A note from the author: Hope, Courage, Change in our society

 

You see this bright blue eyed cutie; well I thought she was gone forever. I really thought they, my parents, had destroyed all that was wonderful about her. However, I feel her and she is right here with me always. She lives inside and still reminds me everyday; now I am safe, loved, and respected for the simple person I‘ve become. She is right there to guide me through and always brings joy to my heart. She has endured vicious and ugly wounding, but she is still very much alive. She has doubted herself constantly, felt truly unworthy of ever being accepted, and lost all hope of ever finding love. She has risen above their pain to laugh once again, to feel blessed once again, to shine those incredible blue eyes and pray that the world will hear her voice. Every time a survivor who has read her story, ‘My Justice’, she prays they find their one stand of hope to keep them going and know that they too matter; their pain is just as tragic but with patience and reconnecting with who they are, they too will shine as they deserve and live in all the beauty, just as they should have done before the dark storms of pain turned them inside out.

‘ My Justice is read by the hundreds of those who have the power and the contacts to pass it forward and let her story be told. One day she will be heard. One day her determination to change what has infected her family so horribly will be recognized for the evil it was back then. Its not about her rescue, for she has survived beyond all comprehension. Its not about being recognized, for she is definitely loved by many. Its not about the sadness she has carried, for the tears are all dry by the tender hands that hold her. It is about what this child has to share so that no child should suffer this horrendous pain ever again. It is about what this child has to say that just might change your thoughts, give you hope of a better tomorrow, and most of all to share the love she feels inside for all those who have endured the pains of harm and have themselves conquered the demons within to rise above and truly laugh in love‘s warm embrace.

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  If you have read her story, ‘My Justice‘; I pray for those still struggling, still trying to hang in there, still trying to conquer and escape that you will pass it forward to another. Let her voice be heard, let her justice be felt, as she has now removed the coal stained hand that crept into her world and took away her greatest weapon of protection, the hand that took away this precious child’s voice and silenced her in evil until one day the sun shined down on the person would once again breathe life into her soul. Thank you my friends for accepting and loving me in all my imperfect, but still so truly bright and shining ways.

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You will find ‘My Justice’ and various purchasing links by visiting www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery.com….

Pledge to become your “FAMILY DEFENDER” today!!! Thank you

 

Actress Tammy Fox gives praise for ‘My Justice’

     

 

My dearest friends, as I have shared with you many times before, there is just no way I can explain how my life has turned around. Just the people I am honored to call dear friends, the survivors & families who have touched my heart with words of support, and the many unexpected voices of those in film documentary, P.R. profession, education & therapy; advocates, organization leaders; all giving ‘My Justice’ outstanding reviews and support.

Here I would like to share the latest from one of these angels who I am honored to call a Warrior Sister & Friend

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My dear friends,
please say a prayer, send a note of encouragement, or whatever you have in you, to my dear friend Patricia A. Mcknight. If you have not heard/read her true story of struggling with being in a very, very bad situation, please do so. My Justice is a hard story to read, but it’s non-fiction and shows the strength and courage Patricia has to share her story in order to help others. Unfortunately, Patricia’s story is not the only one, she’s just the one I know who has come forward, not an easy thing to do at all.

The book, Soul Parole: Making Peace with My Mind, God and Myself, by
Tommy Connolly is a very good example of what true courage is about. If you read that story about drugs, addiction and beating the odds, you will feel the connection to My Justice by Patricia as well.

Patricia, like many of us, goes through struggles. The physical scares of her abuse are still showing, and she is trying to repair them, however it is the inner scares which are hardest to repair.

Again, please show your kindness and love to her. She’s an amazing woman.
Thank you, sincerely.

 A personal message:  I have read your book/story, from cover to cover and I must say, honestly, you are the bravest person I have ever known. It’s one thing to be brave on the streets as an officer, it’s quite another to be brave sharing the deepest parts of our soul and the feelings that come with being abused.

Today as many know I am Owner/CEO of Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery & Talk Radio Programming

If you or someone you know is having difficulty or is suffering in the destruction of these types of family violences & abuses, please visit http://www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery.com or listen to our shows at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/butterflydreamstalkradio

 

 

 

A simple spark to brighten your spirit ~~ enjoy always

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Hopefully you woke with a spark in your spirit that something you are focused on will indeed come through. We all need something to keep us going and inspire the drive to create something better for ourselves. What if we carried just a small consideration of that same drive to keep those around us safe from harm, all forms of harm. Not to shelter them from knowing the REAL world and pitfalls that trap us, but to keep them personally safe. It is one thing to experience a life skill, but being beaten or controlled, trapped & used as an object – this is not a harm which any living being should have to endure. We don’t allow it for our pets, our farm animals, so why in the world do we turn away when it is a child in our family circle? No more friends. You can choose to be a Family Defender, allow that bright new spark to guide you through. May you always know happiness everyday ❤

Help is always there!! If you have been harmed sexually or physically, please reach out and give yourself a chance to LIVE SAFE.

You are not trapped, there are resources to help you rebuild, recover, develop the skills you need to truly survive. Give those who need us a hand to help them through. Thank you ~~ Always believe anything is possible with you in the active equation ~~ trish

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Guess what’s in store for Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio

Friends, family, followers; we have some exciting news to share about the upcoming broadcasts on Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio!!! This blog will share all the new shows and our updates on the website, including our brand new online store where items you purchase fund our services as well as provide year end donations to other great organizations who are helping on a much larger scale. Be sure to browse through here to see who you know coming to our network!!

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First off some huge news for fans of RACHEL GRANT COACHING’

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Rachel is bringing her masterful skills in Sexual Abuse Recovery to the airwaves with the broadcast of ‘Real Talk with Rachel’ on Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio. Be sure to join in with her beginning her first show on January 14th – http://www.blogtalkradio.com/butterflydreamstalkradio/2014/01/15/real-talk-with-rachel-3-ways-to-build-a-strong-foundation-for-recovery

Rachel has an M.A. in Psychology Counseling and her expertise lies in helping survivors of sexual abuse find their inner peace, let go of the pain, and learn to live in their own true light. It is a huge honor to welcome her to the broadcasting team on our network. You will not be disappointed with her skills, gentle nature, and a keen understanding about the aftermath we carry. Be sure to click the link above to set your ‘REMINDER, LIKE & FOLLOW all of the programming.

Make no mistake we are one of the best on these issues broadcasting today. Our shows began after I had spent 10 months doing radio for another organization and then decided I wanted to create something truly special and bring many topics to our society for discussion, so began the creation of Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery & Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio. In our first year out we have reached a phenomenal 38,819 listens to our 158 broadcasts. How is that for a first year on air???

We are interested also in finding a male radio host , who has some background in research, press, and ready to bring the amazing male voice to share their perspective. Most definitely our shows are broadcasted to bring awareness, prevention and healing for Men & Women; Teens & Adults. However I truly believe that a male voice on our network would complete our circle of fabulous talent.

If you are interested in joining the team as a volunteer, either as a broadcasting host or as a social media assistant, send me over an email to butterflydreams@charter.net – be sure to tag ‘Host’ or ‘Volunteer’ in your subject line so that I can take a look at your information.

Trish continues to broadcast on Monday & Wednesday evenings. However our show on Monday; ‘A Family Affair’ is based on removing the taboo of these topics and empower our youth, broken parents, and society in general to finally get comfortable in speaking about these topics. In learning together about the trained human behaviors against our loved ones and our children which have been going on for centuries, we can begin to give a positive voice to our children. When we are comfortable learning about the Warning Signs of Sexual Abuse, Maltreatment, and Family Violence, then our children will feel more confident when speaking against the family who is harming them.

Yes, our children know that if a stranger attacks them it’s alright to make a police report and go to the hospital for a forensic exam, which is a process of collecting the evidence left behind by your perpetrator and used to gain justice in our court system. However, when it comes to those in our family, which in truth parents are 94.6% of all offenders when it comes to sexual mistreatment, physical and emotional cruelty, neglect and harassment of children. We teach them to tolerate the one who rapes and molests them; to accept the beatings because they are bad and deserve it; to laugh off the crude comments about being ‘stupid’ or ‘worthless’, ‘ugly’, ‘fat’, ‘lazy’, ‘useless’. We teach them to protect their attacker and remain silent about what really happens in their home. We teach them tolerance and acceptance which leads to dysfunction, self destructive behaviors, self harm, and self loathing for the acts they are forced to take part.

We Must Change This Now!!! Those of us who have endured these types of childhood attacks know the lifelong impacts of the imposed silence and tolerance. We know how we have gone decades hating ourselves and blaming ourselves, simply because that is what we were taught. We were not told that it wasn’t our fault, or that our rapist was a criminal, or that they had no right to burn us, use leather straps to beat us, or even sell us out to others. They were our parents and we were taught ‘Do not speak about the family ‘secrets’. Do not speak about the family dysfunction, the finances, or the cleanliness of our homes. Do not speak against those who are there to give you food, shelter, and clothing.’

To our younger generations, I am telling you today that these types of brutal crimes most certainly are not to be tolerated. It is not your fault they treat you in this manner. You absolutely have a HUMAN RIGHT to safety, especially in your own home.

For all victims of these crimes, please take note of the THREE EMERGENCY RESPONSE STEPS which I do hope you will follow and encourage your friends to follow through with if they have been attacked, even in their home.

1) IMMEDIATELY CALL YOUR 911 or OTHER EMERGENCY RESPONSE NUMBER FOR HELP & RESCUE

2) DO NOT SHOWER, DO NOT CHANGE CLOTHES – YOUR BODY IS EVIDENCE OF A CRIME. You will need a forensic exam to document the attack and collect the evidence to prosecute your attacker.

3) MAKE A POLICE REPORT!!! Our justice system cannot prosecute the offenders until we make a complete police report. I know its hard to imagine making a report against your family or parents, but the truth is the truth and often our parents can be the most dangerous people in the world for a child.

Think of what we force our children to tolerate and even to take part in  disgusting vile acts of sexual perversion, which many now broadcast through webcam or other service, while they charge money for others to watch. How can a parent do these acts and still expect to be protected from our justice system?

A parent loves and nurtures their child. A parent should guide and protect their children, not force them to do unspeakable acts of sadistic sexual perversion for the pleasure of others or for their own pleasure. We can no longer teach our children silence & tolerance. This will only allow the destruction of another generation of human beings and a continued acceptance, which could end up invading the lives of your own children later in life.

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A few special notesSmile

Michal Madison will be brining back her show ‘Creative Resilience’ which will broadcast once every month, so please watch for an event notice. Also, Dr. Brenda will be back with us again as a guest host, so we will be sharing an event reminder on this excellent show as well.

Well, I guess this takes care of this part of our news right now, but be sure to check back often or visit our website for more information and things you can do to help prevent these types of soul destructive abuses within our family circles. We can teach our children to believe in their value as human beings and stand up to be a voice for the rights of others.

Enjoy your week and hope you are ready for an exciting beginning to our New Year of Broadcasting on the Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio Network, a ‘FEATURED’ broadcast on the blog talk radio network.

Thanks much everyone, hope you pass it forward, become part of #RESOLUTION4CHANGEhttp://youtu.be/JU-c-3G1R_U

©Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery

Patricia A McKnight

Founder/CEO, Author, Advocate, Key Note Speaker, DV Reform Panelist

Authorhouse.com, Amazon, Barne’s & Nobel – get your copy of ‘My Justice’ an incredible FIVE STAR READ, which has reached collegiate levels for upcoming family therapists, counselors, educators. Compared to be as powerful and touching as ‘A Child Called It’ a New York Times Best Seller written by another amazing survivor, Mr. Dave Pelzer.

2013 in review

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Neighbors helping Neighbors in 2014 Resolution for Change

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018 Patricia ‘Trish’ McKnight

Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery

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Resolution for Change!!

After the Christmas holiday and now things are looking into the New Year, 2014 is quickly approaching. Have you given though to your New Year’s Resolution? You know, those list we make out every year and hope to achieve completing at least one of them.

This year I am asking you to think about a different type of resolution. A resolution that is not just a good way to help yourself, but also a great way to help your neighbors and empower your community teen involvement. In our environment, be it an apartment complex or a community neighborhood, we may not want to admit there is a problem with any type of abuse or violence within our homes and our family unit, but during the holiday gathering you just might have been triggered by something which made you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

Maybe you have a memory of something that happened to you? Perhaps you have seen rage or violence break out during family gatherings or you saw something against another person in your circle? Maybe you heard fights or even cries for help in a neighbors house?

There are many generations of families, which have been trained into the acceptance and tolerance of cruel actions from others within our family. Yes some of these actions are to be expected within this unit; however, when it comes to getting attacked in some physically violent way or being sexually assaulted or touched without giving your approval; these are things which we do not have to tolerate. We can change the teaching we have accepted throughout centuries and begin to teach our children to respect, not only their own rights to be safe & feel safe, but also for the rights of others. We can empower them to follow the moral decency and inspire kindness among their peers.

When we teach our children to look out for their friends at school and whom they socialize with, we are able to empower them with confidence and a sense of community pride. They begin to feel as if they are part of something, that something is the better safer world we want to give them tomorrow.

Please talk with your children, age appropriately but openly, about the actions of violence within the family unit and inappropriate sexual contact. Teach them to watch out for their senior neighbors who may need help or emergency assistance. Teach them to watch out for younger children out playing in their yards or in our community parks; at school events, sports activities. Teaching them to keep their eyes open and be ready to intervene in some way. It is by talking about these actions which most often happen in secret; behind the closed doors of our own homes and in the houses of our neighbors, being honest with our children today is the best way to teach them about defending their own rights as human beings and protecting themselves no matter who may be harming them or someone they know.

As a radio host & crisis/peer support advocate; I’ve talked with hundreds who have endured severe sexual violence and physical battery in their homes, by members of their family. We know by the reports reflected by our National Child Abuse and Neglect Data Systems collected from every account, that most often parents are the offenders of child maltreatment. We also know from reports that Domestic Violence is perpetrated by both male & female offenders. We know that the offenders of these types of crimes are only protected by the forced silence within our taught family unit to tolerate and see past these crimes. However, when the victim is old enough, ready to face the dark secrets of crimes committed against them, that might seriously have impacted their lives with the after effect of trauma; these victims will eventually speak out to some person. It may be a therapist or counselor, it may be law or another family member, but they will speak out. You can begin to tell the offenders in our community that only secrets protect them from being prosecuted, so when someone reports the crimes they will indeed have to pay the price for the harm they have caused.

I would not want to be the one who allowed a sexual predator around my children, or other children, to be later held accountable for never reporting the crime and for the harm caused to the child from forced and unacceptable sexual contact.

Think about your New Year’s Resolution and how we can begin to change the past and mend our family unit. It is love that binds a family together and that love should not be destroyed by the secrets of harm we have been taught to ignore. Be the beginning of change in your family and make a different kind of new year’s resolution this year.

 
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Patricia ‘Trish’ McKnight
Breese, Il
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Survivor

Founder/CEO

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