As a final last ditch effort, our capital officials are discussing the pending Fiscal Cliff. There is no doubt that we will all see huge cuts across the board and it will hit each of us personally. You may have seen the news this morning about the call to discuss these issues by President Obama. Not only do we face the personal tax increase, but the other half of these discussions will cut spending allowances for Family and Youth Services; agencies, centers, shelters, these will all be impacted by what happens next.
It has been a pattern in our government cuts to hit those services who provide help, shelter, support and life rebuilding skills for those escaping abuse, violence, trafficking. As if these services aren’t already in dire need of revamping and accountability?
Our growing population, the need for housing, the economic break down we are already facing; all of this causes stress and rage within our family unit.
Most common you find two factors that will trigger violence and abuse within our homes.
1) Need for power over another
Advocates, agencies, social services who deal with victims of abuse and violence hear the stories every day.
A) He’s just angry because there’s no work and no money
B) The drinking has increased because of no money and the rage increases as a result.
C) It’s hard to deal with work and the kids always wanting or needing something.
D) I was overwhelmed and had an emotional break down, which led to my burst of violence.
As our government funded resources are cut and our own pockets feel the impact, there will be a greater need to help and provide support for our family members and friends who are dealing with an already difficult situation. Please open your eyes, listen with your gut and be strong enough to offer a source of hope and help to an abused, controlled, terrified victim.
Last year I became acquainted with two women who were making great strides in forcing centers/shelters to provide accountability for their services rendered and the decisions that impact these victims. Maria DiBari, head of Tri county Crisis Center and Alexis Moore, Founder & President of Survivors in Action; are on a strong mission to bring the use of government funds to these organizations in review. It was more than one service/center/shelter, who’s leadership was receiving a Six Figure Salary while victims were being turned away and sent searching for help.
Check out the amazing articles written, posted, shared by DVReform.org
As an advocate I’ve come across more than one or two who I’ve spent countless hours of internet searching, phone calls to agencies, and reaching across the net to other acquaintances/advocates to locate helpful resources for a victim. When the situation involved a child I was told they needed proof before they could act. When it was a woman, there was more than one who had to relocate, some two hours away and others into another state before we could find help. When men have come to me most often they are stared down, made to feel like animals, continuously turned away and denied assistance at all. There have been many victims who I’ve had to personally chat with, talk with, be the supporter and the guide as we work through escape, help, recovery, and rebuilding.
It is terrifying when I think of the explosion to come!!!
We must all make a decision to step up and help each other through. We must make a call to help rescue ANY CHILD in danger. We must offer a supportive shoulder or a helping hand to our family members and friends. Each of us knows a least one family in our circle who are presently living in an abusive or violent situation. We may not want to consider it our business, or even acknowledge that it is happening, but do you want to be the one to wake one morning and find out the someone you thought might be in danger has been beaten, raped, threatened with death, or MURDERED!!??
How abusive or violent does our society have to become before responsible adults start responding and helping as we protect those around us?
When the cuts come down the line, our society needs to react by helping each other. We must insist on services being provided to protect ALL CHILDREN AND VICTIMS. It is a time when the leaders, officials, law makers, and protectors should all be held accountable for their decisions and the salaries they receive vs. the help they provide.
As an advocate, I implore everyone who reads this to consider how this will effect our communities and the services already overwhelmed with victims. How can we, as a human society, ensure that we pass on a better world to our children? We must first give a crap about what is happening in the homes around us today and who is living in the midst of a nightmare.
Working together for the protection of all mankind is the only way we can change the path of our society. It is the only way we can teach our children how to respect another rather than bully over them or use weapons of deadly violence against them. Do you see what I see when you look around in your own community and what’s happening on our streets, within our schools, and unfortunately what starts out in our homes?
There is no way to help them all and protect everyone from another’s violence or disgusting actions; this is indeed a horrible truth. What do you think will happen in our society as funds are continually cut and leader salaries outweigh services; this is the question that scares me the most.
All the efforts from advocates I’ve encountered in these past two years have started a new wave across our globe. Now we are faced with another horrifying blow as our family economic unit is sure to be hit even harder.
I truly believe that only by stepping forward and caring about one another, especially our children, will we ever be able to change our path of human destruction. Let’s go back to when a stranger was offered help instead of being ignored as they starved. Let’s remember what it was like when one human being cared about the safety and well being of another. These are the basics we have lost.
In close, I hope this at least sparks some thought about those around you or maybe even your own situation. I hope in some way it reaches into your soul and begs you to rise into action. I pray that instead of continuing in the materialistic, self-centered actions, that have been a growing pattern in our society; that we can all find some way to see what we have lost and work together and bring back hope and inspiration of building better within our homes.
Every soul deserves a chance to live. Every human being deserves a safe place to lay down their head. Every child should be protected from the dark actions of another. Every breath we are given should be a chance to build our dreams without destroying the life of another.
Hope for building a safer world to guide our next generation!!! It is vital for us to see what happens behind the doors of our homes and within the centers meant to provide us help!!!
Another great site: Sanctuary for the Abused – talk about a hard look at what’s already been happening with our government funds and now to think of how bad it will get in the days to come.
©Patricia A. McKnight
Dec. 28, 2012
Advocate/Author/Speaker/Talk Radio Host & Prod/Survivor
Founder: Butterfly Dreams Abuse Recovery
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