Building Butterfly Dreams …….

What a beautiful journey this has been!!!

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Friends, I am very excited about the upcoming year with all I’ve been trying to put together. The dreams of truly being able to provide some healing, coping, understanding, and other organization/advocate strategies is finally coming to reality!!! This is a huge step forward as I’m one of those many survivors whose greatest challenge is believing in myself.

More importantly is those who have stood with me, empowered me, believed in the voice hiding within.

First to thank one of the kindest souls I’ve had the pleasure of building a sincere friendship, Mr. Peter Thomas Senese. As many of you know, he is a highly dedicated advocate for the protection of all children, more focused on International Parental Abduction. He is the Founder of I CARE Foundation. This foundation has recently brought a huge heightened awareness concerning this growing epidemic. Because of the hard work this foundation has put forth, our law makers are putting forth their efforts to close the loopholes in our system, which have played a role in this continued escalation of abductions. Mr. Senese is also a Best Selling Geo-Political Author!!! If you haven’t read his great thrillers, which open the door to the intensity of our imaginations, then in my opinion you are missing out on some really great stuff. It is the holiday season, and as a friend and great supporter of Peter and the I CARE Foundation; I’d like to encourage you to check out his books. He uses the profits from ‘Chasing the Cyclone’ to provide funding for the foundation and is putting their focus on not only rescues of children, but also changing the laws to prevent and hopefully end the continued increase of this crime.

It is an abusive action towards a child to abduct them, simply steal them away; hiding them from any contact with what has been their security and their world!!! Imagine if you will, the impact this would have on a young child. Do you have a 5 or 10 year old child who depends on his/her world to be safe, happy, loving? Imagine if suddenly they were stolen away from all of this; how would this impact their young developing minds and emotions? So, to me this man has developed incredible measures of success against this abuse; perhaps you will check out his books and support a great cause, while sending out a fabulous gift!!! You will see the full interview I did with Peter, which was then published in the Examiner, by following this link, http://www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery.com/parentalabduction

‘Peter, thank you for the fabulous gift of your support; hearing my voice and empowering me to use it in the best way possible for others. You have been a true blessing in my life’.

The next person who has been such a huge influence on my world is the amazing friendship built with Michal Madison. If you don’t know her then I encourage you to please check out her work. This beautiful creation of a person, uses her fabulous gift to allow the world to see the inner scars of abuse in her masterful creation of Watercolor Art!!! Like me Michal lived in a world filled with extreme abuses from both parents. Her world was darkened by the acts of those who should have made her world shine, allowing her shining spirit to glow in all its beauty. Michal Madison, Watercolor Artist; has created some of the most beautiful works of art through the eyes of this darkness. She has given to me the bond of friendship, the shoulder to cry on, the supporter of dreams. Michal’s art is also another great source of beautiful gifts to those you love. Her work is not just from the darkness within, but also the that great magic and laughing spirit of all children. Hopefully, you will view some of her excellent talent and see how you can help provide rescue and resources to children who’ve been harmed. Michal supports the efforts of Childhelp.org and other great advocacy programs.

‘Forever thankful my friend, Here’s to the future of Butterfly Dreams’!!

This is also the time I’d like to thank more of those who’ve made a huge impact on what I’m moving forward with building in 2013; Dreamcatchers for Abused Children, Stacy Ascencio-Sutphen, Tammy Fox, Susan Murpy-Milano, Anny Jacoby, Debra Mize, Violence Prevention Center of Southwestern Illinois, Ms. Linda Walcher, Dr. Benda Joyce Orozco Markert-Green, Mr. Bill Murray, Jan Frayne, Janice Hendricks, Annie O’Sullivan, Nell Cole, Brett Scudder, Sherna Alexander, Viga Boland, Mary E. Graziano, Michael Skinner, and many other thousands of voices that have reached out in a simple comment, post, re-tweet, share of any of my information with others. All of you have been an influence on where I am today and where I look forward to going in the future.

‘A very sincere thank you to all of you who have connected in some way. You have all made a difference; influenced my life to move forward in some way. For that you have empowered this dream to become a reality. Thank you’!!

So it is with great pleasure I can say that I’ve made it, I’m where I am supposed to be. There is a purpose for all that has been, the bad has been turned into good, which has created the light leading me onward. I hope all of you will continue to walk with me so that the children of tomorrow will believe; we have put forth our greatest fighting forces to change their world and give them something better.

It’s been shared in many reviews that ‘My Justice’ has impacted the lives of all who’ve read it. They’ve been inspired to speak up, seek help, get involved. They’ve had their emotions and moral values challenged and outraged. They’ve felt in their hearts the need to become fierce protectors; watchers for children with an intense vigilance. They have seen and felt the inner depths of a silent child, woman, survivor who has spent her life waiting for someone to see into her world.

Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery is here to reach out and provide a support system, understanding, awareness, information, and other healing resources for anyone who has been touched by the acts of Relationship Violence, Child Abuse, Parental Abduction; even for those who suffer the added trauma of the emotional wounds from family abandonment and the many lasting effects of abuse and/or violence. We are building a new family with those who are much like ourselves in some way. We are becoming a new nation, a new generation creating a stand against the acts passed down through centuries of mankind’s existence.

I believe we all have faith in a greater power, which has influenced our lives. It is my belief that Greater Power, Creator Above; will bring those good graces to touch this new adventure; allowing me to change the impact of these horrific acts and the cycle that has touched the world of my own family. I also believe in ‘word of mouth support’ for any service or item you have to share with others. It is my faith in this that gives hope to my ability, to have ‘My Justice’ shared across the globe along with Butterfly Dreams to provide all with a grasp of hope in their world.

Here’s to the strength of our bonds and the best for our futures!!!

Believe in the magic of your dreams and allow your wings to carry you onward.

Sincerely,

Patricia A. McKnight                   Bookcvr1

Advocate/Author/Speaker/Talk Radio Producer & Host/Survivor

Founder: Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery

Founder: Survivors World online support group

Creator: Generation No More

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Imagine Publicity – “Holding My Hand Through Hell”

Susan Murphy Milano
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Susan Murphy-Milano’s Fabulous Virtual Book Tour!!!

Please check out her amazing true story in her new novel “Holding My Hand Through Hell” as published by Imagine Publicity and the wonderful Ms. Delilah Jones. This is a wonderful tribute to my very dear friend, a woman who changed my life forever as she guided me through the beginning of my journey.

You will be absolutely enthralled by Susan’s story, a cop’s daughter during a time when NO CASES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE WERE REPORTED OR HANDLED, EVEN RECOGNIZED FOR WHAT THEY WERE. This is the grass-roots of what built Susan to be the determined fighter of justice that she became. It is a true honor to share with all of you the wonderful tribute to an incredible woman,

Ms. Susan Murphy Milano

Thank you for all the guidance and protection you have given to millions of men and women, victims of Intimate Partner Violence!!!

Susan you will be greatly missed but always remembered!!

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Patricia A. McKnight

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“Get Out Of Your Own Way”….Dedicated to Susan Murphy-Milano….

“Dearest Susan, I can never thank you enough for what you inspired in me.”

Believe it or not up until two years ago I had no voice to speak of all the bad I had survived. As I started building my courage on the net, had published my story, and was creating a support group for women of abuse; it was then I had the awesome pleasure to become friends with a women who would change my life. She was spunky, strong, controversial when she spoke about her passion; creating guides and tools to help save lives and help victims of Intimate Partner Violence escape and stay safe.

Susan Murphy-Milano came into my life through the connection with a mutual friend. The first time I spoke with her was when she extended an invitation to her radio talk show “Time’s Up” broadcasted on Here Women Talk. We connected on the phone and since I was new at this, having only done one other interview at that time, I was instantly in AWE of this amazing woman. She was honest speaking, not sassy or extreme professional like others. She filled me with a strength to believe in myself and know that I had a very important story to be shared. She gave me courage to believe in my own ability to speak my voice clearly and be proud of what I’d been able to survive; rather than be ashamed of all the evil that had happened. She captivated me with absorbing all she had to say. I was honored she even took the time to connect with me at all.

As host on her show….. she welcomed me, made me comfortable, then started right in. She was geared to bring out the bad of what had happened, but also of how I finally gained the strength to get away. Susan was so awesome as a host in fact, she inspired me to be a investigative type host and get the points of information out there for everyone. Susan is a major mentor in all that I have become today!!!

Her Radio Show >>>>>PodCasts Here >>>> http://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/here-women-talk-times-up/id473824545

Not only is Susan all of this to me, but more importantly is what she is to others. She has made it her life’s passion to help victims of abusive/violent relationships to escape and stay safe. The books and tools she created to give a step by step guide of encouragement, empowerment, and life saving processes that anyone can follow to get out.

First out, is her book “Time’s Up: How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships”: This book is every victim’s best friend. It will take you through the process of evaluating your relationship, building your courage, making your plan, putting all the key parts together for you to break away and get out. It is the best gift a family member, friend, co-worker, or neighbor can give to someone whom they believe is being abused or controlled, intimidated or living with constant degradation to break them down and steal away the person living inside. If you know someone, and believe me most of us do, please have them get this book or get it for them. It is the most precious guide they can have and it will make a big difference in their outcome of life. Her other fabulously written guide to evaluate and work your way out; figuring out how to move on “Moving Out, Moving On” is another must read book for anyone trapped in this madness.

Follow this link to view her books at Imagine Publicity >>>> http://imaginepublicity.com/authorsbooks/susan-murphy-milanos-books/

Secondly, is a game changing tool she created for law enforcement and others who work in our safety resources and shelter systems. The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit is a crucial piece when it comes to extremely violent relationships. We’ve all heard of them; think about the horrifying screams you turned away from and ignored? Most often this type of extreme violence is from a man against a woman. It takes a lot of effort for a woman to inflict daily life threatening trauma and beatings against someone larger in body mass and muscle. These are the types of relationships the EAA was developed to defend against.

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and all of the details of how you and your service providing team can get CERTIFIED to process can be found at http://www.documenttheabuse.com You’ll find out all of the training information and how you can become a supporter of this vital tool. It is my hope that one day the laws will be passed to have this tool mandated to ALL law enforcement systems; ALL social services systems; ALL of those who provide rescue and resources to the many women seeking help to leave these types of relationships.

Most of these women believe, with good cause, that leaving equals death. If they stay they believe they can somehow tolerate the beatings, but a person can only carry so much and then they do something they regret; those are a growing number of women in our prisons. They stood up and fought back when there was no record of severe abuse and now they are sitting in prison. THIS TOOL IS THE DOCUMENTATION OF THAT EXTREME VIOLENCE!!! THIS TOOL CAN RECORD THE BRUISES AND SHOW THE FEAR YOU LIVE WITH EACH DAY!!! THIS CRUCIAL, MASTERFUL CREATION FROM SUSAN MURPHY-MILANO CAN SPEAK WHEN YOU HAVE NO VOICE, THIS TOOL CAN SPEAK FROM THE GRAVE!!!

Thirdly, is Susan’s excellently written, captivating story of her own life and what built the person; fighter for justice and life, she has become today. She gave me the opportunity to read this book and I was so bonded with the child she was and prayed that I too would find the courage she did to bust through the boulders trying to block her path as she grew. This woman has become all that she is today by never backing down and always pushing forward, making herself strive to develop the skills to safe lives and investigate those who had gone missing or been murdered at the hands of their chosen partner.

Check out the release of Susan’s own fight for justice and a life devoted to helping others. You will be sucked into this story and will walk this amazing path of courage; you will be inspired by her journey!!!

Newly Released, Susan’s personal battles of Intimate Violence are shared in the novel….”Holding My Hand Through Hell” – A fabulous must read story for all!!!

“Holding My Hand Through Hell”>>>>>http://www.icecubepress.com/wp-content/uploads/preorder-holding-my-hand-through-hell-susan-murphy-milano-ice-cube-press.jpg

Before I close I would like to share a few last thoughts with you about the subject of Intimate Partner Violence (Domestic Violence) as we commonly call it. October is the month we hope as advocates and survivors to bring special attention to this growing crime. It is a necessity to involve everyone in this mission to end violence in our society.

Let me first ask this……Aren’t we all human beings? Don’t we all, especially children, need love, friendship, a partner to depend on? Don’t we all need support and even help at times to get through the worst? Don’t we all deserve a bed to sleep in, food in our mouths, clothes on our backs? Don’t we all deserve to feel safe within the walls built to protect us from the cruelty of the world?

If you have children with this partner or living with a partner; How do you think the violence, abuse, degradation, verbal threats and more affects them? What do you think of when you know they hear the yelling, arguing, fighting? Have they seen you get pushed, thrown, kicked, punched, had food or laundry thrown at you? Have they heard your blood curdling screams for mercy, begging the offender to stop? Have they seen you get threatened with weapons or heard the growls of evil….”I’m going to fucking kill you all”?

How do you as a mother/father feel about the impact this violence is leaving on your children? How will they view the “Normal Healthy” relationships in their own lives? What kind of partner will they become to the one they love?

Fathers who are beating on Moms; How do you want your son to view women?

Mothers who are beating on Dads; What impressions are you giving your precious little princess?

Anyone who is in a violent/abusive relationship and has children, be informed now; The acts they see and hear in their homes leaves the deepest impressions on their lives?

Example and Personal Share:

When my youngest was in first grade I got a call one morning after a night filled with growling threats and beating. She had gone to her first grade teacher and crawled up on her lap; sobbing as she said, “My step-dad threatened to take the gun and shoot my Mommy and us kids too”!!!

This was my third child, youngest daughter, precious baby, and she was absolutely terrified of what might happen inside her house when the angry drunk came stumbling through the door. That call changed my life!!!

I hope that all of you have read through this blog. I hope even more so that you will think about what I’ve shared here, research the amazing books from Susan Murphy-Milano and please decide to change your life. No one deserves to be beaten and treated as if they were garbage. No one deserves to live in fear for their own life. No one deserves to feel like the next breath they take depends on the gun being put down, or praying the beater just walks away.

If you are involved with our justice systems or a shelter system, please ask them to seek the CERTIFICATION OF THE EVIDENTIARY ABUSE AFFIDAVIT!!!

Most importantly, if you are a family member, friend, neighbor; please do not turn away from the pounding of someone being thrown around or the horrifying screams of someone begging for mercy. Do yourself a favor, relieve your conscience and make the call for help – CALL 911

If we all get involved to end the violence that exists within our homes, it will have an impact on the violence that crawls into our streets. No longer can we pretend not to hear or notice when someone is being beaten and controlled by another, tormented or threatened; WE ALL MUST DO THE RIGHT THING!!!

For those in violent relationships or just getting out of one, let me pass on a few wise words from the outstanding woman whose made such a lifelong impression on my life.

You have a choice to make, you have to save your life. Rebuilding is never easy but it is sometimes necessary. Material things do not matter and it’s not worth giving your life to hold on to them. Let go of what’s been lost, let go of the “pity party” you feel inside, the only way to move forward is to do yourself one big favor……”Get Out Of Your Own Way and do what you have to do.”

Susan Murhpy-Milano, you are a mentor that taught me the great importance of getting on with my life and letting go of what had happened. I can never thank you enough, but hope you see just how much you mean to me and so many millions of others that you will never know. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and pray you will stay strong to over come all that threatens to keep you down.

You will find all of Susan’s lifesaving fabulous work by visiting her site through this link —— http://murphymilanojournal.blogspot.com/

(c)_Patricia A. McKnight

Advocate/Author/Speaker/Writer/Survivor