Head Trauma; Disability from Violence

Many times in a person’s life they may come across another person who is violent to the extreme. Sadly they end up with ongoing physical, maybe neurological, difficulties with their health from that moment in time. Reading this might cause some triggering, ‘bad emotional response; anger, anxiety, sadness, pain). However I do feel that what I’m discussing here is more critical for you to know than to ignore because of possible negative response. Please do take the time to read, share, respond. This is our ongoing multitude of issues revolving around our history of tolerating personal violence inside our homes, which simply ‘trains’ our children to tolerate this in their life, affecting their children, who then accept their own level of suffering in their life, which then affects their children and so on, etc……..

Our topic of Head Trauma from Violence can be viewed as the same information provided for the football players in repeated concussions. The biggest difference, the football player has a helmet and body pads. Inside a home of violence however, you never know when things might go extreme and if you are a child, to have a person twice your size and maybe 3x your weight; the end result can most definitely be death or lingering physical or neurological issues from the trauma.

We, our ‘decent’ human society, often feels as if this subject matter is being discussed to either get pity for things they have already survived or climbed above, or it is considered to be ‘Too Intense’ for common conversation. How about the fact that most of us know someone who is being violently or sexually attacked on a regular basis, or at least once in their lifetime anyway. The length of time a person endures these traumatic experiences depends on a few specifics;

    • How old are they? – Do they have the ability of age to speak up, get help, drive a car; get away, or work to support themselves?
    • What is their level of tolerance learned? – How long have they been living in this pattern of accepting violence?
    • What is their perception of self? Do they feel they deserve this type of treatment? Do they believe they can survive to pay their own way through life without someone who hurts them verbally/physically/sexually?
    • Do they have a close friend to talk to or who will get them help when needed; hopefully medical help and a police report?

This constant level of extreme violence, which quite often involves threats with weapons, use of weapons, threats of death or sudden violent attacks without cause of anger. This happens more often when people on are heavy types of illicit drugs such as Meth or even heavy drinking. I personally know a lot of people who are affected by drinking Whiskey or Tequila. Drinking, rather it is wine or whiskey is a very common act which happens in almost every household. This is something our kids learn as social behavior and many of them in our inner city or urban areas see drastic levels of drug or alcohol use on a regular basis. This is not to leave out our rural or rich society, because it most definitely is a staple of coping life in their homes as well.

Since I’ve worked much of my life as a bartender, (an excellent backup skill to always have an income); also I grew up in an alcoholic and drug enticing environment; I’ve seen people under the influence on different levels of drinking or illicit drugs. In this type of human acceptance of drinking and the BAR environment; I’ve seen first hand how alcohol has the greatest negative response for many people. They are trying to cope with the struggles of their life, maybe past trauma, but instead of finding a peaceful place they find an angry place. This will cause many family arguments, many of those simply because someone was in eyesight so they end up getting attacked. Violence is an instant reaction caused by someone who has reached their angry place inside. The choice to act against another person can be triggered by conversation, being in a difficult environment, around people they feel are a threat to their identity, or from the chemical reaction of the alcohol itself. 

The violence usually begins on a verbal foundation, suddenly a rage in the person’s reactions; slamming a fist on the table or couch, stomping their foot, throwing an item, or suddenly grabbing the person who is closest to them. The violence can quickly become intensely dangerous, which results in kicking, punching, strangulation, or by slamming the person’s head against a solid surface. This is when it becomes most life threatening and could cause a lasting trauma within the brain itself from possible bruising on the brain, just like what happens in the concussion injury of our major NFL Players or the controversial high school football when they begin to get more physically developed to cause an injury.

Myself, I lost count of how many times I was actually knocked out or had my head bashed against a solid surface in a violent attack. I’ve been slammed repeatedly against dashboards, windows, mirrors, stoves, refrigerators, doors, walls, even a huge tree slab that was meant to be a table top about eight inches thick. There was NEVER any type of medical follow up to confirm a concussion, especially during my childhood. No way could my parents risk taking me to the doctor and having my leather strap lashes and bashed up head examined; the state would have taken their family slave immediately. This is why most people in a violent home rarely receive the necessary medical treatment. I’ve had cracked or broken ribs, couldn’t move or breathe well for weeks. I’ve had both collar bones broken at the end from having my shoulder area smashed against a wall or stomped on while being kicked in the head.

Today, in my mid 50’s, there are a lot of chronic pain issues from injuries. There is also the Fibromyalgia from living in a constantly high stress environment. Our medical community have confirmed that Fibromyalgia ‘can be directly connected to the Fight or Flight Response’. Our human system is designed to enhance our adrenaline and heightened response to threat. However, if you cannot change your situation and cannot avoid being harmed, your body’s reaction to stress becomes confused. Your nerve endings go into an intense reaction from the heightened response, yet you are physically not able to do anything to get away; this causes a ‘trained’ intense neurological response to any sense of ‘threat’ and becomes a cramping, burning and intense pain in the upper body, pressure builds up in your forearms and calves, then shoots down into your fingers and feet as if they are on fire. I’ve found that Lyrica is the best medication for this type of pain, but Coping Skills must be used to calm your intense reaction so that your body & adrenaline response also calm, which then loosens the muscle contraction and burning sensation. Fibromyalgia is commonly found in those with Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. It is also found more in women, but I believe that men have not yet been fully examined in this research as they are just beginning to seek out help when in a violent relationship. Fibromyalgia is also found in those who have been in a threatening situation for a long period of time.

These are just a few lasting injuries from violent trauma, which are directly linked to possible ongoing disabling and chronic results which impact our nation’s healthcare system. Since many of us are harmed as children, we tend to accept a certain level of violent (verbal, physical, sexual) depending on what you lived through during your formidable years. It’s important to consider the types of influence on our growing deficit as well. The cost of those who cannot work for their independent survival income, either because of physical or emotional injury from violence and abusive actions; these millions of persons become a national responsibility, which we all know is already crippled, bankrupt, and out of control.

However, if we are trained to spot the WARNING SIGNS OF TRAUMA & VIOLENCE, as given from many reputable organizations who are experts on these traumas. I have also developed a presentation which connects all factors of violence, sexual trauma, and the result of what can become human trafficking or exploitation. A View from the Inside’ is available for viewing but is copyright research which has taken about three years to put together in the total connection of what can become the most dangerous place in the world; the connection of ‘Family Violence & Human Trafficking’. This is a crucial topic in our society and should be a priority topic for all of our elected officials and our service providers, regardless if you are a neighbor, family member, educator, law enforcement, or healthcare professional. You NEED to know what are those unspoken signs of trauma?

According to this attached article & graphic from American Academy of Physical Medicine & Rehabilitation, there is a very strong correlation between Adverse Childhood Experience, especially in those who score between a 4 to 8 on the counted scale of what you endured. The higher your score on the ACE Study creates a 95% greater risk of early disability, which can become a complete dependency on Social Security Income & Medicare/Medicaid for ongoing health related challenges.

In closing, think of Shaken Baby Syndrome, if we consider how detrimental to natural development is interrupted by shaking a baby, causing their brain to bounce off the skull, then what is also the cognitive and lasting affect after concussion or bashing a teen or adult head repeatedly for an extended period of time? This is something I am researching now as I focus on the growing impact of violence in our society, especially in family violence with rarely any type of medical attention received. Most of the injuries go unreported as a whole, and the victims are taught to ‘simply walk it off’ type of conditioning to tolerance. We cannot end the travesty in our society of street violence or school violence, until we tackle the growing pandemic of ‘Family Related Violence & Trauma’.

Thanks for reading and I do hope you will help share this crucial information. When we can provide needed medical help, we reduce the possibility of permanent injury and in the end also reduce the high risk of injury and early disabling conditions.

Something to think about…..

Patricia “Trish’’ McKnight

CSA Survivor Force Regional Spokesperson

Family Violence & Child Sexual Trauma Specialist

Cert Human Trafficking Trainer 2013

IL Cert DV Support Advocate 2012

Panel Member DV Offender Education Reform Program

Assisting victims & families since Nov 2010

 

 

Ref:

1) National Institute of Health, Pain Treatment Research, Article 2011; 2012 Manuel Martinez-Lavin

2) Copyright © 2014 American Academy of Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation. Published by Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved. PMID:24486921 [PubMed – indexed for MEDLINE] PMCID:PMC4306581

3) Types of Abuses & Warning Signs: Patricia A McKnight, Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery (Child Abuse Warning Signs & Relationship Violence Red Flags) Pub 2012 ©

4) ‘A View from the Inside – Family Crimes & Human Trafficking’ © Patricia A McKnight 2015

Dear Mr. President…..I am a Child Sex Trafficking Survivor

Attn; Mr. President Obama                                            Sept 30, 2014

The White House                                                               Patricia A. McKnight

1600 Pennsylvania Avenue NW                                   

Washington, DC 20500 62230

 

Dear Mr. President,

Permit me a few moments of your precious time, first to give my support for the policies you have implemented throughout your terms in Presidency and your continued drive to be the President who provides a true change in our society. This being said Sir, I would like to personally thank you for your recognition of Human Trafficking Awareness & Prevention; also in assuring our justice systems hold these monsters accountable in strict punishments.

I am an Adult Child Sex Trafficking survivor, where the many years of endured suffering and vicious, disgusting attacks, were committed by those entrusted with my care; my mother & stepfather. You see sir, I grew up in the small Southwestern Illinois town of Freeburg during 1970’s. I was five when they first married and I instantly became his property. My mother had given me to him, much the same as giving him any sort of object. For the next 12 years I was his to do with as he pleased and it didn’t end until I left home at 17, but even then he continued to stalk his prey like a lion.

Freeburg was a small town of about 1500 citizens at the time I lived there, which was from 1972 until 1981. Our family always lived in the center of town and my older brother, younger sister, and myself all attended the Freeburg Public School System. Throughout my many years in expected family slavery, even to the point of answering the ring of their little brass bell; there were many witnesses and those who took part in his vile public exploitation and trafficking of the young girl I used to be. I have gone decades trying to heal, change, and erase the person my parents created, but these dark wounds leave a lasting impression and this passes on through dysfunctional parenting in our children’s lives.

The trafficking itself started at about age 11 and lasted for six long years. This included parties at our house with me given as the prize. These late night parties included many of the adult men he worked with; husbands married to my mother’s friends, but she simply walked into her bedroom and closed the door on her pleading child. There were also weekend parties with schoolmates, teen boys lured in with alcohol and marijuana, and of course the young girl as the party favor. Many of these boys knew me, they saw me in school everyday, but they were the sons who were never allowed to date me for fear of being condemned by the entire community. By the time I was 13, the village of Freeburg had given a tag name for me which I cannot repeat in this letter for you.

The most difficult for me to process in my years of recovery, was the complete abandonment by the entire system which should have said something to protect me at some point. The many neighbors & family friends who knew of the evil within my family home, yet despite the severe scarring neglect of filth and infection of sores which covered my body and the broken black fanged teeth covered with plaque from never being given a toothbrush or any form of medical or dental care; still there was not a single person who felt it necessary to make a call for help on my behalf. I still carry the physical and emotional scars today from all the evil that was my daily existence.

The life I lived in my childhood made a huge impact in what I deemed was my self worth and what I continued to tolerate in my adult life, the pattern of self destruction and tolerating almost deadly beatings from the boyfriends and husbands to follow for over the next 20 years; all because I didn’t believe that anyone would ever care or that any service would have helped me and my children rebuild our lives. My life was like no other; it was a life I begged God to end for decades. The greatest regret I carry today is that I didn’t get the help I needed to recover from all these traumas early enough to prevent the home filled with violence from invading my children’s lives. This is how the cycle continues as the emotional dysfunctions in harmed parents then passes on into their children’s lives; then their grandchildren. Sir, there are millions out there like me, today we are finally finding the courage to speak up  about the many painful abuses which are often tolerated within the family unit. Sadly when our society silences the survivors of these abuses, we continue to teach silence of these crimes to our children; leaving them to protect their family abuser and live without hope of support, healing, and recovery, thus impacting the lives of yet another generation of human beings in pain and dysfunction.

Your work Mr. President & the ongoing mission in providing resources, support, awareness and prevention strategies is the greatest reward possible for our next generation. These past ten years I’ve finally been safe, but in the aftermath of all those committed acts I am  left with permanent disabling injuries to my spine, constant migraines, dysfunction in my hands, feet, and entire chronic body pain. It saddens me to know I did all of the hard work to rebuild a life with my children and provide them an example of a safe loving home; a home with the four of us working together in learning to live a life without harm. I also held a sustainable career in the business field and graduated valedictorian which permitted me to support their needs and buy a home we could call ours. Tragic as it may be, these past five years I have been forced to give it all up and accept a life on Medicare as a direct result of all the endured trauma; however there is no one held responsible for the growing cost of my care or the expensive medications to ease the pain.

My greatest accomplishments in my healing and continued efforts to help others include many training sessions in Sexual Assault, Interpersonal/Family Violence, testing to be a Human Trafficking Awareness Trainer, achieved my 40hr Domestic Violence Advocate Training, and did two years of a featured web based talk radio program discussing these issues and providing self help tools to assist others. I’ve personally coached/mentored more than 100 persons who endured many of the same vicious types of abuses, some trafficking survivors like myself. I’ve published a brief look into my life in the title, ‘My Justice’ which has been used as a teaching guide at La Sierra University in California and have received many outstanding reviews from amazing readers around the world and human services advocates. I have also been invited to be part of the FBI Southwestern Illinois Partnership Providers Against Human Trafficking and a base member in re-establishing the Illinois Victims Assistance Network; also to include many speaking engagements in awareness & prevention of the crimes which are often tolerated inside the family unit.

Please keep up your efforts Mr. President and know how important they are. I cannot tell you enough just how many lives will be saved as a result. I pray we are able to provide Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Education in every small school system & law enforcement agency across the country and make sure to penalize any person who takes part in or watches/hears these attacks against any other person and refuses to make that call for help. It is the duty of every responsible adult to report these types of crimes and only these strong measures will empower every person to believe there is help, they can live safe, and that no one is ever abandoned in such evil existence again.

In closing Mr. President, thank you for your drive & mission to help create the beginning change in our society. I will support these efforts no matter which office you may hold when this term is completed. In the deepest respect,  I will keep you and your amazing example of an incredible family in my prayers. One day I truly have to believe that we can provide a unit of resources for every family who has a person suffering in some form of bullying, abuse, violence and the most evil of all; the sex trafficking of our children by those entrusted with their care. Not one single being should ever know this pain or carry the horrific & terrifying memories of these acts.

In Respect & Support,

Sincerely,

Patricia A McKnight

Breese, Clinton County, Illinois

Author: ‘My Justice’

Advocate/Human Trafficking Awareness Trainer

Founder: Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery

Its a ‘Family Defender’ Campaign from Butterfly Dreams!!

BioPic3.png          Patricia A. McKnight

Author/Advocate/Speaker/Radio Host/Survivor

Owner/CEO – Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery & Talk Radio Programming

 

Its really wonderful to wake early in the morning and have the very quiet, bird chirping, sun rising time to myself. Its like an injection of life. This quiet time of morning is when my senses are most heightened as a writer. This flow of energy also drives me to become an activist and no longer the person who just thinks about doing something; the person who is right there; confused perhaps but willing to begin helping the process of change. This is where I come to you for help, advice, guidance, conviction in what I’m sharing. So hopefully,  you’ll read on a bit then give it some thought. If this article in anyway makes you believe there is a way to begin changing what the past has lead us to today, then please pass it on to just one friend and let’s get this party started!! Thanks much ~~

‘ Always believe anything is possible with you in the ACTIVE equation’ ~~ trish mcknight

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Throughout these past four years now I’ve been networking and connecting with other resources of help. Thankfully I’ve found many across the country here in the U.S. but also in many other parts of the world who are speaking out, supporting survivors, providing ways in which studies can be conducted, reports published and voices discussing the deep impact of trauma left in the aftermath of those who’ve endured continuously dysfunctional, deviate or harmful attacks. Think of the perceptions of life you would develop and the behaviors you would pass on to your kids. You may know a young parent dealing with this today.

In having the Butterfly Dreams Talk Radio Network, we have talked with hundreds who’ve been interviewed by myself and other hosts.  All of these person’s have shared the path of self destruction from these types of personal trauma. Keep in mind that most often it is so extreme and so habitual that it is because of a need to survive this person’s wires would automatically adapt to the environment and the behavior of those around them. As once one of these victims I can say that the worst possible part of all those years growing up in pure evil; not one other single adult who had the ability and the training to notice the severe neglect; all those who knew about the trafficking, and those who were close family friends who witnessed it all or heard all the stories shared over the kitchen table about the parties with ‘Trecia Ann’, there were many who knew but not one of these person’s felt that I mattered enough to protect or help in some  way. This is extreme societal abandonment & judgment of a child.

How many children do we have living in this type of life pattern at this very moment? If you think real hard about things you see and the behaviors of others around you, there is a very good chance that you know someone who is trying to pretend nothing horrible is going on.

We can not accept that one more child be abandoned to live in their nightmare. I believe our duty is to educate and continue to discuss how the repeated patterns within our family occur. It becomes our ‘NORMAL’, the constant harm is how we see the world and we don’t expect things to change, yet we somehow know inside that its wrong. The victim grows and their behaviors are often a repeated pattern from what they endured, so this all gets passed on generation after generation. I’m witnessing today how it all impacted the lives of my children and grandchildren. We know that as we become adults it all has to change, it must end somewhere for us or we will surely explode. This is probably where all the psycho serial killers begin.

What if we tried something NEW???

We have been accepting and discussing many changes in our human society. Acceptance, ending bullying & school violence is at the top of everyone’s list. Here is our chance to influence a better way for our children. We can teach the new generation a better way, just as we have already begun to do in many communities around the world; influence a more humane and protective way to view the world around them. Think of the influence it would make if you were to stand up to your family members, not in a rage over what has happened in the past, but instead what you will not allow to happen today. Tell them you have learned what harm occurs to a child’s development when left to grow up in pain and having to keep dirty little secrets. We know what it feels like to be so isolated in the control of your household monster. We have already been there and we will not be quiet while it all continues to happen and destroy another generation; especially when it comes to your own children.

Choose to tell your friends about the choice you made and how you want to make sure we are watching out for all the kids in our circle. Today you choose change. You are your ‘FAMILY DEFENDER’!!

What is a ‘FAMILY DEFENDER’ and how do you become one?

Visit our website at www.butterflydreamsabuserecovery.com . Please scroll to near the bottom of the page, you will find a contract; ‘BECOME YOUR FAMILY DEFENDER’.On this contract you are providing your signature and making a commitment to change; to be brave enough to end the repeated pattern of harm which occurs in our homes, floods into our streets and is destroying the SAFETY of our children in their schools. Our kids are being bombarded everyday with all types of criminal and deviate behaviors, look on the net and you will see the world our children live in. I’ve seen Youtube displays of torture and explicit sexual contact between our children and adults.

Think about the fact we all only have Six Degrees of Separation between any one person. This means someone knows that child. Someone knows these adults. Someone out there may even suspect or have been a victim of these same adults previously. Someone Knows!!

This is a sincere plea to all those persons who follow my writings about these topics and for the many thousands who support, share and like what is being done through our team at Butterfly Dreams. You can meet each of them by visiting our website, where you’ll also find their links. Take a look at our incredible Board Members, which we are grateful for the outstanding persons they are in their special arena. Review the local training & active support ‘Trish’ is building within her own small community. These are amazing resources, which have the ability to reach out further and encourage our society to take the ‘Family Defender’ pledge. This is a state of mind and if we are going to live in a world of freedom for all person’s then we must provide the tools and commitment to protect those who do not have a voice; those who are forced to live in what are the presumed innocent behaviors within our family unit.

If you’ve read this article and feel you are ready to begin change in your own circle, please visit our website and make the choice today, TAKE THE PLEDGE & BECOME YOUR OWN FAMILY DEFENDER!!

You hold the power of change in your hands, you can create its path and influence its growth. What pattern of human behaviors do you want to teach?

Here are some excellent resource links to share what our FBI VICTIMS ASSISTANCE, COMMUNITY OUTREACH, VIOLENT CRIMES AGAINST CHILDREN, and TRAFFICKING OF MINORS divisions are doing across the country. Also a link for you to learn your VICTIMS RIGHTS, no matter what type of crime is committed against you. These are your constitutional rights under national law in the United States. You can have these rights enforced for any criminal actions committed against you, even Identity Fraud, Online Bullying, and other such acts.

Here in Clinton County, Illinois I am continually reaching out to let people know who I am, what I do and why I make the choice to be active against these horrific violent acts against own family members; worst of all being the continuous behaviors of tolerance and victim abandonment. Will you decide to support & protect those who are unable to speak up, fight back, or protect themselves from their household monster? Begin an active change for our decent human morality and begin with the attached pledge. I do hope those hundreds of members in our Talk Radio Group and the thousands on my friends list will help us out here. Please be brave enough to tell the monsters ‘NO’.

Take the pledge to become your FAMILY DEFENDER.

Thank you

May you always be safe & live strong

Patricia ‘Trish’ McKnight

Contact me direct by emailing: butterflydreamsteam@live.com

In case someone you know is being harmed right now, please contact 911 or your local emergency response. Make the right choice!!!

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