parties,were provided with drugs and alcohol, then were asked who would be the first to take me in the back and give me what I deserved, but no one ever offered to care. The police and neighbors who witnessed the girl getting beaten in the street, walking around with multiple bruises, drug by the hair and worse. Still with all of this no one ever said a word or questioned my parents. In Feb. 2011 I published my story, “My Justice”, is out there and I changed the names of the many who abused me throughout 32 years of my life, mainly because it wasn’t about the who but about the what was done.

In this novel I apologized to my children for the way my abuse had flowed into their lives and distorted their world. It meant most to me that if my story could help just one person gain the courage to speak out and heal for themselves rather than continue on the self-destructive path of despair, depression, P.T.S.D. and even dissociation; this makes me happiest. However, I must say that since becoming highly involved with Dreamcatchers I have succeeded many times at helping others heal and speak out,but there is still no direct attention where it needs to be. The laws of child abuse need to be radically changed!! Social Workers need to be made accountable for their actions. There are so many levels of wrong on this very important issue of protecting our most valuable asset, our children. I summed up the courage to send First Lady Obama a copy of “My Justice” along with a three page letter, which begged for her beautiful passion of family to be used to acknowledge the estimated 60 million survivors who, like me, have allowed their lives to be shattered and keep these secrets of horrific trauma, so that their family and work peers would not shame them. It is time, Sir, for the blame and shame to be put on the pedophiles and monsters who harm our children. We need to provide better resources to help children move past the abuse and heal so that they can achieve their dreams and possibly be the next great President of our America. Mr. President, I am not famous; I am not rich to put money into your campaign or into any other organization or political stand. I am a nobody, Sir, just a common citizen of this country trying very hard to devote all she has left to help change the laws and protect our children.

Sir, I know that the politician who makes Child Abuse a campaign issue will have the support of some many millions of citizens. There are so very many who are searching for someone to be vocal and let them know that it is alright, it is safe to talk, it is safe to take this stand. Please Mr. President, perhaps you will talk with your wife and find out if she received the book copy and the letter. You may want to read it yourself, but I warn you it is a true and graphic account of what happened. My former teachers have read it and apologized for letting me slip through the cracks. They said my book was so well written on the subject of being a silent surviving child of horrific torment that it should be used as a guide to teach others. The reviews I am getting from others on the story is the same, from counselors, survivors, advocates.

 In closing Mr. President, I beg you to take a stand on this issue. You have stood strong on our economy, our war, our joint communication between the lines of government; YOU SIR ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO DO THIS!!! Please help the many who are buried and tormented by these vicious and heinous crimes. Children are having to live with these monsters, 93% of all abuse is by someone the child loves and trusts. Our children will not speak against their parents and family so teachers and counselors have to be better educated and trained to pick up on the signs of the silently screaming child. Please Mr. President, please help our children, protect them, save them. Thank you and I hope you do get to read this, as I am sure you get many other emails about other issues. We protect our animals, do commercials to help children in other countries; we need to protect our children.

Sincerely,

Patricia A. McKnight

Author: “My Justice”

Tears in April……

“TEARS in APRIL”

by:

Advocate/Author/Speaker/Trainer/Talk Radio Host/Survivor

Founder: Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery

http://www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery

Author: "My Justice"

Ms. Tricia McKnight

“Patricia A. McKnight”

Author: “My Justice”

We are now into the last full week of April 2012, Do you know what special awareness month this is supposed to be? This blog will explain why this question is so very important as we go along.

First let me say that I never used to know what the true specialty of this month meant; neither did any of my friends. To me this is extremely sad and in all honesty, a bit scary.

Throughout this month so far, I’ve been watching and looking around, kind of listening to see if anyone picks up on this and what they are pushing for during April. I’ve seen and heard about awareness for things such as, Autism; Sexual Assault, and on our local news, I even heard an announcement for Hairball Awareness Day!!! All I can say is Wow!!!

Now don’t think for a moment that I am down playing Autism or Sexual Assault. The Autism disease actually effects 1 in 100 of our children, Sexual Assault (Rape) effects 1 in 4 women & 1 in 6 men according to national reports from many available web sites. Definitely these are an important issue and we do need to support them, but Hairball Day, do we really need that one?

The saddest part of this Awareness in April and the reason for this post title, is that APRIL IS CHILD ABUSE PREVENTION MONTH!!! Shouldn’t this be the direct and most important awareness issue for this special month? I don’t know about your area, but in my small mid-western area of South-Central Illinois, the only child abuse awareness or discussion has been the Balloon Release Event that I initiated.

I do know through my contacts and friends on the social media sites that many other Child Abuse Advocates and organizations have done a special awareness events  for this month. Those I am aware of personally are gaining in strength.

Please support:

Stop Abusing Your Children – Stacey & Jeff Sutphen – They have filmed and are fighting now for the share of a Public Service Announcement, which so far is going to be shared on Bravo!!!

NAASCA.org – Bill Murray and his amazing team hosted a truly honoring event in their area of Sacramento, CA along with “Army of Angels” to kick off a two-week long commemoration of Child Abuse Prevention Cross Country Motorcycle Run. 

Debbie Splawn-Bunch – Dreamcatchers for Abused Children National Spokesperson – Held the first annual Candle Light Vigil at Cole’s Garden in Oklahoma City, OK. She and her local citizens, who had been hit by a series of tornados the day before, attended and asked us around the country to dedicate a moment of silence for our children as we remember those who have been destroyed and even killed by the crimes of abuse.

Tricia McKnight –  Held the first annual Balloon Release Event in Breese, IL. and our local citizens showed support through silent auction donations and more. Our local Mayor, Charlie Hilmes and my Fourth Grade Teacher, Ms. Linda Walcher took part and gave a few moments of speech in the support of our event and discussed the extreme silence of this crime and how our children can so easily be overlooked when burdened in shame and secrecy. We also had a special share from Mr. Carl Hart who is a member of the NAASCA organization and supporter of Just Tell, teens reaching out to teens.

So with all of the above news, why do I say,”Tears in April”? Think for just a moment about this very important fact; EVERY 5 SECONDS A CHILD IS BEING HURT OR RAPED BY SOMEONE THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO TRUST WITH THEIR SAFETY!!! In fact, most of these children have to live, eat dinner and sleep in the same house, with the person who is causing this pain. Their lives are being destroyed and then they are forced to carry the secrets of what happened within their home. They’re going to school every day worrying about what could happen to them that night. NEVER knowing from one moment to the next if the very safety of their home will change into evil and attack them.

To think that this very special awareness in the month of April is not getting recognition;  published in every newspaper and TV station across the globe, is not only disheartening for our children but extremely sad. Our children are depending on us to provide them with love, guidance, support and yes, even necessary correcting/parenting, but we cannot even give their lives ONE MONTH OF TRIBUTE. This is an utmost cruelty and sadness for them. What will they think of us as people when this new generation gets old enough to understand this meaning?

Overall child abuse has increased due to the state of our global and national economy. Child deaths are now estimated at 5 each day, but in Illinois alone we lost 161 children from abuse & neglect in 2010. We also had a total of 9,457 cases of Sexual Abuse, this is just across our one state. What are the stats of your state? Check the DCFS or DHS/CPS web sites for your state to find out.

The fact that these numbers continue to rise and we cannot Nationally Recognize & Support the efforts to bring a huge awareness across our country for their safety and well-being is so tragic. What will they think of us indeed? How will they see our views on this issue? What examples are we giving them? We see commercials constantly about the support for Animals; Children Abroad; and many different diseases, but the most serious disease, the cancer eating away at our human kindness, does not get the major support across our states. Everyone seems to feel drawing attention to this evil makes it too real to accept, but for the majority of our generations this evil has been accepted as “Normal”; “Not Damaging”; “Just a Part of Life”, for centuries now. I have to ask, “When will this crime and torture of our children no longer be accepted”?

It has been proven that the long-term effect of Abuse, the emotional and mental health treatment of those who survive these horrific traumas, is costing our country an estimated $124 Billion Dollars a year!!! You can find this fact and many more about the life long effect from Child Abuse and Rape on the National Institute for Mental Health or http://www.nimh.gov  Survivors are often so deeply affected with major signs being overwhelming between the ages of late 20’s to mid 30’s, when we are becoming adults and parents ourselves. This causes our families and marriages to be destroyed. It causes us so much physical and emotional damage that maintaining stability in our lives and being a productive member of society is almost impossible. The worst effect from abuse is the cycle that carries it forward to invade the live’s of our own children, either by our actions or our decisions; such as allowing this to continue as an UN-NOTICED CRIME!!

Please join with me and the many other organizations, foundations, and advocates who stand and encourage you to take part in the awareness and educational events for the last remaining week of April. We need to come together as a society to give true honor, support and the public attention that our children deserve!!! Why should it be so shameful to speak publicly and support the safety of our children? We can stop the “Tears in April” by changing our view of this subject. Simply watching and caring about the children in our circles is a small way to make a very big difference. They need to see our sincere love and deep appreciation of who they are and the possibilities of who they can become. If we are the generation that begins this movement to protect them and provide a positive influence in their lives, look at what changes they can bring to our world. One or more of them may be the scientist who creates a cure for Cancer, Aids, Autism, Schizophrenia; maybe even a pill to prevent a prone nature of violence. How can we as a human race turn away and ignore this special month? How can we not have huge Blue Ribbons of support or Walks for Awareness; beautiful Candle Light Vigils across the country? How is it that we cannot provide a DONATED television commercial to run on all local stations across the country? How can we not find those famous voices of support from Actors/ Actresses/ Government Officials and more to stand up and speak out against these heinous crimes? How can we continue to turn away from the SURVIVORS OF ABUSE and tell them to “Just get over it”??!!!

This blog is one of the many publications from Author, Patricia A. McKnight and is held in the same copy write for the novel, “My Justice” and all other information pertaining to her articles, books, blogs, and more. You can join with me on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/triciagirl62 or on Twitter @triciagirl62. There is also a women’s private support group that I founded and mange online through Facebook. If you are interested in being a member please send a “Friend Request” so that we can connect and talk further. 

I strongly encourage anyone who is a survivor of childhood abuse to speak up and be heard, use your voice and your story to help create a world wide awareness to the horrific nature of these crimes and the devastating long term effect that plagues our lives and continues to destroy the children of our next generation. Please stand with us and be the generation that screams out to all, “NO MORE ABUSE AGAINST OUR CHILDREN”!!! 

 

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