Go ahead, ask that child what happened, I dare ya?

 

Well its happened my friends. Yesterday myself and a very dear friend, a passionate advocate for the voices of those who’ve been harmed; Ms. Lisa Chilton, Legal Advocacy Director of St. Clair County Courthouse; we met with Illinois House Representative Jay Hoffman, and we introduced the proposal for the Family Terrorist Act – ‘Trecia’s Law’. (let me add here that Representative Hoffman’s career in establishing civil and just amendments to help our nation is remarkable, I am so truly honored to have been given his time and he did not rush me out Smile)

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Friends I cannot share the depth of passion I felt in my heart as I spoke with Mr. Hoffman. I was so nervous my hands were shaking. In my inner self I needed him to hear what I was saying; how much we needed to take time and address these issues. It is so horrifying to me that in our human society we still continue to turn silent about the one thing that matters most for OUR entire existence as human beings, alive and breathing. Tell me why are we afraid to ask the children we know, “What happened sweetie?’.

“Why didn’t you get your homework done these past three months? Why do you keep going out with every guy that comes your way? Why are you afraid of your dad coming home?”

You know, four years ago all I wanted to do was just tell my own story and get it out of my gut. I had been forced, then manipulated, then tricked into silence about all the many different levels and types of harm I had suffered over some 30+ years. It was tearing me apart that my life was a whirlwind cycle of emotions, reactions, and explosions which had almost destroyed my own children. My choice to leave their father after our 2nd marriage together in trying to keep our family together, my choice in how I played out that choice caused a beginning of pain for my children that I have carried so extremely heavy in my heart and still today, now 15 years from leaving my last violent attacker, it is the greatest regret I have but I guess in some ways they were being guided in a more appropriate life pattern than I may have given. It shows in my daughters’’ lives through the choices in men they take and the type of life I see them living. This is not what I wanted for MY BABIES. This is not why I begged God to give me that one true gift. Please they may have destroyed my physical body, but please do not take away that one true miracle, the miracle of children.

My goodness how precious a gift to have a child, but also what a heavy responsibility, especially when you have never had any safe or positive form of parenting yourself. How in the world can we possibly guide them through and protect them when so many of us have been infected with this disgust and distortion of what life is SUPPOSED to be. Now I know its not guaranteed to be perfect and become rich, or any other form of happiness, but dammit it must be protected and it must be SAFE!!! If a child cannot lay down their head in a quiet, SAFE PLACE then what are we about and what have we become as human beings?

Trust me, I know how mixed up and confused it is, especially when we have been blocked by the enforced silence that has built our entire lives. How bad is it that a person, any person, will live into their 40’s before they ever even think about telling a DOCTOR about what’s happened? We say to them all our lives, for those who ever had a choice to go to a doctor, we tell them they fell and hit their head, I tripped, fell off my bike, ran into a door, and what is even worse than this; the doctor’s still are too uncomfortable to ask that one true question that can begin to change their entire lives, ‘What happened sweetie; truly you can tell me.’ 

What is wrong with our teachings about life when we look away from our own children being molested silently by someone. Ok, so we don’t actually see the molestation go on, but we do see changes in that child. We see behaviors in our family functions together that show how that child is evolving under that haunting thought of why so many people don’t see what’s happening and if they do why don’t they ask, ‘What happened sweetie, you alright, something going on inside you need to talk about? Is there a secret thing that someone is telling you not to tell. What is it child, what happened?

Friends, we cannot play these games with our society any longer. Please take a look around you, where has it gotten us that we just can’t be faced with that child’s voice telling us something we don’t know how to handle. What’s worse is that you are the adult and you don’t know how to begin because you’ve never spoken about things that happened to you. You know that forced silenced, you know that feeling of not being able to EVER talk about what happened. You’re 35 years old and have never faced a single moment of what happened but you’re all confused in life. You don’t know your way through, you’re just trying to make it the best possible way you can. You have you’re mouth to feed, clothe, shelter, and maybe you even need family to help you out. How in the world can you every ask that child what’s happened?

When I published ‘My Justice’ it was about finding my way through. I was in a relationship I didn’t want to somehow screw up. I was in a good job and my children were growing up, my son had started college. I could not figure out why in the world when something was good in my life, for the very first time it was relaxed and SAFE. No one was touching me when I didn’t want to be touched. No one was grabbing my throat while I slept and trapping me in a fear of possible death if I didn’t do whatever it was they needed or wanted me to do at that moment. My life was fabulous and my insides were going crazy, especially as I was writing and in my own therapy, since I had been forced by my many medical issues onto disability; I started writing to my children and I needed to explain it all to them so that maybe it would somehow change things. I prayed with all my soul that somehow it would change what happened in the lives of my grandchildren, even if its not the life of perfection that it at least be SAFE, CALM, SUPPORTIVE. God heard my prayers with every word I’ve ever written, including this one. He’s hid with me and all those times I ran to the cemetery and begged Him to just take me out, He kept me going.

No I am not a church going religious person, in fact I’m terrified inside a church only because my stepfather ensured me through every single breath he took that I was never good enough to be accepted into Heaven, that I would surely be condemned for absolutely everything I’d ever done after age 12, which by the way is when his greatest level of torture ever began; the year he took my virginity with the barrel of his favorite shotgun and ripped me apart. Hoping that I would never be able to get pregnant and reproduce, enforcing his reign of control and making sure that I never took a chance to tell another living soul about what happened in our house and how he and my mother used me on so many levels of either seduction or physical labor. He made sure I never spoke against another person who ever touched me again in my life. He made sure that I felt like I didn’t deserve to breathe so why should anyone ever give a damn about what was happening to me. What’s even worse is that throughout all the physical rot that ate away my skin, took away my smile with the layers of plaque that had been there for years because I didn’t deserve a toothbrush. I didn’t deserve to see a doctor about the infection of pus filled sores whom so many many people avoided touching me at all for a decade. How much more public than taking that disgusting rotting child to the bar and teaching her how to shake her ass so her old man could have some free beers?How much more public than knowing in your circle of co-workers that Malcolm had a young daughter he liked to bring around to all the parties and shit. You could even pay in on a half barrel plus to come to the house. No you didn’t have to worry about Mona, she’d go to the bedroom and watch TV. Think she was kind of jealous that I wanted to have ‘Trecia Ann’ host the parties, sit on their laps, dance around with them and yeah, you’d better damn well shut the hell up when they start touching you girl, it’s nothing dammit’

That was the very honest truth of my life friends for nine consecutive long years. I went to the same school day after day from fifth grade to the middle of my sophomore year, which is when everything was at its very most evil and it just kept getting more dark every day. This was the life of a child whom not a single soul in that entire community who knew and talked about all that child did, but not a single person felt I deserved being asked,

‘What happened sweetie?’

How much longer will we do this people? How many more children and teens will we ignore when we know for a fact something’s going on in their lives? No it may not be as dark as the life myself and already at least 300 others I know have lived, but what if it is? Are you willing to take the chance that it won’t be that bad?

So darlins, its’ like this; Representative Jay Hoffman is definitely passionate about changing the path of histories like our generation have suffered, exactly like so many others before us. It has been a cycle of human destruction since back in the Roman days and further. We have seen human slavery at its very worst and we fought the battle that lost the greatest number of human beings in any war as 50,000 men lay dead on the ground in the bloodiest battle ever fought in our country, the right for every single human beings right to be protected in their person. We fought battle after battle and spent billions upon billions of dollars helping rebuild other countries who have been destroyed for not protecting and respecting human life & protective rights. Yet in all of those battles friends, we still cannot look at the precious little child that sitting next to us on Christmas and say to her, ‘What’s happened sweetie, you alright?’

Now I know when I found Facebook and started a little thing called talking, at first it was to let Y’all know ‘My Justice’ was being published and then it started as much more; writing to everyone then became a source for my therapy, which I still need on some levels. You caught my voice and many of you then started in PM’s with me. You were sharing you stories and what happened, as you also needed finally to tell someone. You needed to scream and you needed to have someone hear your voice say, Dammit Listen to Me!! We started a little group together, we started many wonderful two years of talk radio broadcast’s together and we’ve written and posted, commented and connected. I see all of you there who couldn’t or didn’t quite yet feel strong enough to tell the stories and share that broken, wounded soul; you are now amazing group leaders, strong advocates, and we have all developed in astounding ways together. It’s been an amazing journey my loves and I am so grateful that you’ve been their for me and I pray that I’ve been their for you. This is how we connect together and we change the future for our kids in our own special little way. We share through the internet and all the way around the world just how many injustices there are in our human society, and you know what; many have become devoted and strong in this mission, but others a few, they’ve become more focused on the fame of being the one than being able to be the one that make a true change, starting with your very own family and circle of friends. That’s how we make the greatest change my friends, we become strong enough to ask that child what happened.

Now my dears, is the part where I go back to praying. The next step Lisa is seeing if she can arrange a meeting with the Illinois State’s Attorney, Brendon Kelly to see how his office can help better address or even if its worth it, to create mandates to implement action on the Family Terrorist Act – ‘Trecia’s Law’. Representative Jay Hoffman was very open to conversation, supportive and listening to the needs I wanted to make sure we address in healthcare, education, and most importantly all three of us agreed on – empower and teach our children that it’s alright to tell someone about the secrets someone is forcing you to keep. It doesn’t matter if its Mom, Dad, Step Parents, Boyfriends or Girlfriends, even the kid next door. You have the HUMAN RIGHT TO BE PROTECTED IN YOUR PERSON!!! Not one single person has the right to even put a finger on you in a sexual or harming manner. You have the right to always be safe!!!! This should be strongest in our great country of America than anywhere else in the world. It’s what our country was founded for, so that no matter who you are you had the right to live &* breathe in being just who you were born to be, and that you do NOT have the right to lay a harmful finger on any other person. You are not better than or more deserving than that person next door or down the street. You may be more powerful than that child, but so what. How strong do you have to be to never lay a harmful finger on a three week old baby, or a six year old child, or a twenty year old mother, or a thirty year old man. Not one person isn’t given the protection of their person, because the United Nation’s Global Committee have written in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.

This Christmas Eve is so important to me. In a spiritual manner I am praying stronger than I’ve ever prayed before, and being more open in spirit than I’ve been since first finding my courage to speak up, tell my secrets, tell My Justice. This amendment we are asking our American Governing Person’s to review is how we can begin change in our own communities, within our own neighborhoods, and especially within our own families and ask that child, ‘What happened sweetie?’

So in my spiritual self I pray to God in Heaven above, if there is a way we can give back the importance of love and protection in our human society, please this is your chance to help us God, help us be strong enough and knowledgeable enough to teach our children that it is wrong for these harms to come to them. Teach them that if it is hurting them it should never ever be a secret, no matter if its actually them who is being hurt or if a friend at school or cousin Jimmy said something or did something that made them uncomfortable. Our Creator did not say that we are just born to procreate, but born to love each other in a spiritual respect of who we are as people. We cannot and should not ever allow the destruction of a human being on any level, but I promise you friends, if a child or a person is living with someone who is indeed their ‘Family Terrorist’ you WILL see the signs of change and trauma on that precious soul, no matter how old or young, we cannot ignore the dangers of those within our neighbors home any longer. See something, Say something – you have the adult duty to never turn away from the knowledge within your gut that something is most definitely wrong. You have the duty to your friend, your neighbor, even your own grandchildren, to make sure that they have a chance to know a safe life and lay down with their inner self in peace.

This Christmas I’ll be thinking of all of you. I’ll be hoping this writing or someone’s voice, or a person’s need will reach your heart and you will be the one to create that change in the most important place in the world, the love of your very own family.

Bless You, sweeties. Have a beautiful Merry Christmas and I’ll be waiting to hear back from the staff of House Rep Jay Hoffman after our New Year reigns in loves.

Here’s sending Magical Merry Christmas Wishes to each and everyone of you, be the change you want to see, be the one strong to ask that child –

WHO LOVES YA BABY?

Smooches y’all Smile

Patricia A McKnight

Proposer: Family Terrorist Act – ‘Trecia Ann’s Law’ for the child she was whom so many left to suffer at the hands of her own true ‘Family Terrorists’.

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Butterfly Dreams building partnership with FBI Victims Services

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Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery, a local not for profit victims assistance organization founded by Author/Advocate, Patricia A. McKnight of Breese, Illinois in Nov 2012.

We are very excited to share our Owner/CEO Patricia ‘Trish’ McKnight was extremely honored yesterday, May 13th, when she and two of our governments finest in FBI Victims Services met at PJ’s Diner to discuss the partnership being built to enhance our direct community services for victims of all types of crime. They also discussed the amazing nomination for ‘Trish’ to both attend & speak at the FBI Citizens Academy for enhanced focused training on Victims Services for ALL types of crime.

‘Trish’ is a local author who first shared her story in the memoir, ‘My Justice’. This story was first shared by Vicky Albers in the September 2011 issue of Breese Journal. Her story is horrifying in acts of abuse, violence, child trafficking, sever neglect and more.

‘Yes’ its an ugly topic’ she shares, ‘but it is one that is now taking on more momentum in our nations media these past few years. For me it is about making sure that any of these cruel acts ever has the opportunity to steal away another child’s innocent happiness. Today we in our family units, our neighborhoods, our community activities and our churches; we have a grand opportunity to begin educating our children to believe in their value as human beings with almost all possibilities in life waiting for them to focus and achieve at their discretion.’

Not only has ‘Trish’ been working tirelessly building her more well known Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio which focuses on education, prevention, and awareness of all victims rights; she focuses the work of Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery, not for profit organization in connecting resources across the country to aid in services for specialized information & assistance regarding child abuse, family/relationship violence, and human trafficking of all those held against their will or by coercion.

‘By creating a more knowledgeable base support within our entire community we can all play a part in preventing the harm we see and provide a more focused assistance to all person’s affected. These types of acts alter what these victims learn to see in their worthiness and specialty of their person inside. In providing a local connection who can reach out to educate and provide assistance in every small community across the country; we can truly begin to change what has been taught throughout our entire human society for generations, the family tolerance of and a continued denial or taught silence we still teach our children today. Today there are resources throughout the country and around the world who are teaming up to provide assistance and now, I am very proud and humbled to say Butterfly Dreams has reached an astonishing level of connection in partnership of services with our governments FBI Victims Services Unit, and this organization was built within our very own community. We now have team members in California, Arizona, Colorado,Florida, Arkansas and volunteers based out of Canada. All of these team members can reach out and provide some type of knowledge or mentorship for victims in need. We provide education, training, prevention, and basic awareness, and we even have a contact with our country’s Child Help USA who can assist with these reports.’

Yesterday ‘Trish’ met with Special Agent Brad Ware & Victims Specialist Amie Lohman about the new partnership building with our government’s FBI Victims Services and sharing what they are providing/developing across the country to better assist with all services for victims. It was just this past April 12th that ‘Trish’ was keynote speaker at the Hoyelton Ministries, Rescue & Restore National Crime Victims Rights Week 2014 Event held at Shrine of Our Lady of the Snows, where there was also a fabulous 5k Night Glow Run in tribute of what is so commonly overlooked, our rights to personal support and guidance of our cases as given in our Victims Rights.

Moving forward ‘Trish’ and our local Boy Scout Troop #225, are still pushing hard for your recycled old phones. Remember our scouts donate these phones to provide a continuous circle of Emergency 911 Cell Phones for every person ages 5 & above.

‘I believe that each person, no matter their age or other circumstance, deserves the right to carry a basic 911 contact phone. In the circle of Clinton County 911 Cell Phone Recycle Program, we built a partnership with the 911 Cell Phone Bank Recycle Program based out of Florida. The phones you donate to our boy scout troop is collected and sent for recycle to the Florida facility, then I can contact them at anytime for a shipment of phones to be distributed right here in our area; providing emergency services contact at any time for every single citizen who is able to push the 911 button. This means if you or your child needs a contact phone, which can be added to normal phone contract if you choose, but at least is able to reach emergency services at any given time then please just give me a call.’

If you or someone you know is in need of a phone, please contact either Chief Bob Fix, Scout Leader Alan Menietti, or direct to speak with ‘Trish’ you can online. Please visit the website at www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery.com to find out more about ‘Trish’ her history and her learned knowledge today in victims services for recovery & rebuilding life after trauma. You are also invited to listen in to her weekly web based radio broadcast via the link www.blogtalkradio.com/butterflydreamstalkradio. ‘Trish’ is active online through Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Linkedin and more.

‘Remember to change how the affects of abuse and violence is permitted to continue within our family unit we first need to begin teaching a right for ALL person’s to be safe & live safe. We can end the trained tolerance and silence of these acts to provide a more positive guidance and overall well-being for our children today, by first learning to change our mindset. It isn’t about what may or may not have already happened in your family, but it is about making a choice right now. You can make the choice and become your ‘Family Defender’ and give all person’s in your circle the protection of your support. We can and will change the impression we are now seeing in our schools and on our streets. The acts of Bullying, violence and other crimes are NOT something our children are born with knowledge about, these are things they see in our society & in their homes & families. We can begin to mend these behaviors and provide a more positive impact for their life tomorrow.’

‘ Always believe anything is possible with you in the active equation’ trish mcknight

Author/Advocate/Owner & CEO Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery will be speaking at an upcoming ‘Meet the Author Series’ for the Friends of Lebanon Public Library on Thursday May 22nd, at St. Paul’s United Church of Christ, Lebanon, Illinois. You can purchase your copy of ‘My Justice’ via Amazon, Barne’s & Nobel, Authorhouse. For Testimonials of service, talk radio information, Board of Directors, 911 Cell Phone Recycle Program and more please visit www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery.com Thank you, Patricia ‘Trish’ McKnight

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Author, Patricia ‘Trish’ McKnight, may be a child from our past generations but she is using her extremely evil childhood to inspire parents & communities to provide resources of help & healing for all persons dealing with some form of past or present abuse, violence and/or trafficking issues today.

Ms. McKnight, is of those souls who has endured a lifetime in a trained tolerance, almost an expected acceptance of evil, throughout more than thirty years of her life. In her adult relationships there were repeated abusers who terrorized, controlled, and even tried to take her life many times, but yet she never left them. What was it that kept her in this hell? Why didn’t she leave?

This incredibly strong survivor speaks today, through many venues and platforms; explaining how she was a ‘trained’ child who had been taught to expect nothing different. Even when she finally realized she deserved kindness and love, she still didn’t believe there were resources to help her and her children rebuild and recover from the endured painful years of trauma.

Her story has been compared to the New York Times Best Seller, ‘A Child Called It’, by the amazing Dave Pelzer. The extreme evil against this one incredible soul has been used by Dr. Brenda Markert-Green as a teaching guide to her students through Le Sierra University’s Online Psychology course for upcoming therapists. Dr. Markert-Green has shared, ‘The memoir ‘My Justice’ gave my students a secret window into the soul of one child, woman, mother who kept searching for peace and love, but instead found only one violent abuser after another. It allowed my students to connect deeply with her inner battles from the trauma and how desperately she just wanted to give her children the best; however her wounded spirit could not find the right path. My students were completely swept away by the ongoing years of trauma and the destructive behaviors it left behind.’

Trapped inside her own private hell for decades, Ms. McKnight, has finally found her courage and freedom. She published her years filled with unbelievable horror in the memoir ‘My Justice’. A book she says is so disturbing she wishes she would have put a warning label for others. As one of the other survivors who read & reviewed this story stated so well, ‘It was as if the child opened up to finally tell the world her story, and all in one breath it just fell out onto the pages.’

An exquisitely written journey to find safety, love, and happiness; ‘My Justice’ is an intense read. The pages are filled with both a child’s crying nightmare and a spirit who just could never give up. You’re raw emotions will be ignited. You will scream, be outraged, cry, and cheer her on as she stumbles in a trance-like acceptance of hell. Your views of these actions against our children and our partners, will certainly be changed forever. You will feel the need to do something now!!

‘These actions, which we’ve been taught to hold in secret within our family unit, are life altering. Studies have been done over and over again that reveal the Complex P.T.S.D. Syndrome, which is often diagnosed; is at the same levels of our returning veterans. We herald them, their families support them, guide them, and the resources keep building to help them recover. However, when you say you carry the Complex P.T.S.D. Syndrome from being a ‘prisoner of war’ within your own home, and especially as a child who can never fight back and doesn’t have a weapon or any mode of protection; it is then society somehow tags you with a Mental Illness and discards you, but yet you must maintain a life and professional career as if nothing happened; you cannot seek retribution or financial benefits due to ongoing battles with Statute of Limitations; victims are left to struggle and find their own support system of those who will even believe them and help them see what life & love is really about.’

‘How can we expect our children to flourish in their lives, when we are turning away from the voices of those crying out for our help? They need and deserve our support, after all their HOME may be filled with some of the most evil actions including torture, rape, and trafficking.’

Ms. Patricia McKnight

Today Ms. McKnight is a voice heard across the web on her own Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio ‘Featured’ broadcast through the Blog Talk Network. She’s founded the not for profit organization of Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery and speaks whenever invited to include such venues as; Community Churches, Rallies for Awareness, Key Note Speaker for Rescue & Restore, part of a panel for St. Clair County’s Domestic Violence Reform Program, and gave a two hour presentation at the Prosecuting Attorney’s Association of Michigan at their Annual Victim’s Advocate Training Seminar in Bay City.

This survivor has come a 1000 miles from the victim she once was. It is the need to end the cycle moving forward within her own family, which continues to be her drive and strength, but it is the survivors she mentors and those who have friended her and supported her journey that she gives the highest respect & gratitude. In her own words she shares their mission; ‘Connecting Hearts & Holding Hands to give our children a better world tomorrow.’

You can connect with ‘Trish’ throughout many of our social & professional sites. You are also invited to check out the fully developed website at www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery.com or listen to her on the talk radio network at www.blogtalkradio.com/butterflydreamstalkradio. You will find ‘My Justice’ , along with its many reviews, available through Authorhouse.com, Amazon.com, BN.com, and almost all other leading online book resources. Her hope is to get this book read by other college students who are studying to be future educators, therapists, psychiatrists, & psychologists. It is recommended by the Highly Accommodated Five Star Reviews from Teaching Mentors & Therapists, Advocates & Survivors.

A closing message from this Author/Mentor/Speaker/Radio Host/Survivor; Founder & CEO of Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery,

‘Always believe anything is possible with you in the active equation’

Positive Affirmations:

You deserve as much love as you freely give to others

You deserve a safe place to lay down your head at night

Your deserve respect, kindness, happiness, compassion

You deserve roses in your garden of life!!

Patricia ‘Trish’ McKnight

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Neighbors helping Neighbors in 2014 Resolution for Change

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Resolution for Change!!

After the Christmas holiday and now things are looking into the New Year, 2014 is quickly approaching. Have you given though to your New Year’s Resolution? You know, those list we make out every year and hope to achieve completing at least one of them.

This year I am asking you to think about a different type of resolution. A resolution that is not just a good way to help yourself, but also a great way to help your neighbors and empower your community teen involvement. In our environment, be it an apartment complex or a community neighborhood, we may not want to admit there is a problem with any type of abuse or violence within our homes and our family unit, but during the holiday gathering you just might have been triggered by something which made you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

Maybe you have a memory of something that happened to you? Perhaps you have seen rage or violence break out during family gatherings or you saw something against another person in your circle? Maybe you heard fights or even cries for help in a neighbors house?

There are many generations of families, which have been trained into the acceptance and tolerance of cruel actions from others within our family. Yes some of these actions are to be expected within this unit; however, when it comes to getting attacked in some physically violent way or being sexually assaulted or touched without giving your approval; these are things which we do not have to tolerate. We can change the teaching we have accepted throughout centuries and begin to teach our children to respect, not only their own rights to be safe & feel safe, but also for the rights of others. We can empower them to follow the moral decency and inspire kindness among their peers.

When we teach our children to look out for their friends at school and whom they socialize with, we are able to empower them with confidence and a sense of community pride. They begin to feel as if they are part of something, that something is the better safer world we want to give them tomorrow.

Please talk with your children, age appropriately but openly, about the actions of violence within the family unit and inappropriate sexual contact. Teach them to watch out for their senior neighbors who may need help or emergency assistance. Teach them to watch out for younger children out playing in their yards or in our community parks; at school events, sports activities. Teaching them to keep their eyes open and be ready to intervene in some way. It is by talking about these actions which most often happen in secret; behind the closed doors of our own homes and in the houses of our neighbors, being honest with our children today is the best way to teach them about defending their own rights as human beings and protecting themselves no matter who may be harming them or someone they know.

As a radio host & crisis/peer support advocate; I’ve talked with hundreds who have endured severe sexual violence and physical battery in their homes, by members of their family. We know by the reports reflected by our National Child Abuse and Neglect Data Systems collected from every account, that most often parents are the offenders of child maltreatment. We also know from reports that Domestic Violence is perpetrated by both male & female offenders. We know that the offenders of these types of crimes are only protected by the forced silence within our taught family unit to tolerate and see past these crimes. However, when the victim is old enough, ready to face the dark secrets of crimes committed against them, that might seriously have impacted their lives with the after effect of trauma; these victims will eventually speak out to some person. It may be a therapist or counselor, it may be law or another family member, but they will speak out. You can begin to tell the offenders in our community that only secrets protect them from being prosecuted, so when someone reports the crimes they will indeed have to pay the price for the harm they have caused.

I would not want to be the one who allowed a sexual predator around my children, or other children, to be later held accountable for never reporting the crime and for the harm caused to the child from forced and unacceptable sexual contact.

Think about your New Year’s Resolution and how we can begin to change the past and mend our family unit. It is love that binds a family together and that love should not be destroyed by the secrets of harm we have been taught to ignore. Be the beginning of change in your family and make a different kind of new year’s resolution this year.

 
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A Child the Town Forgot

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Hello;

May I please ask for just a few moments of your time to read this message & view the short two minute attached video? Any consideration is hugely appreciated. http://youtu.be/0Rpt_oHU5NM

My name is Patricia ‘Trish’ McKnight and I am reaching out to find an organization or person who will help me continue the healing journey forward.

Why I am contacting you….

There are many thousands of survivors of past abuses & violence speaking up today about the horrors of their past. In our society it seems we have become almost numb, trained into tolerating a certain level of these attacks within our homes. Today, I am trying to break this silent barrier!! Myself and many other advocates work online and in our communities constantly helping those who’ve been harmed to find their way out of the cloud of madness and finally find their own path in life, letting go of the pain to soar into their future. So now, I am contacting any and all who have the power to create change in our society. You have this power and you can encourage many others to stand with the survivors, rather than blame the victims. We were children left by the tolerated generational acceptance to these acts, but we no longer have to teach our children this tolerance. We can change how these crimes are looked at & prosecuted today. We can change their future by empowering them with voice. Erin’s Law has paved the doorway for us to teach our children about sexual abuse, but are we teaching them? Are we teaching them to speak up no matter who is harming them; even if it’s their parents. As most of us well know, these acts are most often done within the walls of our own homes. The families don’t want the embarrassment of the public’s knowledge so they put on the best front possible to the outside world, but when the door to our home is closed, then only the victims know how dark the evil can become.

You see, my family didn’t put up any kind of false front at all in our rural community, there was no perfect family life on the outside of our home. It was simply that my stepfather and his vicious temper were so well known that my mother got away with placing herself as a victim, but I know that she was never harmed by this man. Instead she gave him her oldest daughter, the child she had with her second husband and the one she used as a house slave, a family caregiver, the family whore.

A bit of my history; I grew up in Freeburg, Illinois, which used to be a small town American coal mining community. My time spent there was most of my youth from about 1969-1983. I know during these times things were much different than they are today, but not that much has changed in our rural areas, nor our cities when it comes to abuse & violence within our homes.

Sadly, I was the child a town forgot, a town dismissed, a town ignored and today I carry the emotional wounds & the physical scars because of the fear of my stepfather’s evil. At the age of five he first viciously molested me while my mother was at her bridal shower preparing to marry him just a few weeks later. This attack was done while he was babysitting my brother and two other neighbor boys. He enjoyed that he could be evil with an audience to watch and it just got worse from that moment forward.

At the age of nine my mother walked in early from work and found him in bed with me; completely naked with his erection ready to be inserted. At eleven he began offering me out to other local men at the town’s bars for the price of a couple of beers. I was just twelve years old when he brutally raped me with the barrel of his favorite shotgun, my younger sister & older brother were downstairs watching their favorite television show. By the time I was thirteen the people of Freeburg didn’t see a child being sold out, brutally attacked, ignored & neglected from all forms of medical care & human kindness; they saw the girl who was used to excite their husbands, too well informed about sex for her age. In short, the reputation I had at this very young age was simply put as, ‘The village whore’ and this reputation would stay with me throughout my teens.

My mother would not protect me from him, although she knew exactly what was happening. She wouldn’t stop him from trapping her child in the bathroom every time I tried to bathe. He used his ugly games to teach me how to wash the right parts of my body; this started right after they were married. Mother also refused ANY & ALL forms of medical care or basic human needs, even human kindness for her own daughter was something she just couldn’t allow herself to do. She used her daughter as her housekeeper, babysitter, family caregiver, cook and willingly sacrificed her daughter so that she would not have to tolerate the sadistic needs of the man she chose as a husband.

By the time I reached thirteen, I had already taken my own small step at protecting myself when I chose to stop bathing, sounds disgusting I know. From the age of twelve when he wouldn’t leave the bathroom and mother wouldn’t chase him out as she sat downstairs hearing me shout out for her help; this is when I took that horrible choice and never bathed again for almost FIVE YEARS. Think about this please, just for a moment, a young girl beginning her periods, growing through puberty, used as a house slave, given as property, sold to local men for their enticement & wandering hands; even her own family still see her today as HIS WHORE and not the child who needed rescued from their evil cruelty. The small town of Freeburg left me to grow in this hell; filthy, rotting, and disgusting.

I attended Carl L. Barton Elementary school at the early stages of his evil attacks, which haunted me in the bed I shared with my much younger sister. His almost nightly visits were predatory and his thick coal stained hand clamped tight around my mouth to prevent so much as a whimper from seeping out. The next day at school my homework was never completed and the teacher’s would berate and belittle me, calling me stupid, lazy; making a point to direct attention my way. They were disgusted by the child whose skin was rotting away; encrusted filth covered my skin, my teeth plaque covered and broken black fangs dangling in my mouth. Almost everyone avoided physical contact in fear of catching whatever was eating away at my flesh. You’ll see a brief video attached above which shows the scars from the infection that covered almost every inch of my skin. My breath was rancid, my body horrifying and with an order as bad as the breath from my mouth. Simply put, I carried every single sign of wicked abuse, neglect, disgusting hygiene, a reputation that was built from being traded out; the local daughters were not permitted to hang out with me and the sons were not allowed to date me. I was garbage and EVERYONE in our small American town knew who to call when I did something wrong, they knew who the parent’s of this rotting whorish child were, but not ONE SINGLE PERSON ever asked so much as a question about my well being. Not one single teacher ever said a word, not one single adult man who attended the late night parties at our house for years ever said a word about the girl they used and then discarded; not one young school mate who came to the house parties filled with marijuana & alcohol, accepting the forced oral sex and handed this filthy girl as a toy ever said a word when they saw me in school the next day. It seemed all those years not one single person, not family, not neighbors, not even our local law enforcement or the many who came for the fun; I MATTERED TO NO ONE and THEY LEFT ME TO ROT IN THE HOUSE OF HORRORS.

The life I lived when I left my childhood, was one filled with self destruction; lost, confused, alcohol & marijuana addition, then into more than 20 years of almost deadly relationship/domestic violence. My three beautiful children born to my first husband had no choice but to grow in the shadow of a broken abused mother. They hid in the closets as my second husband violently beat me and on more than one occasion almost killed me. This evil of violence & abuse which took the voice of the little girl so long ago, then invaded my children’s lives and it took me until their mid teens to finally break away and slowly build a broken, but safe, existence for them and for me.

Today, people have referred to me as a ‘Hero’, ‘Conqueror over Abuse’, and even a ‘Freedom Fighter’, however I’m just simply doing what is now deeply engrained in my soul. I, along with co-founder Michal Madison, are presently building a nonprofit organization to help provide knowledge, understanding, and help for families, victims, survivors & communities who have been harmed or are dealing with some form of abuse; Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery the website Steps to Recovery, along with the community outreach broadcast of Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio, which has built a huge social following and reached over 30,000 listeners is turning into a great success – bringing awareness, enlightenment, empowerment, support, hope & faith for the many millions of survivors & advocates around the world.

I’m so grateful to say I’ve been doing a number of crucial speaking venues’; one recently with Dr. Elaine Alpert; an educational speaker for the Division of Global Health & Human Rights.

This was a chance to empower healthcare professionals to take every opportunity to question the safety of everyone who visits their offices; they may not get a second chance to save a life or rescue a victim. Coming up next, on the 19th of Sept., I am giving a two hour training presentation at the Victims Rights Annual Conference in Bay City, Michigan; invited personally by the Prosecuting Attorneys Association of Michigan.

Thankfully, by the grace of Creator, I am alive today to share hope & help for the many who are still living trapped in the silence of these crimes.  I’ve published my memoir of hell, in the story ‘My Justice’, built an incredible talk radio program, and am now moving forward with building the official nonprofit status for Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery & Talk Radio Programming. I am here to encourage others to stand up and say something, protect the children within our families, within our neighbor’s homes, and never let another child be so ignored by a community that they are left to rot in the evil within their home.

Thank you for any time you have given this message and plea for your attention. I’m grateful to be able to speak up and help others know their life after abuse is possible. I am grateful that I have finally found love; I am finally safe, and although I carry the physical & emotional wounds, although I carry the ugly scars & broken teeth; I am still alive!! I am building dreams in hopes that one day we can end this tolerance and begin teaching the true value of our children’s lives. They are not simply objects to be used, beaten, raped, sold and stolen away. We can inspire hope & help together, connecting hearts & holding hands around the world.

Respectfully,

‘Trish’ McKnight

Patricia A. McKnight

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Phone: 618-304-7438

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Exec. Director: Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery & Talk Radio Programming

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